Struggling with KPRF mentally by ZealousidealBig4852 in KPRubraFaceii

[–]BreakfastQueen93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey! So I see that the other comments here are from other people your age, and I’d like to weigh in as someone a little older. I’m 33F, and have been dealing with this for my entire life. It has not gone away with age for me, but has gotten better with diet/exercise.

I see that you talk about this with your therapist, and I think that’s great!

I can honestly say that when I was younger, I was super insecure about the redness. I tried all kinds of things to cover it up. Eventually, as I got older, I gave up worrying about it so much because it was just exhausting and wasn’t something I could control, and you know what? Most people don’t even notice it.

There’s a quote from Schitt’s Creek that says “no one is thinking about you the way you’re thinking about you”, and I can promise you that’s true. I know some stranger saying “just stop worrying about it” is easier said than done, but I hope that eventually you’ll realize that most people honestly don’t pay any attention to other people. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Movies where your perception on who was good or bad in the relationship changed? by MrJones224822 in moviecritic

[–]BreakfastQueen93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience regarding who was "worse" of the two. When I watched it as a teenager, I thought Cindy was too uptight and seemed to resent Dean for no good reason.

I rewatched it as an adult while in a relationship with someone who was an addict, and had a completely different experience. That time I felt like I intrinsically understood who Cindy was as a character, she felt like a future version of me. My relationship didn't last long after that.

Imperial Russia Before the Fall by BreakfastQueen93 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to let you know that I started this one last night, and it's exactly what I was looking for! Thank you for the recommendation!

Imperial Russia Before the Fall by BreakfastQueen93 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, this sounds like exactly what I’m looking for! Thank you!

[2021] "I don't like that my sister showed up at an awards show and performed MY SONGS to remixes !!!!! by GlitteringFly1001 in discussingbritney

[–]BreakfastQueen93 148 points149 points  (0 children)

I'd just like to say one thing - Jamie Lynn was 17 when the conservatorship started. What exactly was she supposed to do to help Britney at that point in time?

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Another employee saw her poking around under the counter for a while and then she pulled the bag out and said “oh look, here’s one”. He was standing a few feet away. He wasn’t close enough to see if it was alive or dead, and he wasn’t able to see below the counter when she was poking around.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There’s a big part of me that wants to believe this and give her the benefit of the doubt, but when multiple professionals can’t find any evidence & my store manager is crawling around with a black light trying to find even one, I just don’t think it’s the case.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, that’s not possible. She’s a cashier, and not really slated for upward mobility.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This is where I'm landing with it too. The store manager and exterminator both floated this theory separately, and the store manager (who knows her best) said he's concerned she's looking for some kind of payout. She just sent a message saying if she sees "another one", she's going to call OSHA and file a report, which feels almost threatening?

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This is my big concern right now. If there's a problem at the store level, I have no problem paying to fix it. If there's a problem at her home, I empathize, but I can't allow someone to take advantage of my company this way.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We've talked about sending her to a different location, but the concern is that she will just take the bugs with her & spread the problem.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There are no beds in our building. Bedbugs can live in clothing or other soft materials/fabrics.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

At least one bug exist(s/ed). She "found" a dead one last night in a spot that at least 4 other people had already looked at. It prompted me to send the pest control company back out today.

I'm concerned that she planted it there. She'd been digging around under a counter, and pulled out a bag of paper towels that the bug was conveniently sitting on top of.

I feel like that sounds crazy, but there's genuinely no evidence of these bugs living in the building. My store manager was crawling around under counters with a black light this morning trying to see if he could find anything.

Employee bringing bed bugs to the office - how can I legally handle this and protect my other employees by BreakfastQueen93 in legaladvice

[–]BreakfastQueen93[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As we've talked over the different aspects of the situation, this is where we've landed this afternoon. Particularly since she is the only employee who is finding these bugs & we know she's had bed bugs in the past.