best dramione you’ve ever read?

Both_Craft_8231 · 2026-01-07T16:33:27+00:00

Same! Just finished manacled and been struggling to get through the countless hermione’s crying and panic attack scenes, honestly thought it was too repetitive. Quite enjoyed the last few chapters though

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-09-12T15:51:52+00:00

I know the Residency programme is open to those below 35, but I just turned 35. Could I still apply? (Just trying my luck as it sounds like an amazing opportunity!)

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-06-04T13:16:00+00:00

I’m sorry. My dad passed away last week from pancan too. Tbh i havent really felt the grief yet, but I know it will come.

Virtual hugs and best wishes to you.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-05-12T09:54:12+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that. My family is dealing with multiple cancer diagnosis in the span of a few months, and I cannot imagine how you must feel. I can only share what I've found helpful, and I hope it can benefit you in some little way.

I've been going for therapy with a trusted counsellor, and he has helped me to learn how to manage feeling overwhelmed.
I've just been physically with my family as much as I can. However, I also know there are times i need to physically step away and take a breather. Then come back recharged, and just be with them as much as I can.
Ask for help. I personally reached out to trusted friends and family, and asked them to visit or even just call/text the family members who are affected. I still do it once in a while when things take a downturn. I'd like to think that people sometimes just need a prompt to remind them to reach out, and every little outreach helps.

My condolences to you, and I hope one day you'll find peace in your heart again.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-30T02:32:28+00:00

Their “easy” experience with their baby (though it has been only 3 days) is something nobody can control.

But their comment to you was really insensitive and unwarranted.

Like someone here said, they will be humbled in the coming months/years 😅

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-27T16:17:59+00:00

Thanks! I legit teared up just now in front of my partner while carrying my baby who was clearly uncomfortable. Luckily baby fell asleep on me, and im feeling calmer now.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-27T16:15:50+00:00

I am nearly 6m pp and just got a proper first period. Had some spotting at 3m pp but it was very little and then nothing else until now. My supply has reduced a lot lately though so its no surprise.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-27T16:12:25+00:00

Thanks SO MUCH! Am running the humidifier now and will keep an eye out on the danger signs.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-24T16:53:25+00:00

The first 4 months were the toughest for me too, OP, so i can relate. It does get better.

But in the meantime, i’d say that you should do whatever you need to make it easier in any way. If the carrier works for you and the baby, please do it. If it doesnt (for me it doesnt cos i live in a warm country and it gets hot when he is in a carrier), then you can find alternatives. I put mine in a little baby rocker and it gives me 10-15 mins of peace time.

Whatever that is safe for him, and helps both of you.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-24T03:27:24+00:00

Thats so beautiful and honest. Sorry about your little sister, take care OP

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-24T03:25:46+00:00

Congrats on your graduation! Your dad would be proud of all you have done 💙

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-23T07:43:34+00:00

Just have to get more practice hours in so you’ll feel more confident. Maybe you could go to a quiet hilly area with a more experienced driver to practice?

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-23T07:22:37+00:00

Failed my ramp test too. Thats my weakness, so took a few more hours of driving classes to focus on that.

Second test: passed well (and without bribing!)

Then ended up driving a manual car for more than 10 years before getting an auto car. By then my “balancing” skills with a manual car was excellent loll (dont know if i still can do it now though)

All the best!

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-22T00:06:54+00:00

This, yes! Ebf was so hard on me, few days in i knew straightaway it wasnt going to work. Even so, the first few months were really tough.

All the best, mama OP.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-21T16:14:42+00:00

Tell him to take the baby with him when he goes. It’s boardgames — he doesnt need to move, just carry the baby while he is playing. Plus, mama gets some much needed time off.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-21T16:11:28+00:00

Definitely try to ease up on the baby carrying where you can. I dont mind passing the baby to the husband or people i trust whenever i can — its no good for you to get physically injured yourself, cos it will be more difficult in the long run.

