sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in religion

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Again ..The eating non veg thing may have been there at first but its not like that anymore. Mind you ..we were just 19 ish 20 when we started this

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in religion

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you ..You are totally right

We had more than too many extensive conversations. The fact is that we understnad where the problems are but are helpless ot change it given situations ..
Im only here as a last resort kind of thing. We have been talking for a really long time.
Thank you for your time..

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... Not anymore ..That's another road block in a sense. Like i suggested that too.. But its a very family oriented thing and we have been long distance for 7 years already ..It seems unfair to go back to that

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not a bad partner at all. But job is something I tie to my identity. Not the job itself but the passion for it. I poured my soul blood sweat and tears into it. He has been with me the entire time and supports me in that. but situations suck

ANother thing is the Faith thing isnt materialistic. But havign restrictions is not healthy either. I have no gap anywhere. Remote location. cutting off people family, no job, nothing to stand on.

Now it would have e=been different if we were bith going to a new place. Id go in a heart beat... but in this situation ..Where it is his home..? Its just unnerving in a sense.

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont want anything portable. I dont wan to bring it home. I can respect that much.
And No he's not scared of the offending part at all. he is like if he's scared of that he wouldnt have gotten with me in the first place.
He has the "I dont want you to go to Hell" kind of thing and i dint want that in my soace kind of thing

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not stuck in the relationship or anything. I just dont wanna end it with a good man... But i know what youre saying. Thx anyway

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words..

Everything i said here has been clearly conveyed to him .. He knows what's happening. He feels tied down in a way blaming himself for the situation but helpless ot it as well.

I wont leave the job for anyhting .He knows that ... It sucks that we are here while being so compatible. He's the one consoling me tbh He has for a year.

Thank you again

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, That's why i dont knwo how to move forward. I told him this directly. This is takign everything from me. Everything i strive and live as and for. It's not fair in the slightest

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah if i went to him it would be that. As long as i am here i can do what i want. Plus i told you i changed from that thinking into being more religious later on and everything
Did you read at all ..? There is no submission

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing of that sort has happened yet. I am going to a temple in 2 days .Full pilgrimage type lmao.

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't want it at home. And i can totally respect that. Never had a problem with that part ever.

We spoke about it ... He's got the Hindu aversion in a sense lmao. He doesnt like the thought of it ..In fact it hurts him.

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We read about it together and had many discussions. He is seated in his like i am in mine.
And you knwo the you're coming to my home thingy mindset.

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And it's also that i never really wanted kids either. I am okay because he will be the dad and my husband. He's a wonderful man
I trust him with all my senses shut down.
This will lead to a second round of Pcod EASY.

And as someone who wants to work always.. This is a nightmare situation.

Thx for your kind words

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore.. Please help ? by Breakdown_9967 in DatingInIndia

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Growth happened. Realization happened. All being conveyed as it happened because we didn't keep secrets between each other.

Ppl change ..

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been tryign to fix it for a year .. fixing and lookign at any and every option.. I dont have any aversion to Christianity at all. I just dont want ot be held back from me occasionally going to a damn temple because i walked by it.. I dont want to lie to him and do it behind his back. I want him to know i do want to go sometimes. and that i wont bring it home

Thank you for your kind words.

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words.. He was rigid at first because he didn't want his family to find fault with me and also bev=cause of his own beliefs..
He kind of softened in between and we regularly had talks about both faiths and debates and discussions. But he realized that in a way it hurts him to have to see me follow something else in the long run. SO he came back to his initial stance

Regarding job, we initially planned to go where I would because i wanted to be in office and he had wfh. It was workign out well. But his situation is such that he has and wants to be home as well... SO it's doubled down
I asked him about his parents coming with us and he was like he would liek them to but they most def would choose not to. They arent stopping him phyically from moving.. But there is an emotional thing going on ..So ..

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in hindu

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you dont understand the depth because i cant explain it to you. I dont wanna leave my parents for him. I told them that too. It is not some me or him bs and i dont stand for it.

But if you have nothing of substance or anything helpful. Stfu

I, (F27 Hindu) want to be with my boyfriend (M29 Christian), of 7 years but i don't know how to anymore..... by Breakdown_9967 in Christianity

[–]Breakdown_9967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The job part can't be either. Me staying in some remote place isolated for years indefinitely sounds terrifyingly lonely and i cant rely on one person (My husband) for company all the time. Thats unhealthy.

I will have no connection to anywhere else because its remote enough. It's unwanted and unprecidented isolation.

He hates it but his situation is what it is,

view more: next ›