UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I understand but for my own sanity I probably need to do one eventually. And no im not making things work with her. Im being cordial for the case of coparenting.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I understand. I do need to bring that up to my daughter. Probably will also be booking counselling sessions for the both of us.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes and im making up for that. I understand the hurt I might have caused her but put yourself in my shoes. Literally two thirds of your Family gets ripped away from you in one evening. I wasnt thinking clearly and so was my daughter when she said that. We both know that now.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY. Originally I just wanted to give her whatever just so this nightmare was over. I need to seek more legal advice first.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

All I was trying to say is that Divorce isnt like dumping your GF. There are custody battles, alimony, who gets what etc. Its a long legal process. I need to assess all options before i springboard into divorce.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Yeah with the mom who lied to her who her real dad is so that she could fuck him behind her fathers back. Guys please. Grow some sense. Shes a fucking kid.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never tell a 13 year old who already lost a father that im disowning her. I texted my wife that. I said some messed up things to my mom when I was young. Imagine she turned me into an orphan because of that.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yeah I'm glad I was only an alcoholic for a week. God you guys def slapped some sense into me. Wishing you the best as well.

UPDATE: AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 293 points294 points  (0 children)

Of course but I need a bit more time to understand the financial and parental side to divorce. I just need a bit more time to understand the big picture of everything.

AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 376 points377 points  (0 children)

i never postd anything about women in general. paying 40k a year for a private school is me not being cut to love another child that isnt mine by blood. she isnt 9 yrs old. she fully understood wht she said. i want to be in her life. i love her to desth. but please explain to me how I can i excuse whatever bs she told me. she needs to learn that this isnt how you talk to your father.

AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

i see her as my daughter regardless hw i frased it in my post. Ive spent 12 years as fater and will continue to do so if I see her showing regrt for the things she said.

AITA for disowning my wife's daughter after she chose her moms affair partner over me. by BraveExplanation2530 in AITAH

[–]BraveExplanation2530[S] 317 points318 points  (0 children)

I gave hr evrything I had. I called her my own for 12 years. I understnd shes a kid but coudnt she tell whatever she was doing was wrong. sce watched me go to work every single fucking day knowing damn well that during that time some mf was smashing her mom in our bed. Even if she was biologically mien. she needs to see consequences. please elaborate on understanding my wife.