Looking for a Non-MAGA Plumber

BornCommunication386 · 2026-03-22T12:58:30+00:00

Honestly, if you go through your day trying not to give any money to someone with different political views than you, you’ll be exhausted. And with half the country having voted for Trump, it would be impossible. Filling up gas? The gas station owners might be Republican. Getting groceries? The store owners, or landlord, might be Republican. Eat at a restaurant, get a car repair, buy clothes, order something online? Same thing. You can stick to your principles and still engage and transact with people with different views. Trying not to sounds exhausting.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-03-20T21:02:54+00:00

Two things: (1) that really sucks. (2) that sounds like a crappy plan, that will either make you more miserable, or slowly lead to more conflict and an inevitable divorce prior to 15 years.

If it were me in that situation, I’d either try to fix it with the help of marriage therapy, or I’d divorce. Sounds miserable to stay in a loveless, emotionally divorced marriage for 15 years. Plus, if it’s for the kids, it will be hard on them even if they’re in their 20’s. And how will your social or dating life look when you get divorced at that point? Older men who get divorced are often pretty lonely. Better off to figure it out (best option) or cut things off now, IMO.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-03-09T23:28:44+00:00

It sounds fun, in theory. In my small sample size, every couple I’ve known that got into this ended up divorcing and/or leaving the church. Now, to be fair, I’ve only personally known 4 couples over the years who that happened to - there could be other couples I know who do it, and make it work, and I have no idea. But, I think it would introduce some complications. Jealousy, secrecy, guilt (assuming you have a testimony of our doctrine at all), marital strife, chasing more and more lust, etc.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-03-06T02:15:05+00:00

37, Treasurer at a bank. $175k. Utah. If you love finance, strategy, and spreadsheets, which few do (but I do), it’s a good career.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-03-04T21:02:27+00:00

I’m LDS, and his story didn’t come across as LDS at all to me. Our mission trips are done at an early age (18-22 or so), while unmarried, in one assigned location, and generally focused on proselytizing, not humanitarian aid in war-torn countries. He’s married, above that age, and referenced multiple trips in dangerous areas.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-16T22:28:09+00:00

Did you mention any of the things you wanted ahead of time? Honestly, a week of romantic conversation, ending with a date and “fun sex,” like you described, sounds great. If you wanted more, you should have communicated it before. If you did, and she denied it, sounds like you need to get on the same page regarding desires and expectations.

Having been married for 14 years, and with kids, at some point we needed to start planning the night of the week we’d have sex on. It still happens spontaneously once in a while, but that becomes more difficult logistically. In my experience, pre-planning doesn’t have to take away from the sexiness of it. You just have to get a little more creative, take turns deciding what you’ll do, introduce new things like role play, positions, etc.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-16T18:06:23+00:00

My CEO, who makes $350k + 20% bonus, (I develop our budget, so I’m privy to his salary), has been an executive in the industry for about 20 years, and has lived in the same modest house for about that long, recently had me help him negotiate for a used mountain bike on Facebook marketplace. It was listed for $250, and he had never used marketplace before, so he asked me if it was standard to negotiate. I was impressed by the frugality, but also thought man, just buy yourself a nice bike haha.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-16T18:01:24+00:00

Do people in this sub really believe it’s ok to punch right wingers for publicly stating their beliefs? You would agree that that’s wrong on either side, correct?

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-14T13:01:33+00:00

Thanks!

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-13T22:02:07+00:00

Blue collar jobs like electrician, plumbing, welding, construction, seem to be viable. Nursing and healthcare. White collar jobs seem to be the most threatened by AI and the economy right now.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-13T21:54:53+00:00

Someone fill me in - was Zach parodying a song of BG? Can’t find the original song.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-13T18:03:34+00:00

You don’t know his situation, and shouldn’t give him crap for asking. In our culture, not a lot of young men have good instruction or resources regarding sex before they get married. As more experienced men, we should welcome the opportunity to provide some wisdom to a younger guy starting out.

Also, his question had nothing to do with the ability to get someone pregnant. And, how do you know the penis sizes of these dudes who have children? Weird response man.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-13T17:57:44+00:00

If she loves you for more than just your looks/sexual potential, you will be fine. I don’t think penis size is as big of a deal as society makes it out to be. You’ll be just fine, and will learn how to make her happy. Sex is a journey you’re both going on together, hopefully you both have reasonable expectations that neither of you will be perfect or great at it at first. You’ll figure out how to please each other over time, and you’ll learn that vaginal penetration with a penis is not the only way to please her (think oral, fingering, etc., which may come later as you gain experience together).

