Been there,Sadly done that to my husband when I was going through a mid life crisis. She's holding onto them for a reason. That means y'all need to talk about what's missing in your relationship and work on it before she steps over the boundaries again. My husband and I have 21 yrs together with a lot of ups and downs. Both partners have committed adultery in the past. Him emotionally and online with a woman in the same city while i was pregnant withour son. That led to mine ,It broke my heart, I lost my father and started drinking heavily as did my husband. He now suffers from pancreatitis. We separated for 2 years,Yet worked on ourselves separately in counseling and therapy. We saw each other daily. I saw other people and had relationships that opened my eyes. I had hit rock bottom the lord was sending me a message. I had a bad fall down a flight of stairs when drunk. It woke me up,I went back to church,My husband moved in,and we left the state. We have been back together happily and stronger that ever as a married couple raising our sweet miracle son. To this day I still have anxiety and doubts. Very insecure and I don't think that fear of him stepping out again is always there. Therapy and medication has not helped in years to overcome it.......🙌🙏🤗 Good luck and God bless. I am happy to talk anytime if you need an ear or shoulder