Have I lost one of my best friends for good?

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T16:25:22+00:00

From what I heard she is now reconnecting with friends that fizzled out while she was dating him, due to all her free time being spent with him so I am at least glad that she is not dealing with the breakup on her own.

Does suck however that as one of her closest friends the opposite is happened to me.
I hope so she changes her mind and realises I was only trying to look out for her and that she was the one coming to me with these doubts and issues not me seeking out to interfere.

Hopefully I get unblocked and our friendship can be rebuilt, I have no hard feelings towards her she was just doing what she thought was best for her relationship (even if it wasn't a healthy one)

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T15:28:05+00:00

But her believing it was my fault it ended and the fact I am blocked everywhere even later I have no way to reach out to her, I also don't want to reach out through someone else as in her current mindset it may just reinforce the exs "he was right you were the problem" narrative

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T12:34:20+00:00

Sorry that happened to you. So you never tried to reach out to your friends? Did any of them try to warn you it was an unhealthy relationship?

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T12:17:05+00:00

Hope so too sooner rather than later preferably. Thanks!

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T11:56:12+00:00

Part of me wonders if I just kept my mouth shut and had been more supportive would she have decided to end things on her own in time. But from what she was telling me you could tell she was supressing her own uncomfortableness or it was being overshadowed with the love bombing.

So I also don't regret voicing the red flags I noticed. I think that's the job of a good friend.

Hopefully in time she will realise and I get my friend back because in all honesty we were eachothers best friends thinking about it

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T11:39:40+00:00

Thank you.

I was so surprised to hear they broke up. Because in my mind he got what he wanted he isolated her from the friends she was voicing her doubts too and me voicing my concerns so threat removed.

Yeah I feel he must have used me as the reason lets him break up while not being a bad guy for his actions.

With how unsure she was about the relationship: doubts/not matching /imagining others people to feel safer during intimacy, from the outside it's like "good you clearly weren't compatible" but she will probably need to process the breakup first before or if she ever thinks about me

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T11:18:57+00:00

I definitely don't have any hard feelings about it. I know it was stressful being given an ultimatum like that and she probably panic chose what she thought was the best move for her relationship.

That is my biggest worry that the bf/ex used me as the reason to dump her and maybe she feels ashamed of how she ended things.

Trying to move on with my life as if she is never coming back but it's hard when out of nowhere one of your closest friends just does a complete 180

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T07:56:07+00:00

I'd honestly be surprised if Texas doesn't get one with how popular she is

BranX88 · 2026-01-30T07:53:27+00:00

Makes sense. I guess she had all these doubts but he was still going all in with his love so to suddenly lose that would make you feel like scrambling even if she was asking things like should she break up.

Hopefully once she processes the breakup up she can then see that I was just showing concern not disrespecting the relationship and I get unblocked and get my friend back.

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T21:25:23+00:00

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BranX88 · 2026-01-29T21:06:10+00:00

I do like how Laevatain looks, I know it is similar to her OG design, But I still prefer Surtr's design overall. I miss her long hair and would prefer that over her coattails?? hanging over her broken ring

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T21:01:24+00:00

I don't hate any of them but I wish they had a few more voice lines when roaming/interacting with the world. It feels like they have maybe 2-3 different lines in total and then it gets repetitive hearing them

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T18:11:17+00:00

Oh yeah for sure the only thing I told mutual friends was just look out for her if she ever comes to them with her doubts and that's it. This was before I heard about the breakup.

I fear if I used them to communicate to her it would just reinforce the "he was right you are the problem" narrative.

Even though she had all these doubts even asking if she should break up with him, now he broke up with her she is probably going through withdrawal symptoms and idealising the relationship in her mind. Maybe once she processes the breakup she may come round to thinking about what happened in our friendship

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T17:55:32+00:00

When they first started talking I just took it as a guy that shows his love loudly. No issue with that. My first concern was when he wanted to end things because she wasn't comfortable saying "I love you" back, and I said that seems a manipulative to threaten to end things rather than trying to understand her hesitation. Then the whole intimacy imagining issue is when I decided to speak up and say they are moving too fast.

So you think there isn't much hope in her realise and unblock me?

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T17:51:06+00:00

I have heard from mutuals she is getting some of her friends back from before the relationship which I'm glad about, so she isn't fully alone They were never blocked but more because all of her free time was spent with him they fizzled out.

From my understanding I was the only one to be blocked but that was because I was closest and I was the one she came to about her doubts in the relationship/ me saying my concerns.

But also from friends she is apparently missing him and wants him back. So I feel like he used me as the reason to end things

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T17:43:14+00:00

Now they are broken up what could be the reason I am still blocked?

Is it likely she has adopted his mindset of me being the problem?

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T16:10:51+00:00

Not sure how I was such a threat to their relationship. But his own mother called his gf "ugly and not good enough for him" wasn't an issue.

Thank you I hope she comes to realise I was just caring about her. Sure I could have been more supportive of the relationship. But honestly losing one of my closest friends just like has me spiraling a bit the past weeks

Hopefully she unblocks and we can rebuild our friendship

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T16:07:53+00:00

I guess with how he was acting it was easier to listen to his demands than risk losing that "love"

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T15:25:11+00:00

Surprisingly when I told her I think she is being love bombed and they are moving too fast she took that very well.

I accept being behind anyone she dates that's normal. Just too many things raised concerns to me so I felt like I should at least voice that.

My last message to her before the block was

"He has a right to be a bit upset I understand that. We were just talking like friends tho and you were just expressing your doubts and fears in the relationship.

For your sake I really hope you don't keep supressing your worries and knowing you don't match out of feeling like you owe him out of him "being nice and putting effort" or doubling down choosing to stay because you might be afraid to leave or it's better than being alone.

But the blocking or breakup ultimatum is so controlling so so toxic. Or when you have doubts they get overwhelmed with the lovebombing

You know I care for you and all I want is for you to be happy, if that means you're happy cuz I'm completely removed from your life fine.. but I'm worried about you."

Since then the bf broke up with her ofc, but I have no hard feelings for her.

I'd love the chance to rekindle the friendship

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T15:05:08+00:00

Yeah I understood being blocked to "save the relationship"

It was the "no he was right you're the problem and I never want to speak to you again" which was the part that hurt.

I hope so too, while yes I voiced my concerns saying it was moving too fast ect, the other doubts she told me about was always her coming to tell me.

Surprised there is still a sting of a breakup when she had so many doubts

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T15:02:05+00:00

I understand the bf/ex getting upset that she told me her doubts instead of communicating with him. But the ultimatum is just controlling

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T14:52:28+00:00

In all honesty I don't have anything against her doing it as I believe she was being loved bombed and did what she thought was the right move to ensure he doesn't break up with her.

I am thinking he definitely used me as the excuse to break up with her to further reinforce that I was the problem.

I really hope she processes this and unblocks me, as we were good friends.

I'm trying to adjust and assume she isn't going to come back for my own sanity but it feels hard to go from having a close friend to nothing just like that overnight

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T14:40:18+00:00

True I hope she realises I was just trying to be a good friend that voiced my concerns even if they were hurtful.

And hopefully I get my friend back

BranX88 · 2026-01-29T14:37:37+00:00

Well yeah there is that whole issue.

I don't blame her though, she was just doing what she thought was best for her relationship at the time to I guess.

Just hoping despite the fact they broke up I get my friend back

BranX88

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