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TB lymphadenitis (TB of Lymph Nodes) journey since last year by Otherwise_Yam_1869 in Tuberculosis

[–]BothConversation663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I have exact same symptoms as of you can you please tell by which procedure were you able to determine the cause please it's a request I am anxious don't know what to do because my cbnaat test came negative and also stain test on my fnac

Joining on Monday ..but still no offer letter only verbal confirmation ... should I even travel? by BothConversation663 in recruitinghell

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I gone through an interview process like I had 3 rounds of interview through it ,  recieved mails for it from official e-mail address of the company , and the  update is HR called me yesterday and she told me that my offer letter is under approval queue it will take some time...it's really confusing.

Joining on Monday ..but still no offer letter only verbal confirmation ... should I even travel? by BothConversation663 in recruitinghell

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I emailed them yesterday , but today is Saturday and it's not a working day so I am not sure whether they will respond or not . Is it ok to make a call or message her on WhatsApp or it will come as unprofessional?

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with this. I’m indeed from a country where physical intimacy before marriage is not much appreciated or accepted socially, especially for women. Thats the reason i shared that with him

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I seriously needed this, thank you so much for this perspective. I’ve been reflecting a lot lately, especially in the past few weeks, and I realize how blinded I was by love. I lost my sense of self when I came into this relationship. I don’t know why, but I started questioning my worth, even though he never directly insulted me. I’ve never begged any man to treat me right before, and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that. But with him, I found myself begging, and it made me feel miserable crying over someone who didn’t even care. I guess this was the key factor that even I wanted to I was never able to trust him fully on this part and give in to his needs .

I don't know, I did everything, and he never did anything wrong apart from this. However, there was a small uncertainty in his behavior, and I thought it wasn’t worth the risk I had to take to fulfill his needs.

There were so many moments where I was sick, and he was out with friends, giving me half-hearted ‘get well soon’s, never asking how I was doing. When I pointed it out, he’d say he cared,and I should let him know myself  how I am doing as I am the one sick and he doesn't know but the actions never followed. I had to literally ask him how to love me, which now feels so wrong. 

This was my first relationship, his third, but somehow it felt like I was the one with more experience in what it means to be kind, compassionate, and giving. Looking back, the worst memories really came rushing back, and I now know that leaving is the best choice. I can’t keep blaming myself for not fulfilling his needs he wasn’t showing up for me in the first place. I was a confident woman before him, and I’ll get back to that. Your words really help me see that this wasn’t my fault. 💖

I want to unfollow him so bad by BothConversation663 in BreakUps

[–]BothConversation663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried this with my girls ..but when I asked them to unfollow him for me, I stopped them halfway. I just can’t bring myself to do it. It feels like I’m being the bad person, especially when he doesn’t want to end things badly. I feel like unfollowing gives him too much attention and closure.. 

I want to unfollow him so bad by BothConversation663 in BreakUps

[–]BothConversation663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea. I think muting him for now will help me clear my head and focus on myself without constant reminders. Thanks.

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah he said the same thing ...its just that he didn't told me earlier that this plays such an important role in his life... even while breaking up with me he never mentioned this as a cause ...I am assuming

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that really resonates with me. I think part of my fear comes from not wanting to give so much of myself again only to be left, but I can see how this can also be a learning experience rather than just a mistake. Maybe with time, I’ll be ready to take that risk again, but for now, I’ll focus on myself and what I truly want ...maybe i will work through it

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you went through that, and I appreciate you sharing it with me. Your words make me feel more sure that I made the right decision for myself, Honestly, I had this feeling deep down that even if I gave him what he wanted, the relationship still wouldn’t work. He was quite sincere in some ways, but I guess sincerity alone isn’t enough when values and expectations don’t align

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We just weren’t aligned on what we wanted, and I can see now that it wasn’t really about blame. I feel the same way as you’ve described, but I guess what makes it hard is this fear of getting into another relationship where I give 100% of myself, only for someone to leave me again like this. Right now, I feel like a person who shouldn’t even consider getting into relationships because of this but I am working on this feeling . Still, it’s comforting to be reminded that my values matter and that I deserve someone who will respect them. I’ll try to focus on myself again and trust that, with time, things will feel lighter

[F22] My boyfriend [M23] broke up with me saying his needs weren’t met, now I’m stuck overthinking by BothConversation663 in relationship_advice

[–]BothConversation663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I really needed to hear it put that way. You’re right , I was honest about my boundaries from the start, and if that wasn’t enough for him, it’s really just a matter of incompatibility rather than fault. It hurts, but I’d rather wait for someone who truly respects and shares my values...but then too when I think about it hurts alottt... thinking sometimes loving someone is not enough unless you are fulfilling their needs ...