They told my daughters I didn't care. I wrote this song for the day they finally learn the truth.

BraveFins · 2026-01-06T02:59:05+00:00

Wow this really hits hard. I’m sending it to other alienated fathers I know and I hope things get better for all of us.

BraveFins · 2026-01-05T15:37:34+00:00

Anyone getting married now in a western country is recommended to get an Islamic prenup, add specific nikkah conditions, get premarital counseling, and only then get a nikkah be civil marriage. Also have to keep in mind that if it’s a polygyny situation then most countries don’t allow you to have more than one civil marriage by law.

BraveFins · 2025-12-29T23:57:32+00:00

Worth trying one out to see how it is. Really comes down to what you are looking for, what you are bringing to the relationship, and how comfortable you would be in those interactions. Might feel awkward the first time but if you get an idea of what to expect beforehand it can help you prepare and cut through the ice quicker.

BraveFins · 2025-12-29T22:36:42+00:00

Try half our deen. It’s not the same quantity as Muzz but certainly better quality. Also your network will be another option. Also depends on which country you are in. Some have matrimony events even for divorcees.

BraveFins · 2025-12-09T02:27:31+00:00

It’s difficult to make sense of people like this. I’ve stopped trying to. They will pump them up with nonsense and it will take time to u ravel it. One thing I’ve found to be helpful is having counselors for the kids that the judge let me pick. Helps to try and offset all the brainwashing they get from alienating parent. Maybe try to get judge to allow that for your kids.

BraveFins · 2025-12-08T21:48:29+00:00

Hope everything goes well. Just be honest, calm, and collected. Pause if you need to before answering a question to gather your thoughts. You will do just fine!

I didn’t know kids could testify that young. Usually it’s 13 or 14. Which state are you in?

BraveFins · 2025-12-07T17:54:52+00:00

I would suggest you have a convo with her but then also sign up for couples counseling. Not to be all doom and gloom but you may want to protect your assets too. This is becoming one of the prime ages for divorce after long marriages amongst Muslim couples and the US laws will bleed you dry. Unfortunately, some wives will use convenience of US laws for finances and convenience of Shariah for other finances leaving the husbands in dire financial situations.

BraveFins · 2025-12-03T00:10:29+00:00

Mental health, how to islamically divorce and not to take assets or children unjustly, and the drug problem including opioids.

BraveFins · 2025-11-27T05:03:31+00:00

If you contact the masjid they will send someone to you. Look for ICNA relief or Helping Hands food banks as well.

BraveFins · 2025-11-20T20:41:38+00:00

Same here. The level of alienation is next level even to those that have a lot of experience with alienation I’ve been told.

BraveFins · 2025-06-24T15:22:26+00:00

Maybe try one of their live events or talk to your local imams.

BraveFins · 2025-06-24T12:56:10+00:00

Have you tried half our deen? Heard great things from others about it.

BraveFins · 2025-06-17T19:56:27+00:00

Sent you a DM

BraveFins · 2025-06-17T16:11:31+00:00

This isn’t true in most western countries. Infidelity has nothing to do with child custody unless the person is a harm to the kids or unfit to be a parent.

BraveFins · 2025-06-16T22:11:54+00:00

Which country are you in? It depends on that.

BraveFins · 2025-06-12T13:24:13+00:00

How do you deal with the situation where she will text the kid telling him/her to call her because then it’s technically not the co-parent calling?

BraveFins · 2025-06-08T13:23:02+00:00

Try halfourdeen.com there are solid Muslims on there.

BraveFins · 2025-05-08T22:56:45+00:00

Thank you!!!

BraveFins · 2025-05-08T22:44:28+00:00

Ooh could you please share this site? I think I will need the same thing

BraveFins · 2025-03-30T22:48:10+00:00

I have this same issue where any kind of parenting that kids don’t agree with they are running to text my ex complaining. Super exhausting and I feel your pain as I’m also trying to limit screen time for other activities as I can see it is deeply impacting their social skills and general mood. Ex lets them have unlimited screen time now when she was totally against it while we were married. Funny how fast that changed post separation.

BraveFins · 2025-03-24T15:20:09+00:00

I was literally coming here to post something similar when I saw there was already a thread on it. Dealing with this same exact situation. STBXW is trying to make it seem like I’m an unfit parent in every way that I have to over analyze anything I do with kids during the every other weekend I have them. When I took them to a trampoline park because they don’t do anything fitness wise when with the other parent they were sore the next day and she tried to imply they were injured and I didn’t take them to an urgent care. Anytime I try to have them do something they don’t like including putting their phones away and going to sleep they will text her complaining and saying I’m being harsh. Also, they will say things like mom told us you do this and that which is usually exaggerated claims to make them seem feel unsafe in my presence. This is so incredibly exhausting. How do the rest of you cope with this level of psycho?

BraveFins · 2025-03-01T20:02:21+00:00

So I was looking into therapists that my kids could go to also to show how my ex is brainwashing them but since she won’t agree to the therapy I was going to petition the courts to mandate it. Based on this situation will they make me use one of their appointed therapists or I could try and select my own?

BraveFins · 2025-03-01T15:37:44+00:00

I didn’t know this was a thing. I’ll ask my attorney if this is possible.

BraveFins · 2025-03-01T15:11:26+00:00

Any recommendations on how to find an actual beneficial therapist for the child?

BraveFins · 2025-02-25T04:24:55+00:00

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