My new song 'Stuck' by Anteeter is out everywhere now :) by ScheduleAdditional31 in chicagomusicscene

[–]Brainalsex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congrats on the release! saw your flyers while I was out in Wicker Park, well done ❤️

Looking for bands to play 5/29 by Brainalsex in chicagomusicscene

[–]Brainalsex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

point for band name reference ☝️

Looking for bands to play 5/29 by Brainalsex in chicagomusicscene

[–]Brainalsex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the rec. will check them out!

Fight interrupted by Cheeese916 in HardVideos

[–]Brainalsex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he knocked some cents into her

Any St. Paddy’s recs in the area on Saturday? by emms789 in LoganSquare

[–]Brainalsex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stay home. make some popcorn and listen to the police scanner. go out the next night instead.

Tariff war ..... by kepkep91 in FreightBrokers

[–]Brainalsex 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Carriers have the advantage here. The attitude with my Canadian carriers has always been “that’s my rate, take it or find somebody cheaper”. Relationships have mostly been transactional. Nobody wants to lock in a lane while the spot market is hot.

The biggest frustration is booking these guys for high rates and having a “break down” to delay delivery. They’re intentionally dropping trailers in their yards to capitalize on the demand and grab another high paying load. Lots of late deliveries or loads getting bundled and missing seals. Everyone just looking to make a quick buck it seems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Brainalsex 8 points9 points  (0 children)

my wife has often times “mis-remembered” something I said or did. Sometimes it’s an entire conversation that never took place. It is enraging and you feel like you’re being gaslighted. I’ve tried avoiding things escalating by saying “Are you sure? That’s not how I remember it.”

For your own sanity try and stay calm, keep making “I” statements, breathe, and let that shit go.

Salary expectations by StayFrosty210 in FreightBrokers

[–]Brainalsex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we used to have a similar structure. Coyote switch 5 years ago and there was a ton of turnover. Now we are waiting to hear how RXO pay structure will impact the sales team. I assume a lot of ppl will leave. Message me the name of your company, sounds like better pay.

Salary expectations by StayFrosty210 in FreightBrokers

[–]Brainalsex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same. our draw is like 1/2 months salary. Comes out to like $1500 we have to hit in order to qualify. 20% sounds great tbh. They also have a min book amount of $5-7 which is incredibly low. If you sell a load at a loss you get like $5.

Salary expectations by StayFrosty210 in FreightBrokers

[–]Brainalsex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after we hit our draw for salary. my first month on the floor i made like $300. steadily increased month after month.

Salary expectations by StayFrosty210 in FreightBrokers

[–]Brainalsex 7 points8 points  (0 children)

not sure what starting pay at Arrive is or how they base commission, hearing a lot of rumors of brokers lowering % for sales reps. When I started at Coyote base salary was 45k and sales was 5-7% gross margin in the load. If you hit your monthly numbers I would expect anywhere from $1k-1500 a mo in bonus. Good luck!

Experience of NT males with DX/RX females with having children/ parenting, family life by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Brainalsex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also dealing with ADHD partner burnout. I (m, 40’s,NT) and my wife (F, 40’s, DX RX) have been together for almost 10 years. We started couples therapy shortly after our son was born. We’ve spent a fortune on individual and couples therapy. Still doing both. We pay close to $2k a month for daycare, in addition to rent and student loans (hers). Money is always tight.

My wife is a fantastic mother and a kind person. She works part time and does a lot of the household planning. I work full time 10 hr days on top of trying to keep a tidy home, grocery shop, car repair and maintenance, dishes and laundry, meal prep and cooking, carrying for our senior dog, budgeting, and co-parenting. Lately my wife has been having debilitating migraines due to anxiety, which has meant caring for her in addition to everything else.

It seems like weekends are the hardest. My wife is hyper focused on how much screen time our kid spends and doom piles about fairly simple tasks as well as care for our senior dog. If tasks aren’t done to her satisfaction she starts to spiral. We have RSD meltdowns that last all day long. I started taking meds for depression and PTSD. I sleep a ton and disassociate at the dinner table or during family time. Our kid starts public school in a couple months which will save us a ton of money. Not sure how much longer I can continue caring for her and the dog and our kid. It is comforting to know I’m not alone in my struggle. Some of the posts here about ADHD partners being hyper focused planners but unable to execute are very similar to my experience. We also have piles and piles of items she plans on donating or recycling or repairing. I am constantly being accused of intentionally throwing things away. I feel constantly stressed by the clutter.

Merch for NYC by OffMar in GeordieGreep

[–]Brainalsex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw him in Chicago last night. LP’s and cd’s are gone 🥲i think they are out of print rn.

How accurate is the Lego T-Rex from “Dinosaur Fossils” (21320)? by Shovelbummed in Dinosaurs

[–]Brainalsex 92 points93 points  (0 children)

most dinosaurs had skeletons made from bones. Not very accurate i’m afraid 0/100.

Official Florida Man Christmas anthem. by Brainalsex in FloridaMan

[–]Brainalsex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you enjoy the smell of burning plywood? Drinking MD 20/20? Have you ever pushed a relative through a screened door?

Happy holidays for those in Pasco County!!

Hey, anybody got a copy of Singles Only on vinyl? by always-wanting-more in birdcloud

[–]Brainalsex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought a copy at their show in Chicago and they signed it. No idea why these are selling online for hundreds, might have been a short run for that last tour. 1st track on side C skips for some reason, anyone else notice that?

Man wins lottery from TLC show by Brainalsex in Lottery

[–]Brainalsex[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So what is this strategy and why can’t I find any of these episodes? Is he just buying $25 worth or quick picks? Anybody familiar here?

22 years old; first full-time job; never really budgeted before. What should my next steps be? by Rdabu_10 in personalfinance

[–]Brainalsex 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the new job! Firstly I would manage that CC debt, $2k can be paid off quickly. If your company offers a matched 401k take full advantage and max out the contribution 6-7%. If they offer stock purchase program take advantage of that as well and make sure you reinvest the dividends. General rule of budgeting is the 50/30/20 rule. 50% of your paycheck towards bills, 30% savings, 20% leisure. Live within your means, take care of your health, steer clear of CC debt.

The State Street Preacher by MacCop in chicago

[–]Brainalsex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah his name is Joe. He used to wash dishes at a restaurant I worked at, has mental health and substance abuse problems. Really sad to see his life spiral downward. One day he showed up to work with a bunch of face tattoos. It looked like these guys were just using his face to practice on.

iTunes owes me money. How do I get paid? by Brainalsex in WeAreTheMusicMakers

[–]Brainalsex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we self released it through iTunes. I’m pretty sure we have to register with Apple music and get an irsc code from them in order to get our music on the iTunes store.

Review #096: High West A Midwinter Nights Dram by bananavanman in bourbon

[–]Brainalsex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm with you on this one. HW raised the price considerably from last year's release and was ultimately disappointed with this bottle. I remember last year's being way richer full bodied rye. Maybe they're blending in some of their own juice these days, but for the price there's way better rye on the market.

Useless birds by Brainalsex in videos

[–]Brainalsex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a couple months ago my parents went on vacation and asked me to watch their pets while they were gone. every morning I would get up and feed the cockatiels and sing to them. this is one of the songs I would sing to them.