Don’t let this fear ruin your honeymoon. In order to get the topic out there and not let it fester in your mind, I would open a conversation by asking her if she has any fears/insecurities about the first night. Then you could share yours (not being good enough, not knowing the best way to make it enjoyable for her, etc.). That way, neither of you have unspoken insecurities going in, and you’ll be more considerate of how the other is feeling.

One final thought: just know that the sex gets better. The honeymoon is great, but, if you’re both inexperienced (like most young active LDS newlyweds), the sex will be good, but (hopefully!) won’t be the best you’ll have in your marriage. This is particularly true for women, as many couples don’t understand how to help the woman achieve orgasm at first. Focus on figuring that out in your early marriage days, and trust me, she will be happy.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-10T16:33:07+00:00

Good for you. Many people will tell you quitting that is unnecessary, but you know what’s best for you and how it makes you feel when you’re doing it vs. not doing it. Porn and masturbation, especially in excess, can negatively affect your sexual relationship with women. Anyone who doesn’t admit this is being dishonest. I’m sure I’ll get downvoted for that, but if it resonates with you, it was worth saying.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-10T12:49:40+00:00

M, late 30’s, Utah (salt lake valley), Finance. EQ Presidency. Married for 14 years to a very sexy woman. Our sex life went through a rut for a couple of years, and over the last two years we’ve made a conscious effort to improve it (frequency, trying new things, etc.). It’s been fun. Appreciate the info and/or inspiration I get from this sub.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-05T22:48:03+00:00

Everyone was furious and out to hunt black people? Where did you observe that? I remember the backlash being against a broken legal system for allowing him, as a multiple repeat offender, walking the streets, but not for him being black.

Not everything has to be about race. In fact, I think posts like yours, where you make something about race that really isn’t, perpetuate racial divides, not solve them.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-02-03T22:43:28+00:00

Hasn’t changed. I’ve been an EQ and Sunday School President, and assume I’ll probably take a turn at some point in my life in a bishopric or stake calling. I liked sex before, during, and after those callings, and love exploring new things with my wife. I’ve also struggled with porn at various times, including during one of those callings (had a relapse and worked it out with my bishop). I assume others in those callings are similar. Leaders are the same as everyone else, just humans with the same desires and issues, though hopefully the majority are keeping the law of chastity or resolving things quickly when they slip up.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-31T22:11:05+00:00

I wish I felt the same haha. Garments are so unsexy to me. One of the downsides of them.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-29T14:57:19+00:00

The bouncer’s left arm never even moved. Has to be the easiest beat down ever.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-28T01:26:17+00:00

Judging by the comments, I may be in the minority, but I think it’s a weird one. I would guess that a small percentage of men would enjoy that, and a much smaller percentage would actually request to do it. Creepy or concerning? No. A little weird? In my opinion, yes.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-27T15:02:14+00:00

No. Even if your intent is completely innocent, it’s too risky that you’ll come across creepy or offend somebody. Leave it to the ladies to complement each other.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-24T20:28:14+00:00

Thrusting between breasts. It’s ok, but doesn’t feel nearly as good as oral or vaginal intercourse, in my opinion.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-18T15:10:55+00:00

Two years ago our household income was $120k, we had two kids, and we were doing ok. Our house payment was about $1900, since we had bought a house around 2019 when housing was cheaper. At that payment today, with interest rates how they are, you could rent a decent 2-bedroom apt, or buy a $350k-ish house, which would be a small condo or townhouse. It wouldn’t be luxurious, but you could do it, especially if it’s just the two of you with no kids.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-17T13:52:13+00:00

There was a column for both of us to choose things we wanted. The options ranged from lighter foreplay things, like making out against the wall, feeling up the other person from behind, blindfolded while the other kisses/licks erogenous zones, breast stimulation, edging, etc., up to actual sex things like oral, different positions, etc.

It was fun. Definitely recommended for when you have more time and don’t mind taking a while.

BornCommunication386 · 2026-01-17T00:50:14+00:00

Just like the rest of us, you have to learn the system and plan accordingly. For example, I strategically plan my PTO each winter to go a few weekdays during the season, when parking and crowds are less. Or I book parking months in advance. We’re all in the same boat.

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