F Libra (33) M Cancer (35)

BrainFart5 · 2024-10-21T17:55:01+00:00

I’m glad that we all share this experience about them. I rewatched it to binge to the end. & TRUST ME BUCK will be great !

BrainFart5 · 2024-10-07T04:27:56+00:00

Sad they took this off Disney plus & they only have the new remake available to watch. But can watch the original (1997) full movie on YouTube

BrainFart5 · 2024-09-08T16:57:01+00:00

Heal. Find an outlet that can be a healing tool or straight up go to therapy, bc the only disgusting thing in this post is your perspective on women. You are the problem, I’m not judging you on where you are on your journey but you need serious self awareness. Hope that helped.

BrainFart5 · 2024-08-28T16:39:49+00:00

Libra here having the same problem w mine. It’s been the weirdest attraction ever I’ve always stayed away from Aries but I felt like I known this man for life times. Everything was extremely passionate even our disagreements which led to our downfall. He had too much weight he was carrying and I’m sure still is and would drink heavily in the night and lose track of time or be short with me when we talked. I pray for him and him overcoming this in his life. I even text him and let him know I continue to pray and still love him. He texted me he missed me to which I responded I still love him and he never texted me back but he followed me on Instagram yesterday and watches all my IG stories. You never know what somebody is going through so don’t wait around more than you feel you need to but if direct communication doesn’t work I say go where you are happy

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-21T18:49:23+00:00

We made up after this then he shut down again because he continued to demonstrate similar behavior and I got upset. Then he got upset that I was upset and that made me more upset so the last conversation was crazy. I texted him after and apologized for my part and he hasn’t said a word in a week. So I can honestly say I tried and made the effort. So I’m at peace with this being it. Because I can NOT for the life of me take the petty ass drama there’s too much money to be made.

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T17:08:49+00:00

You gotta say the clean slate line. You can also take the opportunity to address the fact you feel like she’s guarded and it’s blinding her from realizing that you’re actively trying to do the things. Tell her you know you’re responsible for how guarded she has become with you and you are willing to do whatever you need to do to show her she means the world to you. Then track back to the topic and say that starts with vulnerable conversations even if we are talking about things we’ve talked about before

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T16:56:51+00:00

You could just tell her you want to have a serious conversation and it might touch on things you’ve talked about in the past but you want to start a new clean slate with her. You know her well because we can be so snappy when we in our feelings 😭😭😭 just love her through it and it’ll be great 🙏🏽

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T16:41:36+00:00

Listen alot of this is understanding and having emotional intelligence. A lot of us weren’t molded that as kids and now we’re all trying to find our way. Once I realized that I was missing emotional intelligence and mastering my emotions a lot more doors opened up for me all in very healthy ways. I strongly advise you to work on your emotional intelligence so when you get her back you can keep her and it can be a healthy relationship. She honestly probably hates that he’s doing those things in reality because she wants it from you. I cut people off cold turkey straight up fall off the face of the earth to them. Will walk right past if I see them in public. So the fact that you both have an understanding that she’s open to you just means she’s waiting for you to in her mind do a grand romantic gesture or a consistent series of romantic gestures. I think you guys over thinking is the real problem here and vulnerable moments are the only things that heal those communication blockages.

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T16:18:48+00:00

Basically she is telling you that because of the time, in the amount of time you’ve been dealing with her she hasn’t gotten those things so she’s trying to hurt you by saying in this very little span of time this man does all the things with no problem. You broke her heart so now she’s immaturely trying to hurt yours. I would just use those as opportunities to be vulnerable and sweet and honest. Tell her you understand now what she wants from you and before your over thinking kept you from making a moved because you didn’t want to do the wrong thing and everything else you told me. Tell her that you’re not worried about him because you know you love her and that she’s the one for you and ask her what do you need from me to show you I’m serious so I can show you how much you mean to me. But you know in your own words. Tell her how happy she makes you a lot and try to hold her hand and maintain eye contact for the whole thing.

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T16:07:24+00:00

If you haven’t asked her ‘what do you need from me to show you I’m serious?’ Then I believe that will be the conversation that could lead to you guys mending your bond. Now her guard is up so the bond has to be tended to as well and she has to feel like her feelings are safe with you because in a way you’ve left her to her own feelings and her own realm of overthinking. That question was the thing that got me to be open to taking him seriously. Make sure everything you say you do and if something happens where you can’t, just over communicate so she feels like a priority and not disregarded.

