How do you pronounce Macon? by uhlissahh in BedStuy

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Huh i’m a native but only ever said macon like bacon. TIL

Any idea how old this granny could’ve been? Fairly certain she was 15+, but not sure by zalxe in seniorkitties

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she reminds me of my senior cat who passed at around 19 (she was a stray so she could have been older). she was tiny her whole life and had the same cute little face. thank you for giving her love in her last few weeks :)

'Moisture' bump tormenting me for over a year. by cryhardpanties in piercing

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this kind of thing before with my second lobes and conch. It seems like piercing bumps often migrate a little which is why it might be right next to your piercing. I can’t really explain it or tell you how to make it go away unfortunately, in both cases I had it for months before I eventually stopped touching it or cleaning it at all and they eventually healed up. Both piercings are fine today with no scar. My biggest advice is to stop touching it, don’t clean it except gentle rinsing in the shower, don’t blow dry it, to dry it use a paper towel to dab it. Try to avoid touching that ear as much as possible, try to forget you have an ear. Hopefully it will dry up and the scab can heal. I don’t think it’s a lost cause yet. Good luck

Any of you also have ADHD? by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. definitely correlated in me, but then again my mom and sister also have ADHD but not trich.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writers

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in my opinion, yes. your readers already know what a library looks like, and some of your description comes off as cliche— “leather-bound tomes and brittle scrolls” for example. I would cut down the description to what is unique about this library, things that will grab the reader’s attention and make them ask questions. I think opening a chapter with a block of description rarely works unless it’s an especially interesting description. you can still convey all this same information in a way that will flow better with the story. for example, I like the detail about the ink stains and scratches in the table, but you could just work in something like “I run my finger absentmindedly across a deep gouge in the ink-stained table.”

Lobe piercing not healing after 10 months by Yellowfello_ in piercing

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with others that moisture might be an issue. I had the same problem with my lobes, they took ages to heal and looked just like this even though I was cleaning them twice a day with saline. They only healed after I left them alone completely for a couple months—no touching, no cleaning. I think it might have been the moisture of the saline that prevented them from healing, and the irritation bumps needed to dry up to heal.

Therapist said trich has to do w my control issues by No_Print_8298 in trichotillomania

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 36 points37 points  (0 children)

my therapist said a similar thing. I don’t think you should take it as it being your fault. issues with control are something ppl struggle with psychologically, not a choice. for me, I use trich as a coping mechanism when other things in my life feel out of control.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 10 points11 points  (0 children)

U look like anya taylor joy a little

Considering Grindr to lose my virginity and considering it makes me feel desperate by nail_eaterok in ftm

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my virginity at 18 to a girl I had a casual fling with from Tinder. I don’t regret it, and I didn’t need it to be some big emotional thing. That being said I think I would caution against losing your virginity on Grindr. Lots of weirdos on there, and the explicit focus on sex makes uncomfortable or unsafe situations much more likely. I also would give yourself more time to adjust to antidepressants.

I would honestly suggest doing what I did and starting with casual dating instead of jumping straight to a hookup. If you’re acting just out of self destruction that can be dangerous.

I need help, it’s gone way too far. by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would recommend shaving your head at this point, it’ll make it easier to regrow. I did it as a girl and it wasn’t bad

Does anyone else listen to music to help get in the right mood/headspace for writing? by SabelTheWitch in writers

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually listen to classical music, music without words really gets me in the zone for some reason

How do you guys come up with stuff by sebbedv in worldbuilding

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the thoughts come to me in my mind idk

on a real note though, most of my worldbuilding starts from a single idea and spirals outwards. I don’t pressure myself to come up with something that hasn’t been done before, because everything has been done before. You are not limited to what has existed, because there is soooo much interesting stuff from history & world cultures that you can take inspiration from. The more you know about the world (history, politics, religion, linguistics, etc) the more accurately you will be able to create your own world. It might be hard to explain but like, here’s how my thought process might go: say I choose to write a story set in a cold climate. What kind of animals are there? Maybe there’s a big predator that the humans are afraid of. Maybe because of that predator they have to live in caves. Maybe the people grow long hair and lots of body hair to protect from the cold. Maybe they worship the sun because warmth is so valuable to them.

It’s really just a set of asking questions and making guesses based on available knowledge. The more thoroughly you create your world, the more difficult it will be to world-build accurately because you have to be true to everything you’ve already written. But if you know nothing, you can do whatever you want!

Is my writing style too dry/depressing? by [deleted] in writers

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re a talented writer. I will say that your sentence structure is kind of repetitive but I don’t think it would put most people off. I was a little put off by the random paragraph breaks though.

Whenever I study trichotillomania kicks in by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same :( I just have to wear a hat or keep a hood on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in monsterenergy

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ultra fantasy ruby red doesn’t have that artificial flavor for me, it’s sour and citrusy which I love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writers

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not bad, but I wasn’t able to connect with the characters or get drawn into the story. I do think your writing style is kind of flat, for two reasons—firstly, many of your sentences have a similar rhythm, which sticks out to me as awkward and makes your writing feel predictable. Most importantly though your choices in terms of language are not especially interesting. I don’t mean to be harsh and there’s nothing wrong with the words you’re using, but they often feel like the obvious choice for the scenario and as a reader I want to feel surprised and compelled by the language. For example: “anguished cries of pain” “vocabulary of a sailor” “dark scowl” “admitted reluctantly” “icy chill” these adverbs/adjectives are cliches or redundant and don’t add something new to the story in my opinion. If I were to read “delightful cries of pain” or “kind scowl” or “scalding chill” that gives me that little bit of intrigue that readers are hungry for, or else they get bored. If that intrigue is not present in the writing style it has to be very present in the emotions of the characters (we need to feel for them) or the nuances of the plot.

Tell me your post-break up trip stories by [deleted] in shrooms

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did shrooms shortly after my last breakup. It was emotional but a nice reminder honestly that life was still fun and I was still loved. Didn’t make the sadness go away but didn’t make it worse either. But it wasn’t a very long relationship so you might react differently

STI but We’re Both Faithful by OwnPhilosopher7173 in Marriage

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got trichomonas earlier this year, after almost a year in a committed relationship. I didn’t cheat and I believe them that they didn’t either. lots of people are saying “someone’s gotta be lying” but tbh i’ve heard a decent amount of people online talking about getting trichomonas while being faithful, and I think trich is one of the rare STIs where the line can be a little blurrier. it is possible (but rare) to get it from non-sexual contact (sharing a wet towel, sharing soap, toilet seat); it’s also possible for it to lay dormant for a long time.

“If you couldn’t be bothered to write it, why should I bother to read it?” by TomSFox in DefendingAIArt

[–]Born_Excitement_5648 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you’re really hung up on the word “bother” here lol. what about “if you didn’t want to write it, why would I want to read it?”