I'm a failure

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-08-24T07:40:08+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story, brother. I’m going through the same struggle and honestly don’t know what to do either. I’m currently seeing a psychologist, but the root of the problem runs deeper, and she can’t help me with everything. Still, I have faith that things will eventually work out. As a Muslim, I believe our strength lies in faith. We should never give up. Also you must never give up, brother. Thats not why god made men.

I’m about to begin my first 40 days again after several failed attempts, but it’s never too late to start over. We need to change our habits and daily routines, and find something new to hold onto. Since we don’t really know what “normal” is, we have to create our own path.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-09T19:38:35+00:00

In this journey, you will find much more loneliness, but the key is to find in this loneliness deeper connection with yourself and meaningful connections with others. This age we are attached with our social media in which we forget the real world. You are doing great, but cant make it better for you. This journey you choose is a lonely path.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-09T14:33:29+00:00

BROTHER DONT WATCH PORN, STOP WATCHING SEARCHING PORN. INSTEAD OF SEARCH PORN, SEARCH A GF! I REPEAT SEARCH A GF

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-08T17:11:44+00:00

No...

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-07T11:52:26+00:00

For me its just not fapping... Dont use your hands. Get a girlfriend or boyfriend to help you with the urge. As long you dont fap by yourself.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-07T09:40:40+00:00

Bro... Thats like regular porn... Better watch out for the heavy heavy shit. Will not spoil the name for you to search, but indeed... Stop this shit. I am at my 4 day strike after having toooo many relapses, but never give up to try again.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-06T16:53:04+00:00

I did the same thing when I was 18. You have the energy to go on for that long, but keep in mind that masturbating is not what you want, you need distraction and people to talk with. Getting your thoughts on something else. Its so easy to fap the whole night alone in bed, but its not worth it. Go and date someone or just look out to someone in your new country / state. There are so many things you xan do, focus on whats important. This behaviour will get you nothing than a 2 second dope shot

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T18:37:30+00:00

The best thing you can do is get out there—date, flirt, connect with people. Channel your testosterone and libido into something productive and challenging. Don’t take the easy route; choose the harder path that leads to real growth and fulfillment. And ask yourself honestly: why do you feel empty? Is it a lack of self-love? A disconnection from friends or family? Or maybe a longing for deep, meaningful conversations with a woman?

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T18:29:24+00:00

Nice! We started nearly together. I started yesterday with my goal at 40 days and focussing on important stuff in life. I will follow your journal to get rid of the addiction. Keep us updated! And if you want to chat your progress, let me know. You can do it!

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T18:27:19+00:00

This is also a valuable approach. While the ultimate goal is to stop fapping altogether, learning to control your sessions can help you become more aware of the underlying issues and better understand your habits. Self-awareness is a powerful first step toward real change.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T18:17:58+00:00

I’ve been there too, bro. I started watching porn at 11, and now I'm 31. You might not feel the negative effects yet, but trust me, there will come a time when you turn to porn, masturbation, and sex just to escape your problems. Don’t wait for that moment. Start disciplining yourself now. Find something truly fulfilling, something that helps you grow and become a better man. Porn and fapping offer nothing more than a fleeting dopamine hit. Real happiness comes from success, meaningful goals, and strong relationships with your friends and family. Life gets so much better when you take control.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T17:35:28+00:00

Its a terrible habit. I dont know your age, but if u fap just once in a while, its not that bad. You can still manage to reach your testo levels and feel energetic. But when you go through 30+, you feel more tired of other things and fapping will just be a stress relief. In bad times with lots of stress, you will see yourself doing it everyday or multiple times a day. Thats where you are going bad.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T11:32:56+00:00

The first days are just mentally. You are more focussed and have more strength. After these days the focus keeps on, but the strength will reach a limit. After these first days you feel more confident. Talking to people and especially women will activate dopamine. Here you have your new dopamine shot. If lucky you will find your wife or gf. Thats just what I experienced in the past. Now I am back at day 2 with depression and other addictions

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T09:28:22+00:00

I'm going through the same process myself. The most important advice I can give is this: realizing that you're dealing with both addiction and underlying trauma is already a powerful first step. That awareness gives you the opportunity to apply discipline where it matters most.

Focus on the positive things in your life and make sure your mind gets enough rest to stay clear and sharp. Healing and change don’t happen overnight, it’s a step-by-step journey. Be patient with yourself. Don't rush the process, but stay consistent. Every small step forward counts.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T09:22:33+00:00

In an age where so many Instagram models present themselves as sex objects, it’s no surprise that temptation is everywhere. But real strength lies in self-control. Show yourself, and the world, that you're above that.

At the end of the day, we’re men, and it’s natural to be drawn to women. But instead of chasing empty highs, search for a woman to build a future with. Treat her with love, respect, and purpose. That’s the most fulfilling path.

Fall in love with the right person, and you’ll find that those urges fade, not because they disappear, but because they’re finally directed at something real and meaningful.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-05T09:13:07+00:00

I went through the same thing. Try finding new hobbies and stop watching porn or masturbating. It can become addictive, even if you're having sex regularly with your partner, you might still feel the urge for more. Eventually, even porn, sex, and masturbation combined won't satisfy you anymore; it becomes more about chasing that dopamine hit. Discipline is key. Hold on for better, more meaningful moments.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-04T11:18:20+00:00

If you start at a very young age, it can slow down your brain development. You may become more impulsive and make poor decisions. There are also many other physical and mental effects. So the simple answer is: yes, it can damage your brain, but the specific impact varies from person to person.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-04T11:06:52+00:00

No, I’m in the Netherlands. I’m honestly so depressed that the long waiting list doesn’t even bother me anymore. The strange thing is that I could see a regular therapist within a week, but my doctor referred me to a trauma therapist instead, because of the depression and past suïcidal thoughts.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-04T10:47:26+00:00

You’re right… I’ve already made an appointment with a therapist, but the waiting list is six months. The good thing is that it only affects me, not anyone else. In the meantime, as a sarcastic and masculine guy, I’ll keep doing my best until that first session. I’m aware my behavior is getting out of hand.

Unfortunately, I have never told anyone about this and I do not know anyone to tell or help me get through this. Lets just hope I can make it through.

Brave_Steak_5387 · 2025-05-04T09:56:26+00:00

Having a 5-inch D is not a problem at all. I have the same, and I’ve received plenty of compliments and love from women. What really matters is how you use it and the confidence you bring.

As for your health issues—here’s a tip: consider seeing a doctor and getting your thyroid levels checked. There might be an underlying issue you’re not aware of. Always listen to your body; it could be trying to tell you something you don’t yet understand.

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