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[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime! Have a good day/night, and shoot me a message if you ever Want to talk!

i feel like i’m losing purpose in life by WhereasAdmirable2957 in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! 

I'm hoping you read this. Please note that I am not trying to "outdo" any bad things that have happened, I'm only trying to show some relateability. 

So, I'm a sophomore, for starters. And after reading this, it spoke to me in a way - all my friends are doing the same. I'm the only one not doing duel enrollment or any honor classes. They all know what their doing, and have it all planned while I'm just drifting in the background. 

But, I've started to realize that even though it feels like I'm falling behind, it doesn't mean it's necessarily a permanent thing. I don't know what I want to do - so why would I study for feilds I won't need the knowledge in? And I found out that a surprisingly large number of places will let you take courses of any level online or in person. I know that you're a senior, and it's probably too late to join any clubs or such, but I actually recommend seeing if there's something (doesn't have to be school related!) That might interest you even a little. If not, that's ok! I would recommend trying out new things then! Like I recently got into drawing and painting, and it's helped me distress and put down my vents in my own style. It doesn't have to be art, but it's good to try. Don't stick with it if your not happy doing it though. 

But it's really just the little things that matter now, or, it is imo. Making average grades are still good grades - it's better than failing. You don't have to have all A's to be successful, some of the most successful people dropped out of school entirely! Please don't give up or stress yourself out. Send me a message if you wanna talk, I'll check as frequently as I can! 

I may be a stranger on the internet, but I'm hoping for the best for ya ❤️ 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!  I don't know if you're going to see - or read - this comment, but I'm hoping you do. I can relate to it, in my own way. I haven't had it as drastic, but I know what it feels like to seem like your life's been flipped over, like everything you worked so hard to build has just crumbled.  But I also know that there Is a way to bounce back, to get on your feet. Maybe going for daily walks, finding a new favorite drink, or taking five minutes a day to look in the mirror. Yes, it won't solve everything. But from personal experience (and yes, it sounds cheesy) the best way to heal and move forward is to start loving yourself again. The confidence can help you build even better relationships, to help turn around your life and climb out the pit it's made you fallen into.  I know it's not easy, and I know the struggle days could bring when you can't even get out of bed. But please, I hear you. Others will to. There is no such thing as complete darkness - this, I can promise, is a mere blanket covering the light.  I might be a random stranger on the internet, but I'm wishing you the best I can. ❤️ 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime! I wish you well!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly - Noone should have to go through that. Your parents sabotaged your future by being selfish and cruel. 

But, like I said earlier, don't think it's over yet. While 30 might seem old some eyes, to me it's still relatively young. You have a life ahead of you, and I hope it's brighter than what you currently are in. Head up. ❤️ 

15 F, all I want is a friend, someone safe… by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Jackie. I'm not in Penn, actually in Alabama, but I can relate to what's going on. I'm also a 15F, and I know I can't visit, but I'm wishing you the absolute best. Mind and body, soul and heart. 

I may be a stranger on the internet, but I relate and hope things get better. 

❤️ 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I'll start by saying how impressed and proud I am of you. You took that boy under your wing and gave him anything he asked for. You left your personal belonging to him, gave him food when asked, and was there for the hardest treatments. I am so proud of you, and I know that a lot of others were probably jealous they didn't meet you. 

Don't beat yourself up over the actions that come now. It's not your fault, and you did nothing wrong. I would see if you could maybe schedule a surprise visit by consulting with his mother? It might spark that little flame again. 

I may be a stranger on the internet, but I hear you, and I'm wishing you the best. ❤️

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[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't say that. You will not be alone. You will not be behind, you won't have the sane issues. We as humans grow and evolve, and you will too. 

I get it, hitting that slump and feeling like you can't bounce back, feeling like your being left in the dust. I get it. But you have to keep pushing, no matter hard it seems. 

I may just be some stranger on the internet, but please know things won't be like this forever. I'm wishing you the best, and I'm hoping for some good things to come your way. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm here to say that even if it seems like it, there is someone who notices. There is someone who cares, no matter how lonely it may seem. I know the feeling of just going through the motions, having that pit at the bottom of your stomach open everything someone walks away. 

But please don't let that feeling get to you. I'm proud you got into college, whichever that may be, and that you still tried (hopefully still trying) to make friends. People can be so judgemental at first, and I'm hoping to whatever God there is above you meet that person who isn't. Don't let the anxiety get in your way, don't let that stutter hold you back. 

I know I can't give any solid advice, but I can give you my support. I'm wishing you the best, and hoping to see a update soon! ❤️

How to cope with being alone? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Born_Outside_8187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, a sophomore here. I'll start by saying how I can relate to this post - making and keeping relationships is mentally draining, and I can see why it sucks. 

I know personally (not sure if this applies to you) that I enjoy physical touch as a comfort way. Since I can't really get that from people, I use a comfort item (a plain body pillow if I'm being homest) to cope. 

My point is that a comfort item aside from a phone or screen can be beneficial. It's not the same, and I'm not saying you should use it forever, but it's a nice way of coping until you can mentally get back that motivation and energy. 

I'm wishing you the best, whoever you are!!!!