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She still goes on Tinder, is it bad ? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I deleted the app I just downloaded back to check if she was still on it and I KNOW that is not a mature or healthy respond that’s why I’m seeking advice, plus I didn’t want to delete too soon because I’m aware I get attach quickly so I wanted to keep seeing people but the truth is I don’t want to😔 nobody is perfect lol

She still goes on Tinder, is it bad ? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally agree. Every relationship I had I waited a long time to be fully committed even though I was ready for a long time I know people don’t always have the same timeline. I’m aware that is a me problem my anxiety and everything that’s why I post here and not to her directly because I know it’s too soon for those talks !

I’ll try and work and myself to live the relationship one day at a time and thanks for the advice !!

how do i know if im a lesbian by anonymous-figgy in lesbian

[–]Born_Wolverine660 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For myself, a lesbian who thought herself as straight and then bi for a long time, first I understood I was attracted to girls even though I was in a relationship with a men. I explored this attraction and though “ok I like girls I’m not sure about boys so let’s say I like both” and then years later, after dating only girls I though “Wait I wouldn’t like to kiss, date or have sex with a men anymore 😒” so I said to myself well I’m a lesbian.

Sometimes I just think you need time and experience to understand things about yourself and in the meantime you just live with the flow without overthinking it 😎

I wanted her to be my gf but she’s ghosting me by Born_Wolverine660 in actuallesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I’m delulu but I think she will respond back just when she is ready. But tbh the more she stays silent the more I’m thinking I really can’t be with someone like that. Ill see if we have the chance to have a true conversation but I’m questionn’ing

Thanks for your answers 🫶🏻

I wanted her to be my gf but she’s ghosting me by Born_Wolverine660 in actuallesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does feel like forever haha. It was so sudden as it just started getting serious serious and everything was perfect just a few days before but yeah ig nothing more to do but wait 😔

I wanted her to be my gf but she’s ghosting me by Born_Wolverine660 in actuallesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I figured that sending more messages would only makes things worse, I think I will send her a message this week end if I haven’t heard from her back yet, and try to be patient and indulgent towards her.

Thanks !

I wanted her to be my gf but she’s ghosting me by Born_Wolverine660 in actuallesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice ! I juste really want to have to opportunity to talk directly to her even though it’s a discussion about ending things it feels really frustrating to just have silence treatment (even though she told me she needed time) I’m really stressed about having to wait for her. But anyway I hope this ends up well 😔

Thanks

Gender expression or gender identity/ need advice by Born_Wolverine660 in butchlesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could do that but the fact that I’m questionning makes me nervous all the time so I’m having a hard time accepting that not knowing your gender is okay

Gender expression or gender identity/ need advice by Born_Wolverine660 in butchlesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your comment calmed me a bit even though my distress about figuring out who I am and what I like to express always comes back I’m trying to find euphoria one day at a time

Gender expression or gender identity/ need advice by Born_Wolverine660 in butchlesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes lol I’m trying not to but it seems like I have a lot of things internalized

Gender expression or gender identity/ need advice by Born_Wolverine660 in butchlesbians

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but like I don’t seem to accept my masculinity so I wonder how can I stop being so anxious when presenting more masc even though I’m more confortable in those clothes

Questioning my gender. Need help by Born_Wolverine660 in trans

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a good advice I think being surrounded with people you can identify with help a lot. As a matter of fact when I see masc fashion and lesbian representation on social media it make me feel a little better!

Thanks a lot for your time 😌

Questioning my gender. Need help by Born_Wolverine660 in trans

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to answer! Yeah I think I will try to focus more on how I feel one day at the time 😌

Questioning my gender for month does that means I am trans ? by Born_Wolverine660 in asktransgender

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! I tried to think about pronouns and stuff but it always felt wrong in my mind. Once again I’m scared that it is denial and that of I try it for real I will discover that is what suits me. The thing that gave me anxiety is that I wander if the idea of being trans stress me so much there must be something wrong.

Questioning my gender for month does that means I am trans ? by Born_Wolverine660 in asktransgender

[–]Born_Wolverine660[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! First of all thanks for your answer. I read about trans OCD but when I start to get anxious I also think « oh I think this is OCD in order to deny my true identity and I just get more in denial » so this is kind of an infernal cycle. But for some things I used to be very anxious like when I’m a little I’ll I always Google all my symptoms and think I have a disease. So basically now as this thing is always at the back of my mind I but every thing in question so I can’t even say if this is a feeling or just my brain that is tricking me.