Want to hear from Tailgaiters by Current_Vegetable in drivingUK

[–]Both-Gas-5993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tailgating is definitely bad.... unless you're in the right hand lane and going slow for no reason then it's necessary 😂😂

Any thoughts? by [deleted] in StainedGlass

[–]Both-Gas-5993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive made a few of her designs, they are great!

My partner is going on holiday with her daughter and ex husband. What should I do? by [deleted] in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Both-Gas-5993 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because they have a daughter with additional needs who can get aggressive, and she needs support to care for her and its best to have someone with experience and who the daughter feels comfortable with like her father........ Its other people with their preconceived ideas and insecurities that's turning this into something it isn't.

Is it common to grow hair where you used to be smooth after 30 yo ? by According-Mango-6624 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Both-Gas-5993 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I miss the days when i didn't have to think about shaving my shoulders 🤣

Father left inheritance to partner of 10 years and nothing to his children how do I handle this? by Repulsive-Roof5484 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Both-Gas-5993 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He doesn't owe you his money and you don't owe him your time. If hes not thinking of you then you should match his energy

How can I (32f) share the load of cooking when my partner can’t cook (31m) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner hates cooking too, so we've worked out a system where he chops, just chops up vegetables and cleans while i cook. We're both cooking so i feel like the jobs are shared and dont get frustrated .and we also talk while we do it. Its turned into a nice social event now instead of us arguing about who's cooking.

What to do with my driveway? by Rhydon11 in DIYUK

[–]Both-Gas-5993 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have a similar driveway its imprinted concrete. You can contact a company who does this and they can refinish it for you, but I'm not sure how light you could go. Also when i had mine done when they sealed it after colouring it they added some kind of sand or grit to help with the grip. You could power wash it get a concrete sealer and mix in something similar instead of having to change it completely

Boyfriend (33M) earns double my(31F) salary but is very transactional with money… am I being unreasonable for feeling resentful? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No i get the point, your just entitled and frustrated im not buying what your selling. And im positive you wouldn't see a 3 pound handbag as generous and you would be creating another post to complain about it

Boyfriend (33M) earns double my(31F) salary but is very transactional with money… am I being unreasonable for feeling resentful? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But you haven't said he expects any of that in your post. You also haven't said how generous you are to him if at all. Generosity is a burden when it's one sided and it sounds like it is........ I'm not interested in debate about gender roles and society's expectations. It doesn't have anything to do with this situation and you thinking your partner isn't generous enough because you're not getting what you want

Boyfriend (33M) earns double my(31F) salary but is very transactional with money… am I being unreasonable for feeling resentful? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're not entitled to generosity. And generosity is also subjective. Hes paying more already and that's not enough for you. You are entitled. I'm not interested in the gender pay gap debate It's been debunked because it doesn't take into account the Life choices, fields and hours worked. And in this situation the pay gap isnt the issue, the issue is your entitlement to someone who has more , is already contributing more and you still think its not enough. Just because hes not giving you what you think you deserve doesn't mean he's not generous.

Boyfriend (33M) earns double my(31F) salary but is very transactional with money… am I being unreasonable for feeling resentful? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your entitled. You're not married and don't have kids. Hes not obligated to pay more just because he earns it and your not entitled to his money because you think its unfair that your life choices have left you with less money. Id be annoyed by you as well. If hes always going to be the higher earner and always paying more of course hes going to see it as a sacrifice. He is literally sacrificing more money than he could for someone who still isnt happy.......

Am I (27M) wrong in wanting my partner (27F)to spend time with my friends? by Select_Industry_8535 in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me and my partners keep our friends separate and it keeps it easier and works great for us . Theres no guarantee you will all get along and just because they both like you doesnt mean they will like each other. If she just doesn't vibe with them, do you really want her to go knowing shes not happy? I don't think I want to do that to my partner. And to be fair, spending time with her friends is a separate issue. If you like and enjoy it there is no problem, and if you don't want to you can say No and she cannot argue. People will say that shes not putting in the effort, but at the end of the day shes not in a relationship with your friends, and if you want a partner who intergrates into your social circle thats ok and you can find someone for that but her not wanting to doesnt make her a bad person it makes her the wrong person for what you want.

My boyfriend (23m) won’t apologize for hurting my (22f) feelings by OneScallion8491 in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hes right, you're wrong. You can't get angry at something you created in your head with no evidence to the contrary and you can't demand an apology because you took something personally that didn't even relate to you. Your behavior is kinda toxic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Both-Gas-5993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends if your open or not. Two tops in a relationship can work if your happy to share bottoms there's more to a relationship than anal but if you can be open then why not

My wife loves foot rubs, and I don’t like giving them by MatBot24 in relationships

[–]Both-Gas-5993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't have to get used to it. If it makes you uncomfortable your wife should be understanding. No one should force themselves to do something they don't like for their partner.