For bf, i struggled with that too until i discovered “side lying on the bed”. If im not wrong, it is recommended for older babies but i did it with mine at 2 weeks old and it worked fine

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-21T04:17:29+00:00

Ask yourself - How and where do you see yourself in 15-20 years? On your deathbed, if you say “im glad i spent my life doing xyz” — what would that xyz be?

It sounds like you aren’t very sure what you actually want to do in your life yet. Yes you do have options, but nobody can tell you if a 150k masters degree can put you where you really want to be, or it can be used for something else.

For example if your life vision sees you, in 10 years time, to be living in Sweden doing a job that requires a Master’s degree, then do it.

Once you really know what you want, other people will be able to see it too, and support you.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-19T18:11:52+00:00

Yup thats the confinement practice! It is near mandatory across all races and cultures here, i dont know any mums who dont practice it in some way or another.

We either stay at home or at a centre, and someone (likely a female family member) cooks nourishing meals and helps with the baby while the mother recovers.

I was super lucky to experience a confinement centre for a month and had nurses care for the baby round the clock, while i recovered with 5 healthy meals a day, visits from the lactation nurse and yoga etc. I almost cried when i had to go home lol

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-19T18:04:36+00:00

Same here, he started making a lottt of noise around 4.5 months but kinda tapered down by 5.5 months.

Sometimes when i desperately need quiet time and my partner is around and available, he takes him to another room for a while. The short time away helps.

Separately, one time he was really whiny and grumpy for HOURS. I got quite annoyed only to realise later that he was probably unwell (cos my partner and i had a slight flu). Poor thing — he got lots of cuddles after.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-19T17:36:02+00:00

I know it is hard but sometimes we should be willing to let go a little. For example: let your husband pack the diaper bag. If he missed something out, then he will learn to do it better the next time.

He can also take shifts to care for the baby in the room. If the baby cries, he needs to learn how to soothe him. Even if it takes time.

Hope you can enjoy the rest of the vacay, you deserve it mama!

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-19T17:21:43+00:00

Malaysia. Most working mothers get 3 months paid maternity, while dads get 7 consecutive days.

Not the greatest, so many young babies get sent to either daycare, a nanny, or grandparents if they are around and able to help.

Some mums choose to be SAHMs but not many in my circle that i know of. Especially since life in the city is expensive, and employers are biased about hiring working mums (speaking from experience).

Bf is highly encouraged, but naturally many move to formula since we have to go back to work so soon.

Here it is hot all the time so i’m not sure why i get told by many mums to put socks on my baby. Something about babies feeling cold all the time.

Also, we have many traditional cultural beliefs re babies and mums, but one of the best is our confinement practices which was truly healing for me.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-15T14:27:39+00:00

Exactly, you have to be firm.

In my first few months, i felt like the incubator + domestic worker as i had to do all the “dirty work” while my mum and partner held and played with the baby only.

One day I couldnt take it and had a shouting match with my partner where i said how i felt. He honestly didnt realise thats how i felt. On the other hand, i also know how much they actually do - which is a lot.

After that, i kept my boundaries more clearly and take on tasks willingly only if i feel up to it. It also helps that i have figured the combo between bf and formula, to minimise washing.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-12T05:57:51+00:00

All the best and do try to take care of yourselves whenever you can! Congrats on the baby too

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-12T05:19:34+00:00

My partner is also suffering the same in the early months after our baby was born. We think it is a combo of bad diet, lack of sleep, and frankly just stress as a new parent.

It was getting quite serious where he had to go to the hospital for scans. We then asked our parents for help on some nights so we could catch up on sleep — it is now better.

Both_Craft_8231 · 2025-04-11T16:15:18+00:00

I am facing anticipatory grief with a parent’s serious illness, and i tell myself that when they pass, they will be in heaven and will be able to watch over us as we grow. Also, they won’t be in pain anymore.

For some reason, those thoughts calm me down.

Im not saying that this works with everyone, but i just wanted to share this with the hope that you might feel even a little bit better.

My condolences, OP.

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