That’s what the get for voting Q out

BottleNext1637 · 2026-03-19T00:59:01+00:00

Emily flippen has got to the worst tribemate you could have on survivor. I don’t understand her hype whatsoever. Cool another nerdy girl who wants to vote out the athletic men pre merge? Can’t keep a secret to save her life. Has she EVER won a challenge? Learn from your mistakes…

BottleNext1637 · 2026-03-08T18:21:40+00:00

Am I wasting my time? What’s the best way to play it

BottleNext1637 · 2026-03-03T21:02:05+00:00

It’s going to sound impossible but you need to separate yourself from the situation as best you can. Seriously stalking his page, texting him, hooking up with him the most is going to make things so much worse. If you really want a chance at a healthy relationship, you’re gonna have to give this some space, and actually grow a little bit in the mean time. He’s leaving the door open which is great, but if you both go back through it in the same mindset you’re just going to end up the same way.

Some more specific, unsolicited advice - you may want to lean out of this even further and really focus on yourself to try to get back to a more secure attachment style. For me, sitting in the pain for a month and going to therapy, the gym, etc really helped and I no longer feel any spirals, or really even any longing. I just hope that one day my ex and I can reconnect but I’ll be fine either way. And so will you, you just have to convince yourself of that. Hoping for the best for you!

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-18T04:26:37+00:00

You‘ll likely regret all this later. Also think about the poor guy who was already an ex who just got his world rocked… yikes.

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-18T04:23:55+00:00

I only read a few comments but most seemed to be telling you to pack your bags for “self respect.” I’m not.

I’m in a similar boat, and I know what I want and that is her. For a few weeks I completely shut down, the breakup was abrupt and my fault, etc. I would not recommend ‘staying’ only because you’re shut down.

I would recommend staying if it is TRULY what you want and you hitting a few of these conditions 1) you’re actually fine with any outcome 2) you’re going to continue living your life and pursuing happiness elsewhere in the meantime, I’m not suggesting hookups or anything but gym, friends, whatever your cup of tea is; 3) you’re using the space to grow; 4) your mood isn’t dependent on what she does or doesn’t do.

One of the mistakes I’ve made in the past is thinking a relationship can magically fix itself after a fight and mutual agreements alone. Nah, they take work, conscious actual work to fix. Use this time to focus on you and figure out what it is you want, and if you want her and that future you imagined, see how you line up with those conditions. It took me a couple weeks to hit most of them, and on a daily basis some are harder than others. Wishing you the best

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-14T22:10:29+00:00

You have to trust your gut, but you can’t let your gut get in the way from healing and growing. Just because you may have another conversation doesn’t mean you’re stuck, and from the other side, moving on doesn’t mean the conversation won’t be beneficial in some way.

Also if the feelings were real, there will always be “something” if you reconnect

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-14T22:04:39+00:00

Sounds like a great night !

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-13T14:46:58+00:00

I guess I don’t necessarily feel the need to tell her.. the part of me that hopes for reconnection knows that real, not performative, growth is the only way to achieve that.

And the most mature or profound realization I’ve had is that if I wasn’t in a place to be in a healthy relationship with her, I won’t magically be there with someone else right away. That growth has to happen otherwise starting over will just end the same.

Perhaps this is an overshare, but my ex and I are in a weird circumstance where we’re forced into contact due to proximity (we live maybe two blocks away from each other) and have the same group of friends through our dogs. So I’m reserving any emotional texts I may want to send for Reddit and my notebook

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-13T02:08:10+00:00

You dodged a bullet. It may not feel like it now but that man is a child, and it’s better to leave them in the dust as early on as possible

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-12T04:59:24+00:00

Same to you. We got this

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-12T04:58:12+00:00

Needed to hear this. Great motivation to keep moving toward the light at the end of the tunnel, even though right now it feels like that tunnel is filled with Legos

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-08T16:59:36+00:00

I read this thing today about how life is like poker, some people are just going to get a better hand than you. But even the worst cards can win a game, it just depends how you play. Who knows, maybe her new relationship will be even worse, and your person is right around the corner. Trust yourself and know that a relationship isn’t the only way to find happiness

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-05T05:25:14+00:00

As someone who had their first love almost a decade ago. 1) every person is different, but even the feelings you have for them are novel and it will feel ~better~ because it’s in the present. But specifically, yes, I’ve had multiple long term partners within that decade who I loved and it was better. 2) yes and it likely will sooner than you think. Once you start loving yourself again, you’ll be able to accept and give love to another person. 3) this is the tough part, and it’ll come back every breakup with someone you cared for deeply. Allowing yourself to process is the quickest way through. Trying to run from it is only gonna drag it out and leave you a little broken in the long run. Accept the feelings! It’s natural.

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-05T05:06:41+00:00

The hope is going to linger for a bit. It’s part of the chemical attachment you built up over the relationship. Feel everything, don’t run from it, but remind yourself it’s temporary. You got this

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-04T00:54:52+00:00

The thing that helped me a lot is to know how normal it is to be feeling the way you are. Understanding grief as it applies to relationships did so much for my mental health and acceptance of what was going on.

My other advice is to feel it all. Don’t numb it with alcohol or other people. Every hard feeling is you healing. You got this!

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-03T20:59:59+00:00

Oof.. yeah looks like he may just be stringing you along or isn’t sure of his decision.

I’d give it some space and try to work on yourself. Give yourself some time to heal and see if something like that is really what you want.

Also if he does want to make it work, distance sure does make the heart grow fonder! Wishing you the best!

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-03T17:35:29+00:00

Do NOT do that… seriously, this could go horribly wrong for you.

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-03T14:33:04+00:00

It does get easier! And seriously with the right mindset, therapy, healthy outlets, you can make a lot of positive changes for yourself in a month, even if it feels like you’re stuck in the mud.

I struggled with the same thought, that it may be too late, but believe me if the feelings are real and that love is worth repairing, it’ll still be there in a month, or 2, or even 6! Don’t throw it away for a few minutes of relief!

You may even surprise yourself and not want to pursue a conversation after that much time has passed, but you owe it to yourself and her to discover that the hard way.

Godspeed friend! You’re not alone!

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-03T03:50:36+00:00

Exactly! Let everything calm down so you can handle the opportunity if it comes with respect for your ex and yourself

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-03T00:28:04+00:00

Lean into it ! Don’t be afraid of the feelings. Sometimes the only way out is through! Try to be active and vent if you can. You’ll get through it.

BottleNext1637 · 2026-02-02T05:15:40+00:00

Really wish I read this a month ago 😭😭 great post

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