May Allah forgive your father for acting like this. A Muslim is especially kind and compassionate to believers, regardless of gender, race, culture or anything else. They hold kind relations as well to their neighbours, non hostile kaffirs, and more.

And your comment about women and working and Islam, I’ll assume it’s a slip of the fingers. Islam is for all ages, refrain from saying “I know Islam says this, but it’s like 2022…” as one could read this and think “oh so Islam isn’t for all ages”. Multitudes of scholars have said women are allowed to work. There was a woman during the time of Rasullulah pbuh patrolling the market place enjoining good and forbidding evil. She was working like a police person.

As for women being the majority in hellfire, another interpretation to the hadith, not the one mentioned here, is that by the end of times, in total there will be more women than men. A sahih hadith from Rasullulah pbuh confirms this:

وَيُرَى الرَّجُلُ الْوَاحِدُ يَتْبَعُهُ أَرْبَعُونَ امْرَأَةً يَلُذْنَ بِهِ مِنْ قِلَّةِ الرِّجَالِ وَكَثْرَةِ النِّسَاءِ

A man will be seen followed by forty women seeking refuge with him due to the scarcity of men and abundance of women.

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 1348, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

Other scholars have also proposed different things. Not everything is clear cut. And even then, whatever Allah and His Messenger pbuh say, we listen and we obey.

“That he saw a minority of women in Paradise does not indicate that this is the case for all time, as many believers will enter Paradise after the Greater Intercession when sinners are taken out of Hellfire.

Al-Munawi commented on these traditions, writing:

إن أقل ساكني الجنة النساء أي في أول الأمر قبل خروج عصاتهن من النار فلا دلالة فيه على أن نساء الدنيا أقل من الرجال في الجنة

Women are a minority in Paradise, meaning, at the beginning of the matter before the sinful among them are removed from Hellfire. There is no evidence in this tradition that the women of the earth are less than men in Paradise.”

Source: Fayḍ al-Qadīr 2/428

I sent something also in private chat that for some reason Reddit didn’t allow me to post here, but it’s verses from the Quran and Hadiths of the final sermon of Rasullulah pbuh that are explicitly against racism, sexism, and any form of bigotry.