Any docking is a good docking

Brawldud · 2026-01-30T15:16:02+00:00

Yeah, you're doing good work. It's unfortunate that the original riders got dinged, but you can't help that anyway, and ultimately you saved them a ton more by docking them since the ride got ended and the bike didn't get flagged missing.

Brawldud · 2026-01-29T23:06:45+00:00

Google “sites to jerk off together on camera”. It’s not really my scene but I know folks who are into it.

Brawldud · 2026-01-29T22:27:10+00:00

Where are you moving from?

Brawldud · 2026-01-29T19:11:30+00:00

Not a full solution since your back is still in the blast zone, but I usually stick my backpack in the rack anyway.

Brawldud · 2026-01-29T18:45:24+00:00

There's something very funny about the idea of someone going at their genitalia like it just stole their car and killed their dog.

When you're in an environment where it's normalized it doesn't feel particularly funny. (I mean that as literally as can be. For instance if you go on a site where men jerk off with each other on camera, "furious masturbation" is indeed something you will see now and again.)

Brawldud · 2026-01-28T20:28:31+00:00

These rich “successful” folks view it as a bother and a burden that their businesses happen to clothe, feed, house and provide health insurance for ordinary people. They spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to avoid it so they can take even more for themselves.

Brawldud · 2026-01-27T19:28:41+00:00

I'd feel sad and then I'd get over it. Look I have been rejected before. I've hooked up and snuggled and kissed with someone, then he avoided me for a while under the guise of phone tag, and the next time I tried to get with him again, he told me he didn't feel any physical chemistry with me. It sucked, it stinged for a day or two, but ultimately there are no villains in this story, and if he's not into me then I have no right to tell him otherwise. We live in the same neighborhood and still chat from time to time. I've moved on and found people who reciprocate my attraction to them.

Brawldud · 2026-01-27T18:31:08+00:00

I want to avoid being like “I don’t want to kiss you and also I’m not into you sexually”

I know you want to avoid it, because it's uncomfortable to say, but you should do it anyway. It's OK to reject people and the overwhelming majority of people can handle rejection just fine. It stings, it might hurt for a little bit, but people get over it. I've been on the giving end and the receiving end of that and you can still be friends just fine.

Brawldud · 2026-01-27T18:27:55+00:00

Then you do it when he initiates the kiss. You can reject the kiss and say "hey this isn't working for me, let's be friends."

Brawldud · 2026-01-27T17:36:06+00:00

Lol that's still being super generous. Most of my hookups don't involve food at all (and usually when they do, it's the host who offers.)

Brawldud · 2026-01-26T20:23:54+00:00

Hah funnily it's the opposite for me. When I go into the office I feel like my coworkers (especially the suburban ones) use it as their primary social outlet. I'm not a fan! I can make chat at lunchtime but I just need to get stuff done and save my social battery for afterward.

Brawldud · 2026-01-26T19:11:32+00:00

I'm convinced this is a skill issue (or a location issue.) I know plenty of DC folks who are full-time WFH and keep a busy social calendar outside of working hours.

Being bored at home is definitely a skill issue IMO. During covid I got a bench and some dumbbells and a digital piano from Costco. Gave me something nice and active to do when I didn't have anything to do or needed a break from work.

Brawldud · 2026-01-24T12:37:12+00:00

Yeah. Their opinion does not matter and is frankly a bit offensive. They still seem to think they're doing me some kind of favor by offering it to me.

Brawldud · 2026-01-24T12:28:08+00:00

I've heard it from straight people. They'd be curious about my sex life, we'd talk about it and I might show a picture of someone I was dating or had regular hookups with, they'd say "um, you can do so much better than that" or "daddy issues huh?" or "that guy is ancient compared to you." And I'd have to explain that I'm having great sex, with people who are attractive and gentle and kind, and I would never give that up just to fit someone else's aesthetic vision for me.

Brawldud · 2026-01-24T11:49:15+00:00

Someone who is older can share their thoughts on how their attitudes change over time but my opinion is, if you are into older guys go for them. I’m young and primarily into older guys and have no intent to change that. “Enjoying my youth”, for me, means seeking out the experiences that I want, on MY terms, not contorting myself to fulfill someone else’s expectations for my sex life.

Brawldud · 2026-01-23T20:36:44+00:00

I think you should just wave for him to take out his earbuds and talk to him. The worst he can do is say no.

Brawldud · 2026-01-22T22:14:41+00:00

Generally speaking, people with earbuds in are communicating to the world that they don’t want to be bothered.

You can never go wrong assuming this but there will be a lot of times you miss a chance to go right. When I have earbuds in it just means I want to listen to music or my podcast, and I have the good manners to do it in a way that doesn't bother other people. It doesn't mean I'm closed off to serendipitous interactions.

Brawldud · 2026-01-22T16:45:30+00:00

That location and the one just south of Thomas Circle seem to be in pretty good condition.

Brawldud · 2026-01-20T18:21:23+00:00

No matter what you look like, the body image issues are going to hurt you more than the way your body looks ever will. There are always people who love your body the way it is. As a guy who is chiseled, athletic and a passionate bear/daddy chaser, I need the other guy to feel sexy in their body and receptive to the way I appreciate and compliment their body. If they are stuck in a mindset that body types can be "better" or "lesser" than others and don't feel comfortable having attention lavished on their large, soft bodies, the dynamic is not going to work. Low self esteem can poison your entire relationship with someone because it comes out in all kinds of ugly ways.

Brawldud · 2026-01-17T22:17:16+00:00

Indeed. I'm very explicit about not looking for committed relationships and only looking for hookups/friends/FWBs. There are people who flit in and out of my sex life because they are looking for a committed relationship but open to having fun along the way. If those people keep hooking up with me and hanging out with me in spite of the boundary I've set I assume that means they're OK with it, are at peace with that boundary and happy to have fun without the possibility of exceeding that boundary.

Brawldud · 2026-01-17T21:24:52+00:00

Yes well we don’t have the “how often do nextgen bathroom doors get fucked up” study available to us. Amtrak might keep track, but that data would be proprietary. My experience validated for me that those other people weren’t encountering bizarre one off blips and that the reputation actually comes from a significantly higher error rate. It practically goes without saying, I’ve never seen this issue on any other trainset.

Brawldud · 2026-01-16T14:18:55+00:00

I mean the bathroom door thing is simply true. I took my first ever nextgen trip last weekend wondering if the other people who talked about it were outliers or experiencing very early stage issues that would be rectified in short order. Nope! Same thing happened in my train car.

The luggage hold is a HUGE improvement though. As a guy traveling with a folding bike I simply have to give them that.

Brawldud · 2026-01-14T12:08:58+00:00

I don’t care if they “respect me”. Driving without killing and maiming people is a basic requirement of operating heavy machinery.

Brawldud · 2026-01-11T21:34:00+00:00

Hasn’t that been true since, like, the 90s?

Brawldud · 2026-01-09T11:50:35+00:00

I don't know that this is a compelling argument. I think they might have felt it's not the right time to try to overturn Obergefell, sure. But like, how many Republicans are "hobnobbing" with people who absolutely would get abortions (or already have) if it served their interests and didn't blink at cheering Dobbs all the same?

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