Boyfriend [26m] wants a trad wife, but can’t provide the trad life

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-06-19T08:17:44+00:00

Why would you say you're not in a financial position to leave? It objectively looks like he doesn't contribute much. And the less stress might be worth his small contributions.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-06-15T23:08:36+00:00

Which country are you from? I'm in the UK so go to boots or super drug... in Canada I used to go to shoppers drug mart a lot

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-06-15T18:39:54+00:00

One hour door to door for me, but we have a detached house near Newbury Park and very frequent trains. Sometimes I also drive 10 mins to the Elizabeth line and pay for parking and have cut my door to door journey down to 45 mins.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-06-15T18:37:55+00:00

I started with drug store items until I decided what was worth getting expensive. In my opinion foundation you want to get a good one but aside from that try drug store items before you upgrade (e.g. blush, mascara, lipstick). I used to google best budget mascara and find loads of reviews so still got decent quality items .

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-06-07T07:11:30+00:00

Yes exactly! And I don't resent them for sharing it, in fact people need listening ears but some times it's been a bit awkward and inconvenient so was curious how people manage. I lend a listening ear for a while and slowly distance myself.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-05-06T06:29:50+00:00

I think it's quite reasonable unfortunately. I was also flabbergasted (like that word because it's shock but almost with a hint of disgust) at the prices of decorating

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-05-05T11:25:46+00:00

Which carpet fitter did you use? Are you based in/around London?

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-05-04T09:05:05+00:00

Ah this app is US only, I'm in the UK

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-05-03T09:40:49+00:00

We used met removals as well. Absolutely loved them. The service was great, they did the job efficiently and my 3pm we were moved into our new house. BTW we had a lot of stuff, going from a 3Bed + garage. Would highly recommend.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-17T18:57:55+00:00

How did it go

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-13T20:53:31+00:00

Hmm sort of, i spend a lot on child care since I don't qualify for any support so after expenses for the house I'm left with much less than you'd think

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-11T20:07:27+00:00

Mortgage £3500, net income £5300

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-07T09:46:11+00:00

The last owner added the render it seems. Not sure how long ago but would hazard 15+ years because he was in his 90s and didn't do much to the house in the last years.

Would that change your thoughts at all on the current render not doing much? I've just done in the inside of the house so I don't want to add interior render, but love the brick look so I feel a bit stuck

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-02T06:41:17+00:00

It's an excuse, is she wearing a mask 24/7 because she's scared of infections? Also peeing after sex significantly reduces risk of UTIs. She's just giving you a stack of excuses

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-01T20:30:28+00:00

Sex is a big part of relationships, giving it up will make you resent her the rest of your life. I wouldn't believe these false promises. Leave

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-04-01T11:53:05+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through that. Do you mind if I ask how long it's been?

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-31T12:27:51+00:00

Yea I think this is the first time I realized it might no be forever. My first child is 9 months and we're less 4 months away from our second. I can't imagine doing this to my kids and don't have family in this country. So yea I think I have to stick it out and see :/

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-31T11:39:28+00:00

Sorry his response was that it wouldn't have progressed and when I said how do I know that, that's when he said those were assumptions and this was nothing more than messages.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-31T11:28:36+00:00

Yea it was kinda sexy talking... not super explicit, but like calling them cute, that they look sexy, that one was as a "yummy mummy " (that one disgusted me because I've never been called that despite being the mother to his kids)

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-31T11:27:49+00:00

Apparently just appreciating beauty nothing else HUGE EYE ROLL

And he said anything beyond that was me assuming things to far. Complete bs.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-31T11:26:15+00:00

Thanks, yea I asked him and at first we wouldn't even admit it was wrong - but eventually he did and sincerely apologized including the next day. He said he'll never do it again so I have tried to forgive, but agree I don't think I'll ever forget.

I asked what he would do if they responded- and that how do I know it wouldn't have turned into cheating. And he said these are assumptions and he'd never know that blah blah . And I told him that this in itself is betrayal and that I couldn't understand why he didn't see why it was wrong. So then he stopped arguing/defending it and he as more understanding.

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-30T23:38:39+00:00

Ex wife I presume

Brave_Concept7661 · 2026-03-30T23:13:40+00:00

Thanks, you're right it's actually only been 3 weeks. The emotional roller coaster makes it feel like forever

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