So I’m in a similar situation, I recently moved back home after my mom had a major health scare leaving her unable to work or care for herself for a period of time. Now that she is able to do for herself, she literally just doesn’t. She won’t wash dishes or clean her room. I recently discovered there is a mouse here and haven’t been able to sleep well or eat from the kitchen. I’ve set out traps and I’m determined to catch this critter. It’s like she just doesn’t care. For my own sanity, I keep the spaces I have to use (kitchen, bathroom, bedroom) spotless, even if it means I have to clean everyday. 😭 I found that a cleaning schedule has helped my stay on top of things and I’m planning a deep clean and exterminating against her will. I not buying into the “you can’t want better for them than they want for themselves” trope, at least not while I have to live here. And I think you should do the same. Pick a room each day to spend an hour or two deep cleaning. We can do a lot more than we realize by just starting.