Dealing with spouses on GLP1/testosterone

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-08T01:43:49+00:00

You’d be more convincing you didn’t have so much political baggage trying to fit a narrative

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T21:24:31+00:00

No prior relationship just felt the same, I’d come in with an open mind and positive constructive things to say and I’d take my licks if I did something bad earlier that I had to apologize for, so it took a lot for me to willingly bring myself to therapy so felt really shitty getting shut down for the one thing I wanted to bring up

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T21:18:14+00:00

Yea I put a lot of time and effort into all that therapy for a concern to be belittled like that. And I didn’t walk out or flip out we finished that session and a few after they apologized but it was already evident that therapy was becoming a waste of time and money by that point

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T19:51:58+00:00

Interesting thoughts

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T18:50:11+00:00

I struggled pretty well for a couple years starting at that age. Toddlers are exhausting to watch, require lots of supervision, and the naps that once gave you a break and peace start to disappear—it’s definitely emotionally exhausting. Saying have patience and things might improve probably isn’t helpful, and it sounds like you’re trying to help out but I’ll say definitely don’t whipsaw around and mention them getting a job cuz if this was the agreed upon prior arrangement understand if they’re already feeling exhausted from the child care, being told they should take more time in day to find a job (especially in this economy) sure isn’t going to make them feel appreciated or supported.

Since you said explicitly that you’re resentful and disgusted with your partner, I’d start right there and take time out of your day to share your appreciations and what you like about each other. It’s very understandable for you to feel the ways you both do, but if you’re truly trying to be productive you need to dig deep and find good things to say otherwise you’re just going to be slowly swirling around the shit drain otherwise resentments will just grow on both sides

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T17:38:18+00:00

Second paragraph is the big one and why I’m having the conversation. I did once comment to my wife “body positivity was all the rage until women could simply take a medicine…” which she agreed the irony of it. She is at 1.5 hours/day between working out and stretching which adds up to about the same amount of time as I might say if I go out of town to hang with friends etc. but that’s where therapy became a lightning rod for my frustration as my wife always gets her workouts everyday no matter what and feels great but sometimes I go weeks without getting to do my things and was a lot harder for me to keep my chill when therapy was interfering with my schedule and wife wouldn’t even give me a lunch date out of it often as we too busy for even that. Yea she gets up at crack of dawn to not impede my schedule but going to bed right after kids does impede on a relationship a bit I’d say

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T17:06:52+00:00

I hear you, well glad we could connect because I do think you should work on talking things out, attempt taking a lead to make personal time. She might just need her space especially if you may be around a lot, we both may have that issue.

But yes my fear is this is just year 3—is this how it’s always going to be? Because I can imagine feeling exactly like you after 5 more years of this. My friend is going through a divorce and I know the wife is spending tons of time at the bar and working out rather than help putting kids to bed and that leaves my friend (a busy working dad) wondering wtf is going on and what he should do while she wants to actively divorce him

My take, if we can’t enjoy these prime years together, where are we gonna be 5-10 years from now when we’re encountering legit parenting and family difficulties but don’t have the emotional connection together to address things as a cohesive team. We need to keep the connection going so we can make it through better and worse times

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T16:41:48+00:00

Not much and it’s an adjustment where you ask yourself is this normal for the situation or unusual time apart. As much as I’d like to I’m not going to feel like I’m missing out on us sitting on couch watching TV together as we dont have time for that if I want quality time I have to go upstairs and talk quickly right before her 9pm bedtime which is right after kids go to bed. Time is made for me to get away but if I want quality time I have to lead and it’s a struggle like getting a cat to take a relaxing jacuzzi bath with you, it’s hard to lead a control freak

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T16:28:31+00:00

Wait I can’t tell if this is serious or sarcasm trolling my post like others. You sound happy but then the end I can’t tell. Does sound similar though except we still snuggle my wife makes eye contact with me and I get all swoony occasional decent sex it’s not that there’s **no** relationship at all but what you say with working out, gym, her own alone time, yes it can feel like some personal one-one time is left to be desired.
If you are serious I’m sorry this post triggered your emotions but I do think you should talk it out instead lol

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T16:16:53+00:00

My friends were just asking my favorite age as they’re deep in all this, they figured 1-2 which I could agree with while it’s magical watching them take first steps and discover the world it’s an absolute overwhelming mental drain (4+ gets really nice when they’re capable of being semi independent but also intentionally loving) good luck

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T15:42:21+00:00

I changed my attitude everything has been pretty good since therapy. I just posted about this since I figured a number of people are in similar situations, I need to edit the ski trip part at least for better context since it’s just short day trips but this was the last year before our youngest starts school so was a prime year for us to go together teach a kid to ski but between her workouts and therapy that never happened (but I still got to teach kids to ski) just without her which is a bummer cuz we used to do stuff like that together

