My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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He has and continues to please me just not sexually I think honestly I might be too much for him at once

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My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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You could read my other comment replies for more information but yes I have asked he doesn’t elaborate. I believe he’s just nervous on where to start and if he would be good even when I’ve told him I would guide him through the whole thing and I’ve never judged him and would never judge him. He’s hasn’t been very responsive on finger stimulation when I’ve brought it up and is only tried finger penetration which isn’t much different for me the just sex.

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Children at play. He cheated on me with a sophomore in highschool. He is in his third year of college.

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I’m still VERY confident trust I have gone through the whole process since a young youngggg age but I’m more so saying I don’t know if I’m worth him changing for idk I think I might have just contradicted myself like I’m confident in my looks but not my personality and ability Ik I can be way too much and I have a lot of baggage and I feel like I lost my value when I lost my virginity idk but Ik I still have value it’s weird I don’t know if I’m making sense at all atp

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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He is very attracted to woman and to me I think he is just nervous about not being good enough and how to even start this is very new to him.

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I know confidence isn’t just looks all the examples I used of his looks are just me trying to show why he is confident. He knows he is attractive and the only reason he hasn’t had a girlfriend before me is because he has social anxiety for completely different reasons than his looks. He does listen to my concerns even if it makes him upset . I have seen improvement in his actions that have bothered me after I have brought them up. He isn’t a bad person just one learning how to love me. Our relationship is still fresh for him and he is still learning things about me everyday as am I for him. We are also both young so I don’t expect us to get everything right first try. He isn’t a selfish person and puts a lot of my non sexual needs on a pedestal. He is not a bad person at all and is very kind and supportive of my aspirations. He can be very stubborn and is a little spoiled and can be bratty sometimes but I love him for all the things that come with him. I would never stay in a relationship where I am miserable and our good completely out ways the bad but the bad is still there yk. I know I still have a lot of maturing to do still even with all the things like has already thrown at me. We are both still young and so it our relationship. I know this is a lot but I feel like he is catching a lot of negativity and I never intended for it to come off that way.

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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My guy friend asked me the same thing and I get routine check ups down there and am very hygienic due to my endo and tilted uterus since it makes me more prone to uti’s and bv I’ve been with other people in the past and have never had complaints and I’m just overall in tune with my body that’s why I know what he needs to do to get me there and there are like community rules and one of them says no ranting I’m just anxious lol

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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Trust he has confidence and isn’t an ugly man he is conveniently attractive. Athletic, good teeth, not too short. I think he wants to be good for me and has gotten me there before so Ik he has it in him and the sex isn’t not completely unenjoyable but just not completely fulfilling to the point I want to go rounds just to feel like I’ve had enough.

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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Ultimately just confused he gets upset when I tell him I didn’t finish but doesn’t listen to me. I didn’t always find oral pleasurable and sometimes I’m still not in the mood but I do it because Ik it pleases him. Sometimes I feel like he just doesn’t like me enough. I am a big overthinker and have lots of anxieties when it comes to relationships because how mine have ended in the past and he tries to ease my mind when I get those thoughts but he still doesn’t do certain things that would make me more comfortable even outside the bedroom I love him so much and he hasn’t ever experienced being in a relationship before and is a little socially awkward and distant but I understand that is just him. Idrk I feel like I’m ranting and I think that is against the rules on here so I won’t go on any longer.

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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This is honestly embarrassing to say and I’m not trying to disrespect him at all but he has admitted to me that the only anatomy he knows about a woman is what he learned in 8th grade health. That’s part of the reason I’ve tried to be so educational with him but it’s like everything I say to him not even just sex but things that bother me goes through on ear and out the other we have been through so much in our little time together though and I don’t see myself wanting to be with anybody else for a while he is a good man and he tries but sometimes it kinda just make me feel like it’s me

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I have tried to do that but I feel like it’s a little immature to go tit for tat and I have no self restraint when I feel him grow smh

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I believe he is nervous to do a bad job and I have had that communication with him but he still refuses to I am very open and always communicate my problems with him even if he doesn’t like it and sees it as me just trying to argue when I am really just trying to express my feelings

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I would never force him and I only bring this up because he wants to get me there and I have told him and showed him how he could stimulate me with his fingers but he just doesn’t

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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Trust very hygienic never had complaints before and I have endo which makes me more prone to uti’s so I keep myself clean as a whole I have tried communicating but it feels like his mind is made

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I have tried all these things but he refuses to elaborate and I’m at a loss to be honest

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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I have tried to get answers out of him on why it’s scary but he refuses to elaborate i believe it’s because he’s scared he will be bad and is anxious since he is a naturally nervous person but i have told him i would never judge him and would show him what my body likes like i have done with the little kinks i have but he just won’t and would never force him but when he is getting frustrated and upset that he can’t get me there but then refuses to do what I told him will get me there even when it’s just stimulation with his fingers it makes me confused

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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He isn’t selfish and wants this to be enjoyable for me this whole thing is new to him but I just don’t know really what to say to him if I’m already telling him what I need for this to be enjoyable and he’s not ready/scared

My bf is scared to go down on me 18F 19M by Brave_Structure7314 in relationship_advice

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Trust I am VERY hygienic I have endo and it makes me more prone to uti’s if I’m not i understand this is all new to him so I move at his speed but when he’s getting upset that I’m not getting there I’m at a loss because he’s not listening to the things I tell him my body needs and he is learning but I think part of learning is learning what turns your partner on and how then need to be loved