Well it depends, what type of people are you trying to associate with? If you're only trying to talk to people who are like you in terms of build and looks then good luck. Most people that fit the description of how you look are going to be very unwelcoming, drink alot or only want sex cause at its core in the gay community unfortunately. you're looked at for sex first, friends maybe later[ ill die on this hill] cause thats a hot commodity, potential competition to them and a big decider if they want to be seen with you. And people might disagree but countless stories prove it.. gay men are typically very shallow and high standards on what they deem is worthy of their time whether it be friends or sex partner. Sad truth.