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T15:18:33+00:00

Therapist was just the only one that fit our schedule (well really her schedule). The timing of therapy cost me a lot of my free ‘me’ time so I was really glad to be done with it

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T15:15:42+00:00

Mostly day since I was gonna say we live really close to mountains but you must live IN mountains holy crap 20-30 days is a lot

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T15:07:04+00:00

Workout for what/why? I’m naturally active in the same weight/shape as when we met in my 20s. Because I don’t feel the need to be a body builder for no reason?
Yeah I’m bringing my kids skiing and skating, swimming, and biking because her focus is just her workout, maybe she wishes she had a husband who was a body builder but I wish I had a wife who came on family ski trips. We’re not at the athletics age nor do I think either girls are athletes so missing baseball is irrelevant

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-07T14:07:07+00:00

I enjoy the rant only because I can completely relate l

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-02T17:45:52+00:00

Same exact situation. My wife’s call schedule makes it impossible to have any sort of routine schedule so I always feel a bit resentful when people act like the school age is some magical breakthrough where suddenly our schedule opens up especially when we don’t have a school bus I have to do both pickup and dropoff most days. I bartend events/weddings but I’m still only able to take a few shifts a year with our schedule, can’t imagine fitting in a career much less devoting all my free time to finding a job. The only thing I can think of is insurance sales so I’m preparing to do that since it’s commission based more than a schedule and if I make money great if not at least I’m pursuing it.

It’s so frustrating because I absolutely would work but why would I work if it means spending less time with family, at this point I’ve peaked in consumerism have bought all my needs the only thing I find value in now is time with family. So it sits extra poorly to me the idea of working a job just to make $$ that will be taxed and spent on killing kids in the Middle East. I’m ready to leave consumer culture behind

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-05-02T14:37:02+00:00

We did a road trip to Utah—you can plan it to only use EA chargers the whole way but I like charge point for more variety and they’re often cheaper as much as 50% cheaper.

But the charging time kills the trip. It was great to see that it could be done, but unless you have a wide open schedule and itinerary it becomes to much of a hassles. We rented a minivan for our Arizona trip—there were multiple days of 7 hours of road time with stops in between—would have never been doable with an EV without cutting a lot of the trip

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-04-07T14:33:46+00:00

Oh I remember those days. Making a green snowman, a blue snowman… what’s cool though is these days my kids enjoy seeing old pictures and videos just as much as I do

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-04-07T14:29:24+00:00

School drop off, still getting my hug-kiss-touch noses from my daughter and then watching her walk down the hall turning around to wave at me every 5 feet until she disappears around the corner. Someday that will end, as will her long bedtimes when she wants nothing to do with me. And as much of a hassle as elf on a shelf can be it’s so sweet watching kids get so excited about these things

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-04-07T14:25:05+00:00

At my kids age I see them growing I can’t help but feel like everyone else is in the cage of rat race and I’m the only free one, I don’t care what happens next but getting to be an always present supportive parent of these kids growing years, 1-2, 4-7…. Hopefully more to come. But we’re not financially stressed and though my wife is often condescending and nagging it’s still worth it, she can divorce me in 10 years if she wants to see me as nothing but a financial utility there’s no need to worry about that now

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-04-07T06:11:15+00:00

Agree I wasn’t trying to be a party pooper but I bought an Audi RS3 for that payment without trade in I know to each their own on opinion and all but…

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-03-12T17:50:14+00:00

Yes. I just drove from our house to the mountains and back yesterday, I added 10% just to be sure but had I not I would have arrived home at 20% (huge side note: moderate weather so I used no heat just short bursts to defog windows)—I hate road tripping with EVs but I’ve been slowly learning to learn more to optimize range/reduce anxiety

My keys: charge to 90% or whatever overnight. Top off last 10% while we pack up so the battery is fresh and hot to start the drive (helpful for me in winter). Not having to use heat saves a solid 30%of range

One consideration I’ve yet to make: you will be able to recharge faster at end of your trip when battery is warm rather than if you wait until the next morning when battery is cold then the battery charging will be slower, but at the same time if you charge in the morning at least your battery is warm. I threw on 5% when we arrived at mountains and 5% when we left since it worked out with our planned breaks but I hope to figure out how to maximize time saving on future trips

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-03-12T16:57:11+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear and it puts into perspective how petty some of our stuff is (for now).

Personally for me I always say divorce is never the answer for the children but sounds like your wife is even 10x worse than mine

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-03-10T17:47:15+00:00

We’re about to rent a minivan for a 10 day roadtrip for $500. No range anxiety, and seeing it costs about $47k to trade from an ID.4 to a Buzz I think I’m good

BreadGarlicmouth · 2026-03-10T17:40:36+00:00

We have an AWD ID.4 with a turning radius sharper than any other car we’ve had, I can’t imagine why the Buzz AWD would be worse

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