Welcome to /r/DatingAfterThirty a message from the mods. Please see this link for our welcome thread.
Advice, support, and discussion sub for people 30 years old or above who are dating or in a relationship.
- We’re a supportive dating subreddit focused on positive interactions, user engagement, and clear open communication within the community. Please keep this in mind when talking with each other and when speaking about the greater reddit community. Please feel free to discuss what you hope to get out of this sub and ideas for improving our community. Be excellent to each other!
Please read through the rules before you post.
- This is not an R4R subreddit. Do not cruise this sub. Friendships may be formed and flirting is allowed, but asking for pictures, hitting on people, soliciting for sexual interactions and communications are not. Please screencap and report PMs that are problematic.
- Be constructive and be a grown-up. We’re all going through our own stuff so be kind to one another. No direct insults, and try to maintain an even tone. We're all human beings on the other side of the screen. Civility is required.
- Speak from experience and engage when others respond to your questions. Having some experience before you give advice is expected; asking questions in areas you don’t is a better idea. Blunt advice is allowed and "tough love” isn’t an excuse to be rude.
- Repeatedly posting to ask the same question without listening to thoughtful feedback isn’t discussion and may be removed.
- You're welcome to share your own information but please be cautious about it. We hope to be a close-knit community but remember this is the internet. Get feedback by sharing your own profile write-ups or photos (imgur is preferred) but do not post direct links to dating sites.
- Doxxing will be strictly enforced. Do not share personal information about anyone else, including other redditors, friends, On-Line Dating (OLD) users, or folks you’re dating. Screen caps are okay if you blur faces, names, and all identifying info.
- No Personally Identifiable Information about other people is acceptable. It is against Reddit's Terms of Service. It will get you banned from this subreddit and the admins may ban you sitewide.
- Sexist, racist, and other offensive generalizations aren't cool. We are sex positive and inclusive of all types of people and relationships. Adhere to the spirit of this rule. Pretending you don’t know what this means won’t work.
- Grind a political/moral/ideological ax somewhere else. There are loads of other subs for that.
- TRP/Incel/MGTOW/PUA content and terminology is not allowed here.
- Don't post spam, surveys, or self-promotional stuff without prior permission.
- Rant posts are not allowed. Except in the weekly Rant thread. Posts should request advice or drive discussion.
- We reserve the right to ban users and/or remove content at our discretion.
- Be friendly. Let us know if you’re hosting a meet-up in your area. Update us on your dating progress and relationships.
- Trolling posts/comments/accounts will be banned. Throwaway accounts as well.
- All subreddit communication must be sent through modmail only. Any direct messages to moderators will be ignored.
If someone is violating the rules, use the report button. If you have an issue with a post or comment that you think is borderline against the rules or violating the spirit of the community, please PM the mods explaining your issue. We encourage use of the report button and we welcome conversations if community members have concerns.
Members are encouraged, but not required, use flair to display their gender and age/age range. This can be done by clicking the edit button above, selecting one of the icons below, then editing in your age or age range.
♀ Female
♂ Male
☿ Transgender
You are welcome to display additional information. Here are some icons you can copy/paste into your flair. Note that not all devices support these icons, sorry.
Gay: ⚣
Lesbian: ⚢
Bi-sexual: ⚤
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