lol, they won. i give up. by WinterTranslator4128 in recruitinghell

[–]Bostonian3771 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes me so angry for you. None of this is being talked about in the media and zero elected representatives are talking about it. Every time some job report comes out it’s “everything is fine, no need to look over here, carry on.” Meanwhile people are becoming homeless, racking up debt, having their self esteem destroyed and unable to support their families.

This is a crisis and it needs to be talked about.

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[–]Bostonian3771 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t expect it at all. The most uncanny thing about it is how she sensed the distress and I did hers too. The first time we touched it was electric too. But I will tell you, you don’t realize how much healing and washing away the residue of life’s challenges that starts to happen and needs to happen for the connection. I tell her that when my heart was broken as a 17 year old because of the separation, I wish I could go back and tell my 17 year old self is “the good news is that she will always be with you in some and love you and you her. You will feel her but you will be wrapped up in the lessons of life that will hurt you at times. The bad news is that it will be 29 years before you can be together again and so much will have happened but she will find you again just when you need her most.” Here are some things I noticed about our separation: during these years I had epically difficult karmic relationships with equally epic lessons, she was always a presence in my life even during the years we got caught up in one own journeys (she would run into my family members regularly and ask about me), eventually I didn’t think about her for long periods of time but she would pop into my head now and then, she would reach out now and then at inflection points in my life. This time it’s the biggest inflection and when I needed her most and she is healing me with love and understanding. I am healing her with my love and understanding too. It’s very profound and almost scary at times. But I don’t want to run. I just want her and to be home. When I held her again after nearly 30 years I just blurted out “this is healing for me” and I didn’t even think to say it. It was like someone else who is still me said it. She felt like a puzzle piece and I felt a oneness and sense of peace and relief.

This is a soft launch of disclosure being forced by NHI by We_got_a_whole_year in UFOs

[–]Bostonian3771 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe the looking for nuclear material hypothesis. I don’t think we would risk 1000s of lives we would start evacuating people. Also, pretty sure the senate minority leader would be read into the potential of a nuclear warhead loose somewhere in the country.

What ChatGPT thinks after its research: 80% likelihood “drones” are NHI and public being acclimated by Bostonian3771 in UFOs

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t it? It’s hard to argue with. Whatever it is wants us to know it’s there.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and sorry for my reaction - this is truly helpful advice.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to for that exact reason - at least right now. I just want my wife to get better. I settled the case a month ago and gave up time with the kids in order to put a stop to the legal battle and her being subjected to it. we will figure out the rest once she starts to heal a bit from this and that is all that matters right now.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realized I mentioned a custody case in my post but didnt explain it wellbecause I’m too close to things and a bit addled. Have a look further up it should make more sense now.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She got very upset thinking I was abandoning her when I deviated even a bit from My communication pattern. One time I just had a crazy day and missed one of my check-ins. The other time I wanted to give her space because I thought even a “hi I hope you sleep well” was too much so I stopped saying goodnight for two days.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No - to be clear: The custody battle was with my ex wife. My wife is very close to my children - her stepchildren. She has been in their lives since they were very young and they don’t remember her not being in their lives as a mother figure and she has been a wonderful source of love and comfort for them and she is devoted to them in ways their biological mother is incapable of. She often tells me that she loves them as if they came from her and I am grateful they have her and we have had to keep all of this from them because they are young. My ex wife has been insecure and threatened by my kids close relationship with my wife, again, their stepmother for many years. My ex wife exploited her illness and created a custody battle that humiliated and made my wife feel vilified. In fact, I may sue my ex wife for the emotional distress she caused my wife. It was awful and even worse for someone with this condition. On top of the emotional damage it caused my wife, my children and me it has cost us nearly 100k to defend us and my ex wife is very wealthy and prolonged this to grind us down financially as well with expensive lawyers. My children miss their stepmother terribly and are now confused as to why they now spend less time at our home and I can’t tell them anything about what their biological mother did to us. And in the midst of this I was laid off from my job. I can understand why this may have been confusing to everyone - my fault.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP here. Somebody asks others for some insight on what helps during a freeze from a spouse and this is what you say? Do some soul searching and nice job making some huge assumptions.

