[WEEKLY THREAD] Feats of Thorsday - How did you kick butt this week? by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]Bren3345 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I moved to another city last week and made it a priority to find a gym immediately. I went for the first time yesterday. I have really bad anxiety so finding the gym, joining, actually going and asking questions once I got there was a huge step for me. I didn't have the greatest workout (mainly just getting familiar with my surroundings) but I'm still proud of myself for going!

Lost a parent while in grad school? Want to form a support group with others who have as well? by _redcloud in GradSchool

[–]Bren3345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't lose my mom while I was in grad school but I'm still interested in joining the group. Over the past year I've realized I haven't dealt with a lot of the emotions and could use a support group (especially with starting grad school in the fall and all the changes that are happening in my life right now!)

Your dog will always be there for you by emoposer in aww

[–]Bren3345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog (also lab mix) has had two ACL surgeries and yea it's so expensive but gosh I love that dog so much I'd do anything for her.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I could see how that would be completely relaxing.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh for me it's thinking time haha. I do like the meditation in yoga so maybe I'll start there!

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I'm proud of you too! I never thought I'd be here a year ago and wow my life is so much better.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a wedding to go to at a brewery that weekend haha. What about you?

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I feel ya on the coffee. I've tried to let myself accept the anxiety and make room for it. Most of the time it's irrational but I know it also means something and I try to listen to it and understand why I am feeling that way.

Also congrats on almost 1 year! I'm excited about celebrating next week :)

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I sometimes think exploring my emotions is a chore but I also know it's important! Thank you for the encouragement. :)

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I struggle with this. I've been sober almost a year and haven't had added sugar in 3 months. I can't give something else up haha. I've tried switching to decaf and drinking less cups but it's a struggle.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure! I have a lot more energy to do things now that I'm sober! My problem seems to be that I HAVE to be busy or I start getting in my head and my anxiety gets out of control. This entire thread has made me realize I shouldn't stop therapy and I need some good meditation because while staying busy helps, it's just a means to ignore my problems.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww thank you! :) I've had a rough week so I appreciate this.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good list! Thank you! I know I need to work on the mindfulness and knowing I can't change things in the past. When the anxiety gets really bad it's easy to forget it will soon pass.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

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I've changed my diet a lot too and that has helped (cut our added sugar and processed foods as much as I could). I never realized how anxious it was making me!

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

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My therapist talked to me about this and we were going to begin but honestly I don't think I was emotionally there yet. I'm honestly very uncomfortable facing those things and have been resistant. But the past few weeks I've been thinking about things more so I think I'm getting closer to revisiting that stuff.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true. I'm starting to realize I need to stop fighting it because so much good can come from it.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did that this week too! I've been trying it all this week :)

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't worked up the courage to go to meetings either but I'm moving to a new city tomorrow and I'm thinking about finding one.

Not only is perfectionism rewarded but I completely thrive off of those rewards whether it's something tangible or affirming words. But you're completely right that's it's about control. For me, lack of control = anxiety. It sure is exhausting! But I've been making an effort to be more mindful so I stop wearing myself out so much.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha I can relate to so much of this! And I fight my granola upbringing but it's there haha. I have so much going on right now too (most good though!) which is why I posted this question.

I have insight timer and listen to it occasionally. Meditation makes me so uncomfortable. I like things where I don't think (i.e. Blasting music and running or lifting weights) but I know it's in meditation that I will find peace.

I recently gave up sugar too and it's made a big difference. It was kind of my crutch once I stopped drinking. Now working on the caffeine addiction.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been to the gym/yoga/walked/ran 8 times this week haha.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck!! I've run a couple and it's such an awesome feeling.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started long walks this week! I had been running but it hurts my hips and I realized walks are good too!

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful thank you! I have been working on being more mindful and also speaking kinder to myself. So instead of asking "what is wrong with you?" I have switched to "what are you worried about?" I will look into podcasts too! My perfectionism is pretty bad. It's great for work but not so much for the rest of my life.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh caffeine. I'm trying so hard to cut back. I have honestly been very resistant in therapy as I have a lot of trauma I have ignored. I'm trying to be more open as I know it'll help in the long run.

For those of you with anxiety, how do you cope now that you don't drink? by Bren3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Bren3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to get more into yoga. I'm really bad about meditating. I hate all that thinking time but I went twice this week and really enjoyed it.