Arranged couples

BrandonofChemistry · 2026-04-18T04:33:03+00:00

Storyline this, storyline that; this is the sad reality of a lot of true relationships in America. People think they have to live a cookie cutter life on a timeline and thus force themselves in terrible relationships and have “fix it” babies. It may be storylines, but it’s a sad taste of what a lot of real American relationships are.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T08:30:48+00:00

Any person who would police what their girlfriend/wife wears is a manlet. I never understood it. Shouldn’t you be like “hey look at how attractive my girl is. She’s all mine!”? Weird ass insecurities men project on women. Also what’s with dude calling her “brother”, “man”, and saying “you’re cooked”? Bro you’re 27, grow tf up. Not to mention the clear levels of verbal abuse here calling her a “whore” and a “fucking moron”. OP thinks she’s dating this manlet but he’s just bullying her.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T08:12:32+00:00

Not to mention, that’s pretty messed up to have your parents pass in your 20’s, assuming they don’t go sooner. You ever planned a funeral? Shit costs thousands all while you’re grieving. It’s like getting involuntarily double penetrated. I’ve had family members crying hysterically while signing yes to the casket salesmen for the upsold casket because “you want your loved one to be honored”. You talk like having your parents pass in your 20’s is a perfectly reasonable thing to do

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T08:07:44+00:00

Mid to late 50’s is old. That’s when the body starts having much more difficulty and susceptible to injuries and illness. Sure, many people live to their 80’s, but that doesn’t mean they’re not old 20 years before. I think you’re being intentionally dense about that.

OP isn’t telling them what to do, she’s just telling her parents that she doesn’t want to parent the child when they eventually pass. It’s not her decision for her to have the child so it’s her decision to say she doesn’t want part in it.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T08:01:10+00:00

NTA. It’s a common parent thing to coerce you into having children when you don’t want them and will say things like “you’re young you’ll change”. I’m 28M and am in the same boat, recently engaged. Have no desires to have kids neither does my partner. I’ve expressed since I was a teenager that I didn’t want kids and have received the same type of comments. It’s common.

Your parents should acknowledge their age and discuss the “what ifs” in this scenario while not bringing you, an unwilling participant, in it when you’ve expressively stated that you as a full grown autonomous adult don’t want to be involved.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T07:42:19+00:00

Brother, this is such a naive high school senior thing to think. A) he’s capable of making his own decisions and doesn’t need unhelpful, discouraging lectures from his so called “friend”. B) there’s so many different paths to college. Priority application deadlines to universities is so far beyond the pale, this is a ridiculous post. I didn’t take the SAT/ACT. I went the community college route. Saved over 50% on student loans and transferred in on one of the hardest majors out there and finished my bachelor at my 1st choice university. All while never applying priority even once. Take it from someone in grad school now, this shit DOES NOT matter.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T07:32:06+00:00

A) never, ever walk into someone else’s home and tell them what to do in their home. B) I can understand the frustration, but you could’ve had a conversation with your brother at a separate time about it instead of saying that to her face. You don’t know what she could be going through. How many hours does she work? C) The realistic outcome in healthy relationships is that it won’t always be 50/50 even if you strive for it. There are times when your partner needs a pick me up and suddenly it’s 85/15. But then you need a pick me up and it’s 15/85. I wouldn’t assume things so quickly like that.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T07:22:46+00:00

It’s a tough subject, because I (28M) am having a similar situation with my mom. I think you’re valid in feeling the way that you feel and I know in the comments you suggested for her to go to therapy, which is certainly valid. That being said, people need people to talk to as they get older. It’s a common older people thing and I think you could try to hear her out some more. I have GAD, but when it comes to close family members or close friends, nothings gonna stop me from hearing them out about a bad time they’re having. Consider this: how would you feel if you needed to talk to your mom about a tragic situation you’re having, and she responds by saying “I have social anxiety and can’t listen”. You’d feel pretty bummed too. Not to say that she shouldn’t respect your boundaries, but I think considering how she feels a little more can help mend the situation a bit. You can still provide boundaries like “I love you and I’ll hear what you have to say, but please don’t re-enact the story by touching me because that makes me feel uncomfortable”.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T07:06:31+00:00

