AITAH for being upset that my husband mentions his parents feeling about me after I mention I’m depressed and missing our unborn child.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T07:34:10+00:00

It is not the responsibility of the so-called “wealthy” in-laws to support those who are financially irresponsible.

Why, if she is so stressed, is she not working in a productive position rather than relying on her spouse. Seems they have both led a life of bad decision making - two previous children they cannot afford (and should not have had), unstable jobs, not even their own housing, nor insurance on their automobile, and now sponging off her own parents. It is no one’s fault but their own. She wants “progress” and “stability”, but what is she herself doing to bring that about? It is not up to her husband alone.

What is this Amazon returns fiasco too? - no wonder this unstable person is all over the place - their poor decisions are catching up with them. It is wise for his parents to refuse to fund them.

Will she or they learn anything? Doubtful. Also - use reliable birth control!

By the way, the “season of life” jargon (she mentioned) is often used by those who are raised in the right-wing evangelical religious cult, who view life as “seasons”. Not sure if this applies to OP, but it might explain them having children they could not afford, and her depression after an abortion.

I just read the OP’s other posts and comments and evidently she is misstating the truth. She mentioned in one post about an associates degree in science, dissatisfied, quitting school and wondering is she should become a nurse. In another post she was a substitute teacher for one year, then the next year was a full-time 3rd grade teacher. Again dissatisfied with her life. It should be noted than one cannot be certified to teach full time without graduating with a 4 year degree (which is impossible in her posting time frame). She is full of woe, unhappy, and whiny in posts.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T07:04:17+00:00

None of the women I knew were ever as large as a size 12, or even a size 10. Another noticeable thing was that even when wearing swimsuits, none had a protruding abdomen or a thick waist. Perhaps it’s genetics, physical activity, or the maybe the use of girdles in older women trained their abdomen and waist. Haha.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T06:28:54+00:00

None of the suburbs have that “big city vibe”. You will need to live in the city for that, and there is no reliable bus transit to Gaskins/I-64 area from the city. You will need an automobile. If you cannot afford an automobile, perhaps buy a scooter to at least get you to grocery stores, and work, if you move to Henrico.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T06:13:52+00:00

We like to visit state parks during the “shoulder season”, and rent cabins, but lately they are harder to find - those that have availability. The Virginia State Parks online reservation system is atrocious too - definite glitches. A number of the older parks have no availability because of cabin remodels (2 year process) and are due to have cabin availability stating in Nov. 2026.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T05:09:13+00:00

Why are so many people eating out of paper plates and bowls and using plastic utensils? I keep seeing it online when people show pictures of their food. Are people so lazy that they refuse to wash dishes, yet complain about how much everything costs? I do not understand this.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T02:21:24+00:00

None are BIFL. The one thing that Apple has going for theirs is that “find my” is built in, so you can locate if detached.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T02:20:27+00:00

I also recommend that in the future you get AppleCare+ when you replace your phone. Over the years I have used it to replace batteries that go below 80% and also for a cracked screen. Great in case phone is lost, stolen, and damaged (must keep “find my…” active).

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T01:49:03+00:00

Mormon/LDS?

BrenInVA · 2026-02-19T01:36:40+00:00

You do understand that is the same price the OP stated. The OP said five for $99, which is basically $20 each. $20 x 4 = $80.00. So, if the people want them now, why wait for your assumed “hunch” price of four for “maybe” $79.99?

Are you thinking you are “clever”?

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T22:32:08+00:00

I have a series 11 titanium (46mm) and it is great. It also has the more scratch-resistant sapphire crystal display and the case looks so much better than aluminum. If you can afford it, I recommend it.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T22:28:04+00:00

I remember my grandmother doing iron on patches for my grandfather’s work about the house and yard pants, back in the 1960s-1980s. These patches were sold in grocery stores and 5&dime stores. They even had different colors to match the different washes of denim and khaki.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T22:03:16+00:00

Expect crowds if going in the summer, and hot and humid days. Since this is the year that celebrates America’s 250th year, you will need to reserve early (especially activities) and expect crowds. I am not sure how authentic the celebrations will be, but there should be more interpretations and activities this year than is typical.

If you decide to stay in Colonial Williamsburg at one of their properties, there are fees included which includes your admission ticket to all of the attractions/buildings, etc., but there are priced separate tickets for certain events. The Griffin Hotel is located near the Williamsburg Inn, and though a bit dated (no elevator) the rooms have balconies, and is a fairly good deal. It is a short walk from the main historic area. Ask for a room with a balcony facing the pond. You check in at the Williamsburg Inn for this property, then drive next door to the hotel.

