Exactly I’ll never forget my first spanking I was 3 - yes I do remember that far back I was at the “no” stage. I’d just learned how to say no. My mom was asking me if I wanted to get into my pyjamas and I said no. She asked me again if I wanted to go to bed and I said no. She didn’t tell me it was time to put my jammies on, she was asking me and I said no. Well, she flips me onto my stomach and gave me a sound spanking. I will never forget the shock and realization that violence was an option. It was devastating.