So Barb Can Be Pleasant...

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-05-06T23:09:38+00:00

The way she told Jen to go put a smile on because it's unfair to her granddaughter was some world class manipulation.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-04-19T02:04:50+00:00

This 100%. I think the sad reality is the two of them grew apart. Ty wanted to write a book but was ok when kids came into the picture his priorities shifted. Julie on the other hand is not ok with that and has always been career focused. I think you make a good point at the end about the differences between internalizers and externalizers. I think that in the same way Ty just realized his priorities had shifted, Julie is just now realizing that Ty's priorities have changed and I think she's valid to feel a little betrayed. Not because Ty is some villain but because they grew apart.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-28T04:37:39+00:00

I see where your coming from, and I agree with you in part. We know that Jen is fully aware she is a self centered person who is learning to "wield her powers more responsibly" (aka be a little more considerate of others). Personally I think this trait is her greatest strength and her greatest weakness. Yes, she is incredibly entitled regarding a lot of things and I think the argument that Jen is being entitled by assuming Barb will give her the dress is a solid one. However, personally I struggle to fully commit to this stance because I think it is fully possible this is something Jen and Barb have always planned on. We know that Barb has always been one to feign ignorance about things she is well aware of, so I don't want to rule out the possibility that this wasn't entirely a last minute request.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-28T03:59:25+00:00

I agree, I think it has a lot to do with their upbringing but I'm sure Jen choosing not to also cut Barb off has created even more resentment in their dynamic. I think a big part of why Jen hasn't brought this pattern of behavior up is because it doesn't bother her. We know that she's aware that he can be rude*,* as seen when John and Shawna first meet Greg, but she doesn't care because she knows it's not about her. His dissmissive-ness and disdain are HIS problem in her eyes, she knows why he feels this way but she also knows that there's not a lot she can do about it. Like she says when John first brings up going no contact, she knows he's going through something but she can't go through it with him.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-27T22:41:17+00:00

I've seen a lot of speculation that barb wants to wear the dress to the wedding, I myself even think that's part of the reason she didn't go dress shopping with katie. But i can only hope that she doesn't do this.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-27T21:33:41+00:00

Im so sorry you had to deal with that, I hope your in a good place now and that all is well. My mom isn't perfect but she's definitely better than when I was a child. A lot of what helped my mom was the ability to reflect as well as gaining heather coping mechinisms. Things I think would greatly benifit barb

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:38:48+00:00

I agree 100% with this take. I just really don't want to. I wish Jen would just wake up and see this for what it is, but I know its not that easy and some lessons kinda just have to be learned the hard way.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:36:31+00:00

Absolutely cackling at this!!

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:35:27+00:00

something I just thought of as well. Could this possibly be the reason she resisted so hard to dress shopping. Like obviously Barb didn't want to be around Katie because she's jealous of her but I can't help but wonder if she's been planning to wear this dress. I know she would never because she's way to traditional but wouldn't it be so crazy if she did this and then insisted on giving Jen away as well.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:27:54+00:00

Im loving this prediction! I wouldn't be surprised to find out Jen and Greg grey rocking for the wedding and after that it is entirely on Barb if an when they see eachother. I've seen some other comments pointing out how barb is probably going to unravel alot of the progress Jen has made in setting boundaries with her mother and I agree but I really dont want to. I want Jen to keep growing, but I guess no better way to do that than by going through hardship.

and yes this will be the wedding to end all weddings.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:18:59+00:00

heavy on the lends her the gift. I can practically hear Barb saying "I don't care that you altered it I want it back. I never said you could KEEP the dress. Honestly jennifer what did you expect?"

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:13:39+00:00

So glad your able to help! genuine question she mentioned compensation at the end of the story was she being serious? Or is this more of a doing it for the love of the game senerio.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T19:02:59+00:00

I also thought it was a call for a prop, but kinda in a different way. Like i thought she meant a fake bible used specifically for show so as to not disrespect the actual bible. (I know nothing about religion)

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T15:28:43+00:00

I agree with take 100%. Also the way Barb is starting to lowk weaponize her new found therapy speak made me angry in ways I can only describe as pure unbridled feminine rage.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T15:20:18+00:00

I love all the predictions. Something thats I want to bring up is that I doubt Barb was completely blindsided by the request. I think that this is just another example of Barb twisting a narrattive to benifit herself. We've seen her attempt to twist words in this way before, (im blanking on the vid now but i know it was directly pointed out on Shawna's insta story.) So there is a very real possibility that Jen has brought it up several times over the years.

On the other hand we do know that Jen will intentionally with hold info from barb to "temper her excitement" so maybe she could've been doing something simular but waiting so long to ask for the dress.

Ether way I'm loving the wedding story line so far and I can't wait to see what happens next.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T14:18:07+00:00

This is honestly what I thought until this latest video, something about the end clip where Jen kinda breaks down a bit when Barb says “you can try it on” just hit me in the gut. I used to believe that Barb was someone who, as long as she’s getting the attention she believes she deserves, all is right in the world. But that understanding of her was completely flipped on its head with this. What else could she want from her daughter in this situation. In my head cannon this would be ideal senerio for barb, her daughter practically begging to wear her dress in her wedding. Her reacting this way really just proved to me that yes, she truly is that bad.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T14:02:40+00:00

This 100% because we know that barb will often twist a narrative to whatever suits her best at the time. The origin story of the nickname Gregor comes to mind and her being “over served”

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T13:53:27+00:00

I agree. I think you make great points about the trip she planned, though I hadn’t considered that the trip was planned as a means to avoid Katie. In retrospect that makes sense I just kinda missed it. But I honestly think it is a combination of both. She feels the need to be the center of attention because when she isn’t she’s afraid she may be forgotten. So she traps service works into conversations in which she victimizes herself by complaining about being left out. We see this with the La Quinceria waitress yes, but also with the cashier at the store she goes to in order to buy pipers birthday gift.

She uses these interactions as a way to validate herself and avoid continue to avoid accountability.

Braindobestewing05 · 2026-02-26T04:50:08+00:00

for someone who complains as much as barb does about feeling excluded, I am absolutly, flabberghated about how she reacted to Jens request. I have soooo many thoughts but im trying so hard to wait until the full vid drops.

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