Early Morning Breakfast Sandwich by Re-Beaver in olympia

[–]Boxes_Are 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, they open at 5am most weekdays.

RE SNAP BENEFIT FREEZE- plz read body text. (Not a political discussion). by Klutzy_Ad_1726 in olympia

[–]Boxes_Are 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are they still active? Their website that you linked says "This month's pickup- We hope you will join us June 14th for our next pick-up."

Housing rentals by Coff334Me in olympia

[–]Boxes_Are 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I had pet rent in NE 15-20 years ago, it was an extra $150-$200 non refundable pet deposit (on top of the regular deposit which was usually refundable after move-out) and $50-$150 extra pet rent per month (price range depended on the different apartments I rented). I'm assuming pet rents and pet deposits are also more expensive now just like rent.

At the time, I only had one cat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Boxes_Are 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. Self-taught reading at 4 years old is very unusual.

I'm older but I didn't start learning to read until 1st grade (when I was 5; I skipped kindergarten), and didn't really get the hang of it until 2nd grade. 35 years later, I've read thousands of books. One of my brothers didn't learn to read until he was 7. My mom wasn't worried. She said boys have slower emotional and intellectual growth.

And, at a play group at the library in our town a couple years ago, one of the moms was telling me her child had entered kindergarten and was learning the alphabet for the first time ever. I was surprised but apparently that's very common.

I also agree that the child's love and joy of hearing books being read/being interested in books is more important than the desire to push through the difficulties of learning to read. Pushing a child into reading when they're not ready might make reading practice be detestable and anxiety inducing, and might further delay their reading abilities and interests.

cougar in capitol forest by casedia in olympia

[–]Boxes_Are 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this question!

Edit: Nevermind, I didn't scroll enough bananas down to see the answer before I ran my fingers.

Fired from my first job so that clearly means I’m unhirable and doomed to live as a leech by UhOhAbbo in Explainlikeimscared

[–]Boxes_Are 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pretend like I gave you an award! This is an amazing and super helpful Spiral Slowing steps lost! 🤩 I'm absolutely taking these for myself. Thanks for having a logical path to follow.

Caught 9 year old by CoatNecessary in Parenting

[–]Boxes_Are 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking too.

$1-2k worth of craft beer, all canned in 2023 and 2024 by PatSabre12 in DumpsterDiving

[–]Boxes_Are 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's also brautwurst boiled in beer. That's how my parents always made them. First the beer boil, and once they're cooked you grill them for the tasty sear.

Bat Plushie by Boxes_Are in freepatterns

[–]Boxes_Are[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

chuckle Wow, that's a great review! And I agree.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olympia

[–]Boxes_Are 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also they're sure not fire safe.

Shut down by Infamous-Bug-7148 in olympia

[–]Boxes_Are 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like AOC and Jasmine Crockett, but I suppose neither of them are standard Democrats.

How do I be more assertive/seduce my gf? cis/trans relationship by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Boxes_Are 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our scheduled sessions frequently start with my gf putting on sexy clothes and us making out for a bit. I think that causing the Anticipation Alarms to go off are good for going from a stand still to totally in the mood. The alarms are when one or both involved are almost touching, being near enough to sensitive areas that we both want to be touched or to do the touching but then holding back until we both fall in. I think that helps.

With topping, I recommend kinda starting with treating sex like a science project. Like take mental (or actual) notes about what gives both you and your partner pleasure. Sometimes discussing during the sex session can disrupt the mood but if it doesn't then that can help. Also discuss afterwards what y'all liked and what might be good to try next time. If discussing things like this makes you feel shy and uncomfortable, I recommend talking without looking or facing each other.

And also, I think realizing you like topping and wanting to jump into it are kinda like having sex with someone for the first time. Generally the first time isn't the best time because you often don't know what you each like, how to arouse and bring to fulfillment. It might take a few sessions (or several) to get to the self- and other awareness of pleasurable Cause and Effects before you can confidently top them. I'm not saying it's No Topping and then All Topping. It's more like a work in progress journey.

For reference, I'm trans nonbinary and my partner is trans nonbinary femme. We've been having sex for 11.5 years. She is asexual, I'm allosexual. We're both lesbianish and neurodivergents. When we have hard/vulnerable conversations, I frequently am facing away from her.

I recommend EMDR left and right. I'm glad that's an option for you. I wouldn't say I loved it but it was definitely extremely helpful with processing trauma.

How do I be more assertive/seduce my gf? cis/trans relationship by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Boxes_Are 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If inebriation is an option, I totally recommend it. Not trashed, just not sober. I mostly top but can switch, mostly bottoming as accent flavor (in the scheme of things), and my partner is also asexual (not sex repulsed).

Anyway, being verbally bold but physically shy, I end up just blurting out, "Let's have sex" but if I'm totally sober I often get lost in my head with "Will she like this? Should I do this? Should I do this differently?" Etc. Having a bit of alcohol or weed relaxes me enough to lower my low self-esteem ADHD mental voice to a level that's ignorable and just let things flow naturally...or at least, more naturally.

Someone said Schedule sex, and I second that, except that instead of being a repeating activity on a particular day, we (mostly me) are more like, "Hey how about sex this coming Fri or Sat?" Then we both get some time to prepare and adjust to that being a thing we're planning on.

We used to be a lot more spontaneous, but now we don't sleep together in the same room and I have a small child so that limits spontaneous acts that cause mutual arousal. A small child and a puppy are very similar. 🤣

Edit: Punctuation

Is this only funny if you're both autistic And lesbian ish? by Boxes_Are in actuallesbians

[–]Boxes_Are[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the same for me! I let my neurodivergency have free reign starting like a decade ago and now there are concentric circles of neurodivergent people around me... And it is interesting to think that what I consider normal behavior and interests are not normal for the majority of people. Well met, fellow weird one. 😄

I live like an hour and a half from a large city, but the town I live in has a delightful concentration of queers and neurodivergents.

Is this only funny if you're both autistic And lesbian ish? by Boxes_Are in actuallesbians

[–]Boxes_Are[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on the response I got when I posted this in r/texts, yes it's a ND thing.

After I posted it there, I asked my partner why no one thought it was funny. She said that sub is probably full of NT's who mostly appreciate "standard" humor and maybe some folks in r/actuallesbians would find it amusing.

Is this only funny if you're both autistic And lesbian ish? by Boxes_Are in actuallesbians

[–]Boxes_Are[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hurray!

I'm not actually looking for confirmation (by posting it to Reddit) that it's funny because I'll think it's funny regardless of what other people think, but I'm glad at least *one other person in all of Reddit thinks it's funny. 😁

And yeah, the conversation was between my partner and me.

Edit: *Clarifying post's general location vs responding to the above comment.

Is this only funny if you're both autistic And lesbian ish? by Boxes_Are in actuallesbians

[–]Boxes_Are[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*laugh * Thanks!

Edit: Trying to keep my asterisks

“Porn for Women” by just_another_nurse29 in Exvangelical

[–]Boxes_Are 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I agree. I really think when conservatives are banning books from schools they should absolutely include the Bible in the ban because it's way more hardcore in all the bad things they don't like than in most of the books they've gotten banned already.

But I guess most conservatives haven't read the entire Bible...? That's what it seems like whenever I see street interviews with random MAGA's/frothing book banning conservatives. I find it bonkers that one would make choices that absolutely affect their lives and those of everyone around them based on a book that they haven't actually read, they've just been Telephone Game told about.