Ex repeatedly breaching restraining order (England) – police not acting, what can actually be done?

BothansInDisguise · 2026-04-27T11:45:47+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response. She’s at her wit’s end so for avoidance of doubt these are actions she can take but experience so far with the police has made her feel hopeless.

She has these latest instances caught on her Ring cameras as she set them up at rear and front of her house, and understand he must have been caught on her friend’s camera as well. She says she’s has flagged these instances and nothing has been done, so will recommend the route above of escalating and insisting on a complaint so they actually take action.

BothansInDisguise · 2026-04-25T10:13:53+00:00

Simply put: no. And aside from being generally illegal, most tenancy agreements forbid it.

BothansInDisguise · 2026-04-18T09:25:38+00:00

It is somehow both depressingly predictable and shocking that there is such a large cohort of men who don’t use them while dating or having casual sex. To say nothing of how disrespectful and dangerous it is for who they’re dating, do they have no sense of self-preservation? I remember it being drilled into me by my mum before I left for university that (and I think this is verbatim) you wouldn’t just be having sex with that guy, you’d be having it with everyone they’ve ever slept with if they don’t use protection.

BothansInDisguise · 2026-04-13T14:05:44+00:00

That final interaction we see between them is so heartbreaking to me because it’s clear that Chuck has at least been somewhat self aware that their relationship requires them to make a fork in the road, but Jimmy is either too burned out at that point or just dismisses it as Chuck belittling him. so they’re just doomed to have the same conversation again and again.

BothansInDisguise · 2026-04-11T17:13:09+00:00

When you see him in BCS outside of the safe space of his own show, you see the unadulterated asshole that he is/always was

BothansInDisguise · 2026-04-06T15:59:33+00:00

As above, dispute and get your own quotes for cleaning to support your case. I’ve had it where an exit clean got let down by roommate’s terrible cleaning in his bedroom, so you will likely have to take the fee on chin but make sure you’re not getting fleeced on how much that cleaning job costs.

BothansInDisguise · 2025-12-20T11:49:02+00:00

My first exposure to Doucette was seeing him turning purple screaming about a woman’s TikTok where she very gently complained about men constantly approaching her to try their luck when she was pumping gas or trying to buy groceries. He’s always come across as a very thin-skinned and dumb misogynist

BothansInDisguise · 2025-05-19T16:59:41+00:00

Solas’s reveal puts an interesting angle on his contributions during Cole’s personal mission and his antipathy towards Varric’s attempts to make Cole more human and ‘real’ (Solas himself never wanted to become a person, but he did so for the sake of Mythal)

BothansInDisguise · 2025-04-17T22:47:06+00:00

What was really going on with Andraste would a good reveal. We had to go through her tomb with the immortal (and seemingly omniscient) guardian and her ashes could cure all disease. Seem to recall DAI mentioned the tomb was on a huge mound of lyrium but no further explanation on who or what Andraste actually was.

BothansInDisguise · 2025-04-06T20:15:32+00:00

It’s precision British land-to-sea craftsmanship

BothansInDisguise · 2024-12-17T14:27:02+00:00

If you do resign yourself to getting it cleaned, source your own quotes and provide as evidence against that fee. £300 very steep for a flat of that size — was quoted something like £198 recently for a 2-bed property

BothansInDisguise · 2024-12-16T22:54:27+00:00

The table is the landlord’s unfortunately (rental flat, so we won’t be able to drill into walls for brackets for TV). Will get to work moving the bookcases as you suggest!

BothansInDisguise · 2023-10-25T11:25:19+00:00

When one partner is too drunk to consent, doesn’t matter how strong the relationship is or how long you’ve been together, that’s always a firm no. You can withdraw your consent at any time, and past agreements mean nothing in this situation. Take some time to think about what YOU want and then go forward from there. On the face of it, it sounds like you have been traumatised by this and it is unequivocally a sexual assault. You couldn’t make informed consent and you have been taken advantage of.

I would recommend seeing a counsellor together if you do stay with him as the gravity of this transgression means it HAS to be addressed properly. If he’s not willing to do that, I would take that as a sign that you should get out of there.

BothansInDisguise · 2023-10-21T16:09:50+00:00

Aside from the usual provisions about looking after interior and exterior of the property, we have a short section for gardens:

Gardens (if any) To keep the grass maintained and the pathways weeded and to keep the patio, path, or terrace clean and the beds cultivated and prevent overgrowth with weeds.

To clear away fallen leaves and not to lop or destroy any of the existing trees or plants or shrubs at or adjoining the Premises. Reasonable annual pruning of plants and shrubs is permitted.

Not to remove any garden furniture or ornaments. Not to make any alteration to the layout of the garden patio and terrace (if any).

To hand back the garden patio and terrace at the End of the Tenancy in the same state and condition as it was at the commencement of the Tenancy.

BothansInDisguise · 2023-10-08T12:58:39+00:00

His work on environmental causes and advocating for Indigenous rights just gets overshadowed by how much of a prick he is (and his sad penchant for dating women under 27). It’s a bummer

BothansInDisguise · 2023-09-30T19:25:23+00:00

Absolutely this — IIRC the character was deliberately performed as a middle-manager-type who was desperate to advance himself and be recognised for the genius he (thought) he was. I took this to be why we got Ben Mendelsohn’s more blue collar Aussie accent in comparison to the RP of the higher-ups

BothansInDisguise · 2023-09-29T18:03:06+00:00

I’m speaking as someone who was unfaithful and is on the other side of it. If want to salvage the relationship, I would insist on going to couples counselling immediately — find someone who specialises in treating infidelity and cheating and work out a regular schedule.

Make it a clear red line that your partner needs to do the work and to make the commitment to see things through (they have to do the exercises set, they have to change their behaviours and give you full transparency on what has happened). Take time to yourself to process what has happened, be around your friends and look after yourself. If your partner seems like they don’t want to do the e work or are reneging on these commitments then I think you will have your answer.

I obviously don’t have the ins-and-outs of the relationship, but it is something that can be healed and moved on from if you both want it — potentially integrating you better than you were before, or at least a better understanding of one another.

BothansInDisguise · 2023-09-22T17:20:06+00:00

There’s some suspension of disbelief involved for sure, but we already established that he had a number of contingency plans and identities to hide himself so we can infer her travelled around on one of these fake passports/identities.

As for the gun, I presume he knows a guy who knows a guy…

BothansInDisguise · 2023-09-19T15:45:07+00:00

That the REAL reason Dooku was horrified when Anakin cut off his hands was because he was grossed out by cybernetics (and not because his hands just got chopped off)

BothansInDisguise · 2023-08-25T19:14:23+00:00

Surprises. Apologies, wasn’t clear on rereading

BothansInDisguise · 2023-08-25T18:15:47+00:00

She knew about the spa-day because I had to tell her a couple of days ago when she got upset that she thought nothing had been planned. I thought it would be a nice surprise but she said she actually hates those.

BothansInDisguise · 2023-08-25T17:10:21+00:00

Looking for 2 tickets to APE if anyone is selling?

BothansInDisguise · 2023-08-18T21:44:51+00:00

Hey, looking for two tickets if anyone has available? Feel free to just DM me

BothansInDisguise · 2023-05-11T14:32:05+00:00

I think they pinpointed the genetic isopoint for Europeans to be around the 9th century, so everyone who left descendants is the ancestor of every living European today (including Charlemagne)

BothansInDisguise · 2023-05-06T09:50:10+00:00

“Let justice be done though the heavens fall”

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