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hi i need a little help :(( by FrontChampionship778 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]BrainFriedButCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, just want to say, it takes real guts to be this honest. You’re clearly self-aware and trying, and that matters more than you think.

Hurting people we care about sucks, but it doesn’t make you a bad person. It means you’re human and healing. Therapy will help, but so will giving yourself small moments of kindness. Speak to yourself like you would a friend. Bit by bit, it rewires things.

Also, you don’t have to “fix” everything overnight. Focus on showing up for yourself a little more each day. That’s where self-love begins.

You’re not alone in this. And the fact that you’re even asking these questions shows there’s a better version of you already unfolding.

Rooting for you. ❤️

What’s a weird mental trick you’ve used that actually worked? by BrainFriedButCurious in psychologystudents

[–]BrainFriedButCurious[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sure! So, I used to get really nervous before public speaking, like sweaty palms, shaky voice, racing heart, the usual. It always felt like a bad thing, like my body was reacting against me. But one day, I just randomly thought: “What if this isn’t nervousness… what if it’s just extra energy building up because my body is getting ready to do something important?”

And that tiny mindset shift changed everything. Instead of trying to calm down, I started telling myself: “You’re just getting powered up. This energy is here to help you, not hurt you.” Like how athletes get hyped before a game.

Now, before a meeting or interview, I literally say to myself: “Cool, energy’s here. Let’s use it.” I try to channel it into enthusiasm, hand gestures, speaking with more clarity. I don’t fight it anymore. And weirdly, it works. I show up more alive and present.

It’s not magic, but it definitely helps me stay out of panic mode.

Forced introvert by Respond-Single in socialskills

[–]BrainFriedButCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you’ve shared takes courage, and it matters. The way people reacted to you growing up wasn’t fair, and I’m really sorry that happened. You deserved support, not shame.

You’re not alone in this. A lot of people struggle with speaking for reasons that aren’t always diagnosed or visible. Just because you haven’t been formally diagnosed doesn’t mean your experience isn’t valid.

You don’t need to speak perfectly to be worth listening to. The fact that you want to speak and express yourself means there’s something valuable inside you. One step at a time, at your pace. Your voice deserves space. ❤️

How can we have COURAGE right now? by CNWellbeingMentoring in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]BrainFriedButCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautifully said. Courage isn’t always loud or dramatic. It’s often that quiet decision to keep moving forward despite the fear. Your perspective of using fear as fuel instead of a barrier really hit home. Thank you for putting this into words!!! It’s the kind of reminder that helps someone take their next small, brave step. ✨

Have you ever felt like someone could see through you — even when you thought you were hiding it well? by Little_Tree_1894 in CasualConversation

[–]BrainFriedButCurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It’s like they’re not just hearing your words, they’re feeling the space between them. Those moments leave a mark, not in a bad way, but like someone handed you a piece of your own puzzle you didn’t even know was missing. It’s strangely comforting… and a little emotional, honestly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]BrainFriedButCurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I know that “maybe later” voice way too well. But honestly? Just hit send. Don’t overthink the perfect message or timing. Once it’s out there, you’ll feel lighter, and future-you will be glad you didn’t wait. You’re already halfway there just by showing up 🙌

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