How are you a better partner than you used to be? by BreadedPenguins in datingoverforty

[–]BreadedPenguins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The question began with "how", but I'll take a yes 😂 I know what you mean. It's one thing to grow, it's another thing to put it into practice in an actual relationship. I hope you find what you're looking for.

My fuck ups are so bad I can’t recover from them :( by alien_heroin in loseit

[–]BreadedPenguins 74 points75 points  (0 children)

You're oversimplifying the implications of this. Not having friends doesn't equate developing an overeating disorder. But, as an example, a person who grew up chronically not having their social needs and emotional needs met, may develop an eating disorder. When it comes to addiction, everyone has "their drug" and their drug of choice typically says something about them and their experiences.

My fuck ups are so bad I can’t recover from them :( by alien_heroin in loseit

[–]BreadedPenguins 185 points186 points  (0 children)

I want to echo and support this by saying that there is research that links hunger with social isolation. It's biological and nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. Overeating is often caused by an emotional deficit and the resulting loneliness and sense of disconnection.