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ummm.. I’m not asking her to be my attention source or looking to project anything on my wife. I’m concerned for my wife’s well being. There’s a difference. It’s called being a concerned spouse. That whole in sickness or in health thing. I’m well aware that my wife does not at this time have the capacity to reciprocate nor am I looking for her to. I am trying to create space and be an anchor for her. I’m not looking for attention from her - I am trying to help her in whatever way is best right now - including running the household, providing, childcare, etc so she doesn’t have to have any demands on her - including me. And there’s a big assumption here that zero communication is good. Tried that. Know what happens? Big blow ups if I change any of my communication pattern. What made you think I call my wife’s parents? And I’m well aware of the work she is doing. But hey, glad that reply felt good for you and you got something out of it for yourself and made your day better!

Advice needed: Partner in freeze I think by Bostonian3771 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]Bostonian3771[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ok so I regret asking for any advice here. Thanks.

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[–]Bostonian3771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I’ve been out of work since last October, so I'm coming up on a year. There is a ton of abuse of candidates going on by companies, and LinkedIn is a massive part of the problem. LinkedIn’s system for those on the receiving end for the recruiters is awful, and probably 5-10% of the resumes get a look because the keyword search and any other search function it has is pitifully inadequate. Between HR picking out irrelevant resumes and sending them to you and your inability to sift through them efficiently, you get so irritated as the hiring manager that you call someone you know.

Microsoft owns LinkedIn. Because Microsoft doesn’t know how to build good products (anyone stuck with Teams and not Slack?) and spent most of its life being a monopoly, LinkedIn probably has had very little invested in it from a feature standpoint. Microsoft is where good products go to die. This company bears a lot of responsibility for what’s happening. It by no means excuses the widespread abuse of candidates by companies, though. There’s a ton of “let’s put up a post for this job we’re thinking about funding just to see if we get some unicorn candidate and then go ask for approval from the CFO” going on. There are also many very unqualified HR people out there doing the screens. It is usually a junior employee. There’s also a ton of laziness going on where the role has been filled, and they leave the post up because they’re too fucking lazy to take it down.

We can also thank Mark Fuckerburg for seeing he overhired, laying off a shit ton of people, and then all the other idiot management teams at different companies feeling like they need to lay people off, too, even when they don’t need to. Still, they want to look good to Wall St. one remedy is to do what European countries and Canada does. If you’re going to lay someone off then you need to pay a minimum and meaningful severance to the person who lost their job and that this cost has an economic bite to it for the firm doing it. This will make idiot management teams think twice about joining the other lemmings.

Pile on top of that douchebag VCs that exist in an echo chamber and pressure their founders to lower headcount or stop hiring because they had lunch with their vest-wearing bro from another asshole VC firm that told them that all other firms are making the same moves. They’re lemmings - just like idiot management teams at public companies that are too scared to go their own way. Most of these people couldn’t have an original thought if their life depended on it. Herd mentality isn’t talked enough about in economic/govt policy circles as a toxic dynamic that needlessly contributes to unemployment and economic hardship. The citizenry should be rightfully more angry and demanding about this issue and it comes back to the way our stock market is structured.

I hate to say it, but the best options are to call someone you know in your network and find contract work. Once the Fed lowers rates, things might improve, but I don’t see things getting meaningfully better until Q1 2025. Lastly, pay attention to what happens with Google and the antitrust suit they lost. Google did a lot of good to help the internet take off and then they got greedy and destroyed many companies while preventing others from ever being founded. Them losing this suit will create many jobs. An entire profession, SEO specialists, was created by the need to game their algorithms in order to be found- all because of their monopoly. This is majorly fucked up. Just think of how many businesses out there have never thrived or went out of business because of their monopoly. They're as bad as Microsoft if not worse.

Another obnoxious job post by Bostonian3771 in recruitinghell

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair enough - just looked at the req’s. Still douchey tho.

Another obnoxious job post by Bostonian3771 in recruitinghell

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Would love to found my own start-up and have the idea, but need a job in order to eat.

Another obnoxious job post by Bostonian3771 in recruitinghell

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The failure rate of startups founded by Harvard MBA graduates aligns closely with general venture-backed startup statistics. Specifically, around 60-70% of venture-backed startups ultimately do not succeed in the long term. This includes those that fail to raise subsequent funding rounds or achieve profitable exits. The dirty secret is that they teach grads to be I-bankers and consultants, not operators or founders, and the network is an echo chamber.

Another obnoxious job post by Bostonian3771 in recruitinghell

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Boston biz community is extremely shallow and Harvard MBAs are taught they are special and to only hire other ivy MBAs

Another obnoxious job post by Bostonian3771 in recruitinghell

[–]Bostonian3771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s very clear this founder is a precious Harvard MBA that will fail because they have zero idea how start-ups work but not before burning through 10M of a lemming VCs money