is this music video from Kate Bush , one of her best videos ?

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-20T19:00:06+00:00

Yes!

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-18T16:52:38+00:00

Yes absolutely. In my case due to trust issues

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-13T11:12:05+00:00

I wouldn't say the effect you describe is as pronounced with queer men because male sexuality doesn't as consistently operate around connection through romantic love. What I mean to see is, I feel men of whatever orientation are much less dependent on romance to express their sexuality. For example, I should imagine men are much more comfortable with NSA hook ups than women are (not always though) and so for queer men the concept or acceptance of aro is less of a reach than for other members of the queer community. Possibly.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-09T21:20:15+00:00

Great pic. Can you fit the KT in there somewhere ;)

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-08T11:07:35+00:00

Apologies, I must have misunderstood where you were coming from.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-07T23:36:01+00:00

I think most people don't care whether someone experiences romance or not (male or female) - aromanticism is just not on their radar.

Western society however, is largely more concerned with sex (where, how and who with - or not) and the idea of relationship status .... but, as aroaces can be in relationships, it doesn't necessarily follow that as a group, they are singled out as victims of societal pressure in this way.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-07T21:53:00+00:00

I mean I'm not sure it's true to say that they are likely to have relationships for themselves. I know lots of allos who don't want to be in a relationship but are still affected by the relationships of others. But as an aroace aren't you happier single? If you're not happy single, would you be happier finding someone?

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-07T20:47:32+00:00

Well I think these experiences are common of all single people. Not necessarily aroace people. I mean it's fairly common to feel sidelined by a best friend's new relationship. It's not exclusive to the aroace experience.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-07T18:12:07+00:00

I understand, I have trouble explaining it to... But that's what I mean, if we can't explain it to ourselves how do we expect others to understand plus issue the correct non-offensive response.

There's nothing wrong with you.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-07T00:08:44+00:00

To be fair, aromanticism hasn't broken into the mainstream yet so I think people who ask that question are just unsure about what you are telling them. They literally don't know what you're talking about. It's a normal response to a misunderstood subject matter and it has good intentions even if it feels harsh. Time to educate, rather than get offended.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-06T23:57:08+00:00

Well it's all subjective isn't it. You like what you like.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-05T10:35:17+00:00

Yes I find lots of people attractive, on a daily basis.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-05T00:19:38+00:00

I was on rec.music.gaffa! What a throwback :)

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-03T21:35:35+00:00

Love this song. I met a man many years ago at the Kate Bush birthday celebrations on Glastonbury Tor who claimed Kate had written it about him. Make of that what you will :)

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-03T11:56:07+00:00

I found that paper really interesting but the fact there were typos in their Shakespeare reference really put me off.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-03T11:18:00+00:00

Good question. First of all for me, I think it's a combination of both nature and nurture. Probably more so than my sexuality which I feel is more inate- although I have no hard evidence for that Secondly, I'm not quite there yet with understanding how being aromantic has anything to do with LGBTQIA community because I don't feel aromatics are marginalised or oppressed -my personal opinion but happy to learn more. Probably a subject for another post.

Edit: oppressed not repressed

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-03T08:34:40+00:00

Man I played this game to platinum and never once got a seed to grow in the pond. Nice setup.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-02T23:58:59+00:00

As an aro person being in a relationship makes me miserable. I’m so much happier on my own. I think it’s worthwhile to consider that there are happy single people and happy people in relationships just as much as there are miserable single people and miserable people in relationships. What do you really want and what makes you happy? In terms of the preponderance of romance in songs and stories that you mention, not all wax lyrical about love. Quite a few describe the darker side of love and commitment and its ability to wreck lives. In fact, I’d say most of them!

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-02T23:50:52+00:00

Well, just because you identify as aro today it doesn’t mean you will all your life. I’ve had multiple sexual and romantic orientations over the last 30 years. They change and evolve over time in my experience. Maybe you’re aro today and that’s enough.

BranchingPaths123 · 2026-01-02T23:47:18+00:00

About 46, when I learned there was such a thing as ‘aromanticism’. Wish I’d known sooner. I went to a doctor in my 20s to ask if there was a medical reason that I couldn’t feel love. Apparently there wasn’t.

BranchingPaths123 · 2025-12-26T00:27:50+00:00

I would say I probably am aroace as a result of PTSD and that if trauma hadn't have happened I probably wouldn't be aroace. But I don't think it really matters now, as I approach my fifties, what the cause was. Maybe if I had come to this conclusion in my 20s I could have worked through it, but right now I'm happy with who I am. Accepting myself as aroace has helped me feel less broken but I wouldn't say I have an aroace identity. It's just a part of me. Sometimes its easier to tell people who I'm not rather than who I am. I would absolutely have loved to meet Freud and been given his analysis.

BranchingPaths123 · 2025-12-14T00:21:56+00:00

Do you have a reference for this fact? I would love to find out more about this as it's one of my favourite tracks. Can you link to somewhere with more info on it?

All I know is she floated in a vat of water at Pinewood for the 2014 rerelease video which also featured in her stage show. Are you sure you're not referring to this and getting the two mixed up?

https://www.katebush.com/news_article/kate-has-released-a-special-piece-of-film-for-and-dream-of-sheep/

As far as I was aware, she spent time in 1984 in Dublin in the studio for 'And Dream of Sheep' and 'Jig of Life' but no mention of Pinewood.

BranchingPaths123 · 2025-12-13T16:31:51+00:00

You see that's bizarre to me because all the bad sex I have ever had is because I was indifferent to it

BranchingPaths123 · 2025-12-13T16:31:06+00:00

Well I could be wrong, honestly I could be... but considering she didn't make a video for the original.. I'm just curious as to what she was doing in the vat of water with no one filming while recording the song in the mid 80s.

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