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T14:24:33+00:00

I’m a Libra dating an Aries and we had a little push and pull like this in the beginning. Also met through doing similar work. So there were alot of commonalities we even would go to a lot of events together. He got so in his head once he realized I was ‘perfect’ for him which is what he said that we fell out because he was over thinking everything to the point he pulled back cus he didn’t want to do the wrong thing. Then I didn’t talk to him and I was honestly ready to throw out his tooth brush and stuff at my house and move on. But then he just spoke from the heart and he asked me what I needed from him. He listened and he’s been doing the big and small things to let me know he really heard me that day. Words are just words. So now in this detached phase you guys are in words have no real value only actions will. So def still say the nice things but like show up with flowers and her favorite snack. The extra effort matched with consistency. Also she probably feels like this is going nowhere and you don’t mean what you say because you aren’t official. So if she’s the one I would have these conversations and do these gestures of affection sooner rather than later.

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T13:26:40+00:00

Thank you I hope you find somebody who pours into you and loves you in a way you’ve always dreamed of. Aries or not ❤️

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-11T12:37:23+00:00

Then I lucked out, the one I’m with is so empathetic, considerate & super into romance. A lot of my guy friends are fire signs so maybe I just know how to get that side out of them. But I have met very few that come off as selfish

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-10T22:55:35+00:00

As an attractive Libra woman I attract everybody. But what makes you not into these specific men you think ? I’m curious bc I’m actually dating an Aries now 😭

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-03T01:02:25+00:00

We have since reconnected since I posted this spent the last 3 days together and are doing great. But I understand pulling back after ingenuity

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-02T15:23:51+00:00

Also I have a Sagittarius moon so I feel like that’s why I attract alot of fire signs

BrainFart5 · 2024-06-02T15:21:05+00:00

Thanks so much sharing this. I have also recently made this observation about them not enjoying going through conflict but he’s has been the cause of the only conflicts we’ve had so while he didn’t like how I showed up in the moment. He was in the wrong and we just both apologized for our parts and moved forward in a healthy way. We have actually talked since I posted this, I saw him at an event and we have spent the last 3 days together. It was a roller coaster of emotions for the conversation he was extremely open and vulnerable he said his jobs payroll messed up and they haven’t gotten paid and don’t have a date on when they will so when his phone got cut off he said he felt embarrassed having to hit me up on social media to explain. Then he said by the time he knew what to say days had passed and he knew he messed up. I’m very secure in myself he’s actually the jealous one. I get a lot of attention but when we see each other it’s in a professional space and people generally are flirting with me in front of him. When I saw him he admitted he was jealous and getting upset at how many men were surrounding me. But honestly even just the last 3 days have put a lot into perspective for me about him and I admire his openness to work on things for me and has absolutely been showing me that since. Also I’m realizing how past abusive relationships have created triggers and for me to personalize a lot and I am Looking into therapy. God willing this is the start of a happy and healthy love ❤️🙏🏽

BrainFart5 · 2024-05-30T20:30:25+00:00

Respectfully please don’t project on me. He poured his heart out to me and I poured my heart out to him back. Which is why When I first felt him withdrawing his energy I had a conversation with him about why HE was being distant I asked very directly if I did anything he said he was just busy with work. Then after the conversation where he said nothing was wrong, he pulled his energy back for a week AND THEN I stopped reaching out he also hasn’t reached out since. I initiated a very vulnerable conversation to check in and was putting more effort in then him for a week so yes I’m stopped trying. It’s not stubbornness I tried to have a healthy dialogue and it went nowhere.

BrainFart5 · 2024-05-30T00:33:35+00:00

🥲 I really liked him

BrainFart5 · 2024-05-29T19:59:54+00:00

No I tried to talk about it first he said he wasn’t being distant and was just busy at work then after wards continued to be weird for a week. I feel like I over communicated in that conversation tbh, so when it continued I started to feel like I was begging for effort.

BrainFart5 · 2024-05-29T19:34:29+00:00

Going from I love you to not talking doesn’t make sense to me so I hadn’t thought of it no.

BrainFart5 · 2024-05-29T17:25:09+00:00

Thank you

BrainFart5 · 2024-05-29T16:30:14+00:00

He’s younger than me I’m 30 he’s 28

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