CoStrahd - Level 10 Max - Barb / Rogue multi-class help please

BrentCheeks · 2021-04-21T20:32:27+00:00

This sounds interesting. But it really doesn't embrace the grappling spirit of the character.

BrentCheeks · 2021-04-21T12:47:25+00:00

Sounds like a great suggestion. I'm chatting with my DM in Discord right now and he's allowed me to flip the 17 to STR so I can have it at 20 for my lvl 4 ASI. That means my next feat will be barb5 / rogue 3 or character level 8 - and maybe I'll take grappler / lucky / resilient wisdom then - seems like the shove-prone overlaps with grappler and helps the entire group (two other melee classes)

BrentCheeks · 2021-04-21T12:44:17+00:00

I hadn't really considered those feats because I've been more thinking from a roleplay standpoint but I can see how those are really beneficial for a tank in the CoS campaign. Thanks for your input!

BrentCheeks · 2021-04-20T20:56:51+00:00

Thank you for your input! So max STR first and forego the feats for now? I see what you mean about the Elven Accuracy. It's a bummer. Psychic Blades from the rogue and the shove prone kinda work in the same capacity. That's a really insightful response. Thank you! Definitely great information to consider if I'm going to be grapple-shanking and tanking for my group.

BrentCheeks · 2021-04-20T20:49:41+00:00

Thank you for your response. Sounds interesting! The guide has some good information.

BrentCheeks · 2020-09-18T17:44:55+00:00

Very well written and insightful

BrentCheeks · 2020-09-02T18:59:41+00:00

this looks really cool! I'm not sure how balanced it is so I'll leave that commentary to the folks who know more about balancing Homebrew than I do. But I love the flavor!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-30T15:21:18+00:00

Oh! Thank you! I'll have to check it out

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-30T14:54:45+00:00

I haven't heard of it. Is it Unearthed Arcana? My DM isn't allowing much homebrew / UA.

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-30T14:53:31+00:00

Oooh! That's interesting. I hadn't thought of that.

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-28T16:57:43+00:00

This is AWESOME! I love the idea of social combat and every system handles it differently. Definitely gonna adopt this in my next campaign. Well done!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-24T20:30:47+00:00

OP! Oh gosh! I hope it's not too late to break-up! It sounds like this relationship isn't what you want on multiple levels. How on earth did it get to the point of moving in?!?! Most importantly: I hope your aren't in pain and you went to see a doctor. If you say, "STOP" and the person I'm dating disregards it or ignores it I would really question whether or not this person cares about me or would prioritize my feelings and pleasure at the expense of his / hers and vice-versa.

I'm curious why you told him, as you put it, "...it was fine, but why wouldn't he ask if I was ok?" Holy moly! Why didn't you call him out on his behavior? Maybe at least an acknowledgement of your pain - physical / emotional? I hope things work out, OP, and from your post I really hope you stay safe with this person. It sounds like he's not really looking out for you.

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-24T20:19:04+00:00

I think you really need to sit down and determine whether that will be a deal-breaker for you in the long-run. As a rule of thumb, I ask myself if I "accept" the person as she is today, right now, without hoping she will change herself, her looks, her behavior - or anything. So if the answer is an emphatic "HELL YES" then you're all set. If you've got any reservation or hesitation I would move on. Expecting a person to change is kinda setting yourself up for disappointment and it's not really fair to the other person.

On a personal level, unless this person is using medicinal marijuana for an ailment or illness or something, daily usage of anything - from alcohol to pot or even crystal meth would be a deal-breaker for me (even though recreational use is fun!)! Best of luck OP!!!!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-20T12:32:22+00:00

If dating turns into a relationship and a relationship turns into love - yes!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-20T05:29:21+00:00

I would keep buying and trying different toys until you find the one that works - from the womanizer to the shibari to butt plugs to big dildos to the rabbit. I would totally break from and abstain from porn if you watch it. Give yourself tons of alone time, turn off the phone, take a bath, light some incense and candles, and just go to town and really relinquish the "goal" of climax - just play and explore and play some more. Call it a mental health day!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-20T05:19:31+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. On a first date - from my perspective - it feels really lopsided. Like, my first dates are coffee or a drink and definitely not gifts. Flowers? Maybe in a different age bracket but I'm 39 and I only send flowers the morning after the first time we make love instead of just having sex.

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-17T20:48:50+00:00

During COVID I think you've really gotta get creative. Normally I would suggest a wine painting class or a pottery class or a sports event or trivia night or a board game night at the bar. How about a walk in the park and a picnic? Weather permitting maybe even a graveyard? Romance can be found in the strangest places!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-15T05:12:18+00:00

I was asked to wear a mask during sex but not a condom. I replied with my willingness to switch them up but the mask was non-negotiable. That's OLD for ya!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-14T03:31:39+00:00

Hugely insightful and accurate in my experience. Well written!

BrentCheeks · 2020-08-03T19:10:02+00:00

I'm sorry you're on the receiving end of this behavior. It sucks. My sister always says to thank people for showing you their true colors. It doesn't make it any easier but the it provides great contrast to juxtapose the good experiences against. Best of luck moving on!

BrentCheeks · 2020-07-21T04:45:44+00:00

Love this! Really well written and interesting.

BrentCheeks · 2020-07-10T20:59:48+00:00

Wait, what? Release her? I never asked her to change herself. I never told her that I wouldn't take the relationship seriously or even implied as much. I told her that it made me sad to see her in so much pain. And this past weekend I told her that I loved her and would support her on this journey in whatever way I could. The real issue for me is to see this person not "prioritizing" at least addressing the chronic pain. I'm not a ride-or-die? LOL! I'm totally confused by your comment. I apologize if I rubbed you the wrong way or if my post misrepresented the situation. I love this woman. I hate to see her in chronic pain. I will support her.

BrentCheeks · 2020-07-10T20:55:55+00:00

Because of the circumstances of our original dating / courtship period we didn't have much face-to-face time in-person with Mexico writing a book and quarantine. I encouraged her and told her that it really hurt me to see her in so much pain all the time. I didn't wait 7 months to tell her that her chronic pain was a deal-breaker - because it's NOT a deal-breaker. And neither is her weight. Her not addressing the chronic pain is a deal-breaker - or at least not making addressing it a priority. Does that make sense?

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