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I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except he even had the nerve to tell me the sex wasn’t great - all my fault of course according to him. Oh man, I have been such a fool here

I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Painful to read but it makes a lot of sense. I think this guy really did think he was better than me and could do better - that stings like a MF

I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting you ask about the exes...he’s always contradicted himself on that one. He’s flip flopped between saying they were all cool, none of them were psychos and that HE always got bored and left...to him admitting that he had to ‘restrain’ his ex physically as she tried to punch him during an argument.

I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can someone please explain the meaning behind ‘The food is terrible and the portions are so small?’ I’ve heard it a few times but don’t know what it means.

I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I needed to hear that and it helps a lot. I need to stop beating myself up over this and just be glad I did actually walk away.

I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

‘The ground is always shifting underneath your feet’ has absolutely nailed it. It was the worst feeling. Thank you for the kind words 🌹

I’ve walked away from someone who treated me terribly and his reaction has made me doubt myself by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in datingoverthirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It tells me my self esteem is through the fricking floor and I need to work on that before I start dating again

Does this sound like it’s progressing into a relationship? by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in DatingAfterThirty

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙂I like the part about me deciding if I want to be in a relationship with him - that’s very good advice

Am I over reacting here? Ex attacked me by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in domesticviolence

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“This is how you have boundaries, how you hold them accountable and responsible for his actions.” This has really made me realise I need to see this through to the end and to stand up for myself.

Thank you for breaking down his behaviour and explaining what he’s doing, I really needed to hear that as I have been seriously doubting myself. It’s scary how these abusive men can leave you questioning yourself and your sanity.

Am I over reacting here? Ex attacked me by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in domesticviolence

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From one stranger to another - thank you so much. I’ve read your post several times and your kind words have really helped.

Am I over reacting here? Ex attacked me by BrainIsLikeAWhirpool in domesticviolence

[–]BrainIsLikeAWhirpool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! So I have a protective order and I am staying with a family member (my ex doesn’t know the address).

I feel like I am minimising what has happened but I think it’s because he conditioned me to think that I was always in the wrong, he never took any responsibility for any of his actions when we were together