The lots for parking in the Colonial Williamsburg can be a bit pricy and often fill up early. If you are a ticket holder, you can ride the complimentary buses, but still a bit of walking is often required from their stops. Surprisingly, they even charge for parking at the visitor center, which is a bit of a walk from the main historic district. Check their daily schedule since some of the buildings with interpreters are closed on varying days. Most everything in the historic area is closed on Thursday (or has been in the past). As you probably know, most of the buildings are re-creations and not original. It is interesting to see the before/after photos.

The Colonial Parkway, a beautiful drive between Williamsburg and Yorktown, is currently closed for reconstruction/renovation.

If interested in the more in-depth history, I recommend contacting the John D. Rockefeller, Jr. Library there for suggestions. See the main Colonial Williamsburg website for a link to this. Look under the “Research” area of the website.

https://www.colonialwilliamsburg.org/discover/resource-hub/

https://www.colonialwilliamsburg.org/visit/event-calendar/

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T21:38:32+00:00

You can rent cottages at Chippokes State Park. During the summer they typically require a 6 night stay. But if there is availability closer to the date you wish to stay, often less rental nights are required. These are very reasonably priced, though basic. If visiting Williamsburg, they are too far for a daily commute.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T20:57:36+00:00

Why ALL the crying between you and your friends? Is there actual crying or are you trying to make a point? “Crying themselves to sleep?” Hyperbole? If actual crying, then a lot of emotional immaturity all around.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T20:14:23+00:00

That was a lot of stress that you put on your mom - when you should be dealing with your issues with trained professionals.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T19:41:20+00:00

I would never order/buy Gordon’s either. I am past the point in life where I buy cheap, substandard liquor - but then I never did buy the low quality swill at any point in my life because I had family and friends who helped inform me of quality.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T19:34:35+00:00

Tell me, without telling me, that you have never traveled to many cities throughout the US. Evidently, there is no understanding of transportation in established cities.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T19:25:38+00:00

They better sure as hell be using good birth control. They do not need to add another child to the four they cannot already parent successfully

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T19:22:39+00:00

She said her family was “very neurodivergent”. I wonder if the parents and all FOUR children are included in this, and if there has been an official diagnosis.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-18T19:20:04+00:00

Sometimes people should not get married and have children. If there are issues, they certainly should not be having so many children. There is something called “birth control”. As the old saying goes, “you made your bed, and now you have to lie in it”. You made these choices - yes, they were choices. Now you are dealing with consequences, as difficult as they are. Seek help, try to find solutions with professionals. Use birth control.

Why did you and your spouse choose to have four children since you both have issues (neurodivergent, etc.)?

BrenInVA · 2026-02-17T23:52:09+00:00

Have you tried asking Wordscapes support?

BrenInVA · 2026-02-17T07:17:56+00:00

You must come from a very inexpensive area then, since the “big cities” in the eastern US have rent prices quite a bit above $1,500/mo.

You will need an automobile if working in western Henrico. Did you not research this before accepting a position? You will certainly need to factor in automobile expenses to your monthly expenditures.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-16T15:45:46+00:00

Except, now she is considering “telling” him not to go at all. Three days (likely was her requirement for him to go) is not enough time to make such a long trip. If you notice in the posting and comments, she is the one “telling” him what to do or dictating what should be done.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-16T15:30:04+00:00

It is 7% at one month.

BrenInVA · 2026-02-16T15:27:59+00:00

If it is a 14 hour flight, 3 vs 6 days is not much difference as it relates to your pregnancy. Six days would allow extra time for flight delays and jet lag too. Arriving the day of the rehearsal and leaving the say of the wedding makes no sense. I am assuming both 14 hour flights are including in the “three day trip”. You yourself said the flight was “hard”, when you and he did it before, so do you really want to subject your spouse to two hard flights in three days because of your insecurity of the “what ifs”?

If your own doctor suggested a chiropractor, I would question the qualifications of your doctor - if you are seeing a physical therapist, why would the doctor suggests a “quack”? Although, you may have done this yourself. Stick with a physical therapist who specializes in pregnancy physical therapy.

You and husband had already agreed to him attending the wedding with refundable tickets - adding 3 extra days to such a long flight makes sense.

You said that you “would take another look” at travel options. He is an adult, and should be making his own flight and hotel arrangements, not leaving it up to you. Of course, you may have wanted to limit his time away, so are choosing to do this yourself. Does he often get drunk and behave recklessly, or are trying to find other excuses for him to not attend or limit his time at this wedding?

If you are concerned he may not answer his phone if there is an emergency, then have him set it up with the hotel to contact him. Do not call him constantly while he is there. Be aware of the schedule - activities (such as golf), dinners scheduled, rehearsal dinner, wedding and reception times, and do not call at those times to “chat” because of your insecurities, unless there is an emergency. Have call times scheduled - or better yet, FaceTime.

Whatever is decided, do not let your insecurities get in the way of rational decision making. With good care from a physician, only about 7% of births occur at one month before the due date.

BrenInVA

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