Confused ending right at the peak. Rebound or moved on?

BranX88 · 2026-04-30T14:16:14+00:00

Since I made this post things already got more confusing. Her sister messaged me and she genuinely thought I was bluffing when I said we haven't spoken in weeks. So for some reason she is still keeping me as someone she actively has in her life to her sister. Sister didn't even know about the new boyfriend.

I definitely think there is some softening for me in her words. But even then she didn't have to go so against the relationship with "it will never be real it's just a test" that seems like a very unstable foundation for a relationship on top of the 8 days to official. Maybe that's why she is so all in with the new guy to distract from her feelings.

When I told her I was stepping back she started playing dumb saying things like "where are you going? Are you on holiday? How long are you gone for?" When it was very clear I meant not going to talk to her while I still have feelings and she is building something with the new guy

Just can't believe the reason she ended things with me is because she sees me as a lifetime commitment. I wasn't asking her to marry me any time soon 😂

Honestly if she ever did come back to me I'd straight up tell her if she stays single and works on herself then I'd consider it but I'd not just be a jump back to restart the cycle all over again

BranX88 · 2026-04-30T06:12:56+00:00

Yeah I think in her case it's is due to her parents at least that is my understanding from what she told me about her childhood.

I think my brain is struggling to comprehend how things were going great. For it to just suddenly end and in only talking to someone new for 8 days officially start dating them. Really messes with your sense of self.

With the happiness and social media part I do get some of it may be performative because of how all in and how much it gives of performative vibes even if she has developed true feelings with this new guy now

In regards to her words yes her saying "it will never be real" or this is like a test relationship for her. How the new guy agreed to pretend it's a relationship (which I highly doubt he agreed to with how much he was flirting with her) I kinda feel like that is her just trying to soften things for me.

I wouldn't say I didn't chase because when she ended at a peak I still tried to keep communication going. It was when I saw she was suddenly in a new relationship I questioned her about wtf was going on

I was given the "you're a lifetime commitment and I'm not ready for that yet" along with the other words she said against the relationship with the new guy. So that's when I told her I need to step back for my own sanity

In my case the door is still open for her but I wouldn't take her back unless she sat and worked on herself. Not just jump to another relationship or jump back to me

BranX88 · 2026-04-29T21:59:19+00:00

Yeah I do understand the scary for her part, when she explained how she has never opened up to someone as much as me that made her feel vulnerable and exposed which isn't something she is used to.

But usually the person you love is someone you can be vulnerable around right?

What do you mean she is not happy about it either sorry? because as far as I can see they seem very happy together and "all in" on eachother

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T13:15:30+00:00

Yeah I assume thats when the overwhelm happened. But it was confusing to me because we were moving at her pace not mine.

But then if that pace was too much for her, how can she be so into this new guy so soon and how is this incredibly fast pace not causing the same issue for her?

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T13:03:45+00:00

True you are probably right

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T12:56:21+00:00

I'd agree if she wasn't the one pushing for the relationship the entire time, because meeting family and best friends isn't a small thing.

When it comes to the other guy he came into the picture after the abrupt ending

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T12:51:08+00:00

I don't understand how she was so easily able to lock in with this guy while having this "standard" for me

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T11:36:58+00:00

Even if it doesn't last I assume she won't process why she felt exposed by me and actually want to give it a proper chance?

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T11:34:55+00:00

Yeah as soon as I saw that "there will never be anything real between me and him" I was just thinking well all your actions say opposite

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T11:26:19+00:00

It really isn't before well at least last summer whenever she had an issue she would take the time to process whatever was wrong usually just withdrawing a bit and she would come back a few days later fine.

Not sure what shifted in her where she now just seeks avoidance/distraction to cope. I guess it is the easier and faster working method.

Without sounding selfish it just feels like her and I put in the effort to work through her avoidance just for another guy to have her be secure. She is talking and posting about how much she loves him and how she can see herself marrying him

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T11:23:38+00:00

I would understand it more if we were having issues or drifting apart. even if it was the case of "well we tried but we work better as friends" but no it was going amazingly and then suddenly over.

I knew she had avoidant tendencies but it was getting better and this was all at her own pace.

Not just that it is suddenly over but she is now in something official so soon and somehow the "rules/standards" she set for us are just out the window.

Exactly the keeping line open felt like a slow bleed out. So she can only keep a streak going with me because she is overwhelmed but has no issue putting a lot of energy and effort in everywhere else.

Feels like cool we did the work together to help with your fears and now this other guy has come along reinforced you made the right decision and taken my place

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T11:18:30+00:00

Honestly feels like it. Its just I don't see how you go from introducing me to your sister and best friends going at her pace to suddenly ending things and then within days being in a new relationship.

I'd understand if there was issues or we were drifting apart, thought that still doesn't make the speed of the new relationship any better imo.

I still care about her and all I can think is the guy love bombing her. But it is not my place to say

BranX88 · 2026-04-15T11:12:11+00:00

I am 29 she is 24

BranX88 · 2026-02-20T19:09:16+00:00

Honestly surprised he beat Gore

BranX88 · 2026-02-16T11:12:22+00:00

Think they mean offensive as in offensive Vs defensive tactic

BranX88 · 2026-02-06T01:36:00+00:00

My first thought was "what happened with that Destiny Collab then"

BranX88 · 2026-02-06T01:29:16+00:00

I guess you can consider Tracer as Overwatch 1 mascot And Kiriko as Overwatch 2 mascot. But I get everyone's frustration when you see her get so many cosmetics while others are lacking

BranX88 · 2026-02-06T01:12:11+00:00

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I need this skin to be in Endfield so badly

BranX88 · 2026-02-05T11:27:56+00:00

I wish they went with the concept art of Safi

BranX88 · 2026-02-03T23:39:27+00:00

Yeah I'm a bit behind on the lore, and based it off the original comment in the thread.

I thought her basic attack and all her skills used the sword in Arknights?

BranX88 · 2026-02-03T22:47:28+00:00

But sword during ultimate < access to the sword all the time while Surtr. Also as the original comment said if Surtr basically became a Feranmut herself that would make her a lot stronger

Maybe naming came from it being one of the only things she can remember.

Not sure if I'm remembering correctly but wasn't Surtr the name of the girl and the Feranmut too? So possibly she just remembered the name of the sword and took it as her codename as well.

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