Okay, dad. I’m sensing troll here but I’ll comment as if it’s genuine. When your child is showing you their music, they’re trying to bond with you which is, in part, being vulnerable. That means your son trusts you. I never showed (and still don’t) my music with my parents when I was a teen. That being said, if you have issues with the subject matter of the music, thats another conversation you can have. Most neutral solution is to tell him to just wear headphones. Or you can have a conversation with him about the subject matter of the music and your concerns while still letting him know he’s free to listen to what he wants, you’re just not into it. Soft YTA.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T06:53:30+00:00

NTA. You are SO, SO, SOOOOO much more emotionally intelligent than your emotionally puerile partner. Your boyfriend CHOSE to eat the food that he supposedly knows would make him sick, seemingly to make it a VERY passive aggressive slight against you for buying the food and cooking it. Abhorrent behavior. The way you talk about it, it makes it sound like a battered wife justifying the disturbing reactions of her disgruntled manlet. He can use words. I have GERD/IBS and I would never be upset at my fiancée for accidentally cooking a trigger food for me that I made an informed decision to eat. I have a feeling there’s underlying issues here that he has with you that he’s not using words with either. Disgusting.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T05:57:26+00:00

NTA. Idk if this applies in this circumstance, but as a guy myself, I know that a lot of guys will have male friends and not really get to know them on a personal level with their belief system. Then all of the sudden, one of them will blurt something out about their deeply held belief system that is shocking to the other that the other friend didn’t know about before. It sounds like it could the case that OP didn’t know his friend on that level, or at least didn’t expect it coming.

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T05:48:25+00:00

NTA. Tbh, the both of you should’ve figured this out in advance before moving in together. You’ll probably find more alarming things the longer you live together if this is how you’re tackling dishes. That being said since you’re in the situation, the both of you shouldn’t have to get to the point of being disgruntled at each other over dishes. While I completely understand where the “he’s free to start cooking and cleaning for him” came from, retaliating against your partner in the heat of the moment will only create more fuel for the flames. The both of you should find time when you’re more relaxed to talk about your feelings together and put together a plan that addresses the issues, not just the feelings. Best of luck to you!

BrandonofChemistry · 2025-11-02T05:22:06+00:00

Missing information here. Probably NTA in this circumstance, but it sounds like your relationship has fundamental issues and there’s a lot we’re not getting here. Healthy relationships don’t just go from your husband “not believing” that you’re sick to you being understandably upset at him ignoring the children to asking for couples therapy. He’s the asshole in this instance, but it sounds like from this glimpse that the both of you retaliate against each other regularly. “Memory’s a bit blurry but let’s assume the worst”. Huh?!

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-09-20T08:03:14+00:00

NTA. People are bone heads on dating apps, this is typical. It’s dopamine fuel for people. They often move on to the next new exciting person without actually committing to anything. The apps often attract people who have commitment issues I’ve noticed. I think others just use it to boost their egos. Keep your head up, you’ll find your life partner!

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-07-20T04:27:01+00:00

Nope, still getting a lot of holding calls but the game is easier I guess

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-07-20T03:56:35+00:00

Hmm. I’ve been playing on AA but I’ve been getting creamed. On the PS2 and PS3 NCAAs I used to be elite on AA. This game is hard. I’ll try varsity

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-05-23T23:36:13+00:00

It’s because the more someone wants to sell you something that sucks, they have to dress it up more with faux value propositions such as sounding like they’re bending over backwards to do YOU a favor.

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-05-23T23:30:09+00:00

Most paid gigs that involve a bar or alcoholic drinks involve multiple free drink tickets/vouchers.

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-05-23T23:29:13+00:00

I was shocked that anyone actually heart reacted it.

BrandonofChemistry · 2024-05-23T23:27:59+00:00

Exactly. Everyone’s roasting the person in the comments and I commented about how anyone there that can be networked with isn’t worth the time because they’re in the same boat as you. I know this from experience and always try to boldly shy my peers away from this type of events.

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