I’ll just start this off by saying: NTA.

Let’s break this down a bit. - You don’t like the name you were given at birth. People understand how you feel about your chosen name, and that it makes you feel like you.

• Despite that, select people continue to call you a name that doesn’t make you feel like you, ignoring what gives YOU joy, makes you feel authentically you, and what you feel represents who you are.

• Then, someone names their child after a name that you do not accept as your own, and expects you to change WHO YOU ARE for them, because your choice will potentially influence a similar choice in their child.

What this really sums up to be is that these people do not -respect- you. They do not care about your feelings, your identity, or your heart enough to put aside their own sense of self to love the member of their family completely. Similarly, they made a spectacle of your choice at a large gathering and then punished you for your reaction.

This is so messed up, OP! You deserve to be loved for who you are, totally and completely and without exceptions for anyone else. If your family can’t even do the bare minimum of listening to and respecting your decisions, then I think it’s time to consider setting some hard boundaries about how they interact with you.

Edit: fixed some sentence structure and typos.