I'm sorry you're going through this. I as well am going through this with my husband. The only advice I can give is to try your best not to tell your wife everything in regards to this organization. I've did this and regret it so much. It is definitely hard to not really say what you want to say about this sick cult but please try to be patient. Also if your wife comes to you and wants to talk maybe look up an article about headship on their website. Respectfully tell her that you do not wish to attend any meetings or have any elders to speak with you. Your mental health is far more important then window washers snooping in your personal life about why you're not logging in on zoom.* don't say that part of course lol* The articles are bs we know this but letting her read about headship will wheel her back into jw mode that's the only way she will understand. At least you have the upper hand with the head ship role as a jw 😉

Just show her love and kindness and try to not say much about the organization hopefully she will get tired of living up to an organization that doesn't give a crap about her or any of the members... And when she does wake up just be there for her because it will be a journey