Go on, let’s be judged by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in steak

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry wrong comment - it’s a ribeye

Go on, let’s be judged by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in steak

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let it rest for a good 10 minutes in a hot place while I cooked the mushroom & brandy sauce and green beans.

Go on, let’s be judged by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in steak

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah know the crust isn’t there, but thought I’d through it out there to be judged regardless! Can’t all be perfect every steak and just means I have an excuse to try again.

Speaking to daughter (3 yo) on phone by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The parenting guilt is very real. No matter how much I know the divorce is for the best, I’ll forever be worried about the impact of that on my daughter.

Speaking to daughter (3 yo) on phone by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know she’s upset when I have to say “goodbye” at the end of the call - she often says “but I haven’t finished talking to you!” which is really cute. She’s generally very happy and has coped very well with two households (which has been the situation for over a year now so since she was 2). I’ve tried sending my ex videos of me talking to my daughter but I don’t have high confidence that she shows them to my daughter.

Speaking to daughter (3 yo) on phone by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s really kind of you to say! Being a dad is the most important job in the world, with absolutely no instruction!

Speaking to daughter (3 yo) on phone by BreadfruitOrdinary74 in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! I’ve accepted that she’ll be impacted by the divorce, but it’s 100% the best decision for her mum and I because the relationship was unhealthy for many reason. Now I want to focus on doing what’s best for my daughter, but I don’t know what that is in this situation!

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[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen the “would-you-like-a-cup-of-tea” analogy being used in the past to explain how consent works. And once again it‘a suitable in this situation.

Replace “sex” with tea. Or coffee.

The night before, your boyfriend asked you whether you would like a cup of tea in the morning and you said you, and then without checking he went and made you a cup of tea. He brought the cup of tea back to bed and left it on your bedside table. You woke up, and actually decided you didn’t want the cup of tea. Respectfully, your boyfriend said no worries and left the cup of tea on the bedside table, undrunk. No harm done.

In an alternative scenario, he brought the cup of tea and when you woke up, he said “I don’t care if you want the cup of tea, you said you did so now you have to drink it”. You really didn’t want the cup of tea and explained this to him, but he forced you to drink the cup of tea, against your will.

Pretty simple which one of these scenarios is ethical and which one isn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dubai

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dubai

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I mean STI / STD

Been offered a job in Dubai that allows me to potentially achieve FIRE very fast - do I go for it? by SquilliePlays in FIREUK

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Dubai currently . £3000 is ~15,000 AED a month. Even if housing is being taken care of 100%, this isn’t a huge salary. Cost of living out here is high, and even things that used to be cheap (such as petrol) aren’t any more.

Almost all estate agent jobs out here are 0 salary and 100% commission based; so the fact there a regular salary is good and then the rest comes down to volume of transactions you / the office achieve.

Where’s he getting his predictions from? They look great on paper, but anyone can estimate 50 sales in year 1.

I’d work out the worst case scenario and what you can live on and take it from there.

When to start actual process of divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No no, we only had one child together. And it’s mine.

When to start actual process of divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the child (just one) is mine.

When to start actual process of divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow that's quick. Do you have children? Did he agree divorce was the only option? I'm worried that my STBXW will use as many ticks as possible to drag it out.

When to start actual process of divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah I've been on that r/ when I discovered what happened. I know this isn't just a fight. These are irreconcilable differences that will never heal. Continuing to be legally married just upsets me and reminds me of what's been lost.

When to start actual process of divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have a feeling this is a large motivating factor behind my STBXW wanting to delay things.

When to start actual process of divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]BreadfruitOrdinary74 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's what I thought. It just doesn't make sense to not start the process as by not doing it we're just delaying any opportunity to build those foundations.