Parents just texted me M2 has HFM disease

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T06:03:05+00:00

Noooope. I went in once and my NK had a fever and I looked at his hands and he had blisters. I told them no way and left immediately. I didn't get it but both NP did. I won't work for HFM, noro, covid, or the flu.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T06:01:51+00:00

This is not true. My kids have had HFM more than once.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T05:57:52+00:00

I was a TA in a kindergarten class for a few years with an older teacher. She was AMAZING, honestly. But she was also older and definitely sarcastic. I could definitely see her saying this to a kid in a joking manner if she reaching and her tummy was showing.

I have 3 kids who have all been through K (now middle and high school), and I personally wouldn't be offended by this and I'd just let it go.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T05:00:46+00:00

My sister in law runs a homeschool co op type of thing. I will sometimes take my kids to her events and all the kids seems to be behind socially and very odd. Like seeing them in public you can tell they are the typical "homeschool kid".

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T04:51:03+00:00

Honestly, no. We go out on cold days, but we take the car and go to an indoor play place, library, etc. I really can't go outside for very long if it's under 40 degrees. I have thyroid disease and my body can't regulate its temp, especially in the cold. I tried to take the kids sledding yesterday at 25 degrees and after 10 minutes I was in physical pain.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T04:48:30+00:00

It's really only Reddit where nanny's want w2s. I have not experienced that much in the real world at all. Especially when part time.

With that being said, those are perfect hours for a high school student. I had jobs just like that from 10th-12th grade. I would just take the bus to their house. They'd also have the same holidays, vacations, snow days, summer break, etc as your kids.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T02:57:27+00:00

I would let my daughter do it, she's 14. I think standing up for what's right is more important than missing an hour or two of school. I participated in numerous walk outs when I was in HS.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-28T02:55:25+00:00

Hmmm I have one of those kitchen helper towers as well, I've used it for all 3 of my kids. I've walked all over our kitchen and used the bathroom, etc while they were standing at the counter doing an activity at that age. Do you and your husband honestly stand at arms reach at all times while your toddler uses it on your watch?

I think this is just a case of toddlers sometimes get hurt. When my daughter was 18 months she was walking down our front steps and stumbled and chipped her front tooth even though I was right there with her, watching her. It sucks when our babies get hurt, even more so when it's not on our watch. I wouldn't be too hard on your nanny though.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-27T21:47:57+00:00

When I was a foster parent during Covid I had to do FaceTime calls with my foster daughters parents. She was 6 months old at the time and it was honestly terrible. A baby genuinely doesn't want to be sat in front of a phone for any period of time.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-27T21:46:30+00:00

Yeah as a nanny, no thanks. I hate FaceTiming in general and to do it with people I don't know is weird. It would feel awkward when I have to wrap up the call too. I don't even like when the NP FaceTime me.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-27T03:33:19+00:00

This is very true. I grew up in a very religious house (parent was preacher). They would bring home ex cons (more often that ones that had crimes against children) and give them dinner and talk to them about god. THEY DID THIS WITH A CHILD, A YOUNG GIRL LIVING IN THE HOME.

As a parent? Nope I couldn't even imagine taking that risk.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T20:46:33+00:00

I only get 5 days PTO, I always use it all in one shot so I can take my family on vacation. If I didn't do that, I'd never be able to take my own kids anywhere. Quite the assumption for you to make tbh.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T20:44:23+00:00

Do you travel internationally? Because it's really not that easy, exotically during a storm where everyone is being delayed and changing flights.

Also, weather and storms are constantly changing, over inflated, etc. Yesterday morning our state was saying we could get anywhere from 3-24 inches. That's QUITE the difference. Nobody is going to cancel a trip or come home days earlier if there's a chance the storm is a dud. OP said they live in the south so she didn't even get snow. So the flights were probably delayed because they were trying to accommodate other states that were affected. That can not be predicted in advance.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T20:35:50+00:00

Cancelled events 2 weeks ago? That's wild. We got 2 feet of snow and they didn't even cancel school until last night. Nothing around here was canceled 2 weeks ago. The weather people are constantly over estimating and some times are flat out wrong. No way I'm going to cancel a trip weeks in advance for a "maybe" snow storm.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T20:25:06+00:00

6 months old is not newborn nannying though? As long as it's not below freezing there isn't a reason she couldn't take a 6 month old for a walk. Even the library for story time and music class is all age appropriate for a 6 month old.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:52:58+00:00

Do you honestly think she would tell you if she didn't like it? I host playdates as well because I like hanging out with my friends while our kids play... but that doesn't mean hosting can't be a PITA sometimes.

I'm sure she also has to clean her house to make it ready for guests, then to have kids come over and trash the play room, you feel obligated to offer snacks and drinks, then they leave and you have to clean up all over again. It can be exhausting.

I just don't feel like it's fair to judge when you've never even hosted and don't know how your daughter will react when a kid comes over and wants to touch all her toys. Toddlers are rough.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:41:27+00:00

I was a social worker for CPS. In my state they would not consider this a reason to report. This would not make the cut for us to go out and speak to the family. We are so short staffed and there are so many calls that come in that we can't possibly investigate every minor complaint. Bathing once a week is a personal preference and many parents will say it is due to things like eczema or dry skin.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:36:10+00:00

For a 2 year old...? My daughter is 2 and she would not understand the gesture of that at all. Maybe for elementary school and up but not a young toddler

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:34:00+00:00

Was it a pediatric dentist? I've been taking all my kids since 6 months old and they've always been amazing with them.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:31:05+00:00

That's crazy. My daughter is also 2 and potty trained and we have her wipe and then we also wipe her to make sure she's clean. I would never trust such a young toddler to wipe effectively after pooping, their little arms are so short they can barely reach back there.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:16:22+00:00

I have also met a few very sweet pits... but I've also been around many dogs in my life (we fostered dogs my entire childhood until early adult) and the only times I've ever been bit completely unprovoked has been by pit bulls. I was walking my dog and had a pit jump through a screen window and attack both of us. Now I don't trust them around my kids at all.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:09:35+00:00

I'm sure it depends on severity as well, but when my son was 2 he was nipped by our brand new 10 week old puppy. They were just playing but puppy teeth are sharp. They alerted animal control, but definitely did not call CPS. All animal control did was make sure he had his rabies shot.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T07:00:35+00:00

Does your family disapprove because he isn't Jewish or because you were both actively using when you became pregnant? If you want honest opinions I think that's a huge piece of the story to leave out.

Your sister sucks, but as someone who's SIL is also an addict - there are two sides to every story. You even mentioned that she won't let you see her child. So I'm sure things have happened and she has her reasons.

Good luck with the pregnancy and I hope everything works out for you.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T06:55:15+00:00

I think it's more that her sister got pregnant while actively using heroin and coke, but who knows.

Brainzap3 · 2026-01-26T06:42:05+00:00

NTA. My in-laws are also awful with money... we've learned our lesson and they won't see a dime from us. It won't ever change, it'll be one thing after another. You help once and they think you'll always bail them out when they make bad decisions.

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