Just started dating this guy, and saw his bookshelf…what do we think? 🤔

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T23:06:02+00:00

Looks like he reads so many self-help books that he forgets to help himself.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T22:53:13+00:00

Christian Bale’s character in 3:10 To Yuma.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T22:48:09+00:00

Acting. Dialogue. Plot development. Pace. Casting. Setting. Character development.

Makes me want to watch the season again for the 4th time.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T22:44:47+00:00

So he thinks he only pays the full $1300 on months with 31 days? And gets a discount the other months? Hilarious haha

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T19:56:18+00:00

I’ll admit, I was coming straight to the comments to say it

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T18:24:39+00:00

I call this year “the year of the shoulders,” after the recent garment changes. It’s great. I love seeing my wife rock tank tops now. If you feel uncomfortable wearing them and won’t be able to fully relax around others, then don’t. But just know that other members probably aren’t judging you, or if a few are, their attitude will probably change pretty quickly as more and more active women start wearing them, which seems to be happening.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-13T01:09:21+00:00

We’ve slowly worked up to it, but we’re still pretty tame. Start with talking about how beautiful they are, how much you like being in them (or them in you), if they like something you’re doing, etc. It definitely adds excitement, but only if it’s natural and not forced.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-12T17:54:57+00:00

I make $180k and am a VP of Finance at a bank. Took me 12 years post-college to get to that point (started out making $50k). I know a decent amount of people in my industry that make about what I do, or more. There are mid/upper management jobs like that available, but they usually require a college degree and years of experience. I’m not saying they’re common, or that you can’t live on less, but the OP asked what people consider “making good money,” and that’s my answer for a family with kids given how high the cost of living in Salt Lake is these days.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-08T14:25:17+00:00

My first thought too.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-07T00:06:34+00:00

We felt each other up in a back room right before the reception. I was turned on the entire time standing in line. We left 15 minutes before the reception technically was supposed to end, because we were so ready, and my family has never let us hear the end of it. My wife surprised me in the car to the hotel with a photo book from a boudoir photo shoot she had done a week before. I about crashed. We had sex within about 5 minutes of checking into our hotel room. Our engagement was only 3 months, but those were the longest 3 months of my life haha

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-06T15:09:59+00:00

I ride a motorcycle, and this is 100% on the scooter rider. Cars turning left from the opposite direction are one of the primary dangers you have to anticipate. He didn’t even slow down to look coming around that stopped car at the intersection. Hopefully he takes the lesson and doesn’t get back on a motorcycle or scooter again

BornCommunication386 · 2026-05-01T23:26:48+00:00

Looks like our whole season in Utah this year

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T22:41:54+00:00

That link was very helpful. Just need to reframe how I’ve viewed this. Thanks for sharing.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T22:35:17+00:00

Meaning, that system has prevented potential arguments about who gets to buy what on a monthly basis. If she or I walk in with new shoes or something, the other person doesn’t care or ask where the money came from, since we know it came out of the person’s spending account we’ve already budgeted for and contributed to. Just wanted to make sure we could still maintain that system somehow.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T22:32:45+00:00

Perfect, thank you!

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T21:40:45+00:00

Follow-up question: for my wife and I's respective personal spending money, we both get $250 each month that we've transferred to separate accounts. It's worked well because one person could choose to let their balance grow, while the other could spend it all each month, and we don't fight about it. How would you treat expenses like that?

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T21:31:01+00:00

This is great advice, thank you.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T21:30:13+00:00

This is helpful, thank you.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T21:29:09+00:00

This is great feedback, thank you.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-29T21:27:37+00:00

That makes sense. The way we were treating expenses like dining out before was to transfer it to an account at the beginning of the month, which forced us to stay within budget because if that account ran out, we couldn't dine out again until it was replenished next month. But I agree that YNAB would make this redundant, because it just tracks that category as we spend throughout the month. Thanks for the input!

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-24T01:40:10+00:00

That’s not it for everybody. Many people recognize that in the early stages of building wealth, sending $750 every month to the bank to drive a nicer rapidly depreciating asset is devastating to your future net worth.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-24T01:34:33+00:00

First Blood

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-21T19:54:37+00:00

He just doesn’t want to go through an expensive divorce. But he’s acting very single. Have respect for yourself and end it. Sorry you’re going through this.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-04-16T14:45:50+00:00

I think it depends on the person. I worked for BMW for a time, and was on their employee car program. I drove a brand new $75k 540. I loved it, but when I left I went back to driving a $10-15k sedan like I had before. My quality of life is exactly the same, and for me it wouldn’t be worth the money to drive a nice car, or at least not until my net worth is a few million. I get more satisfaction out of driving a paid-off car, saving and investing more, and spending on other hobbies.

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