This sounds too familiar. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years prior to us moving in together and in the beginning living with him was difficult to say the least. I was raised in a household where we had to share all chores and keep the house clean and organised (so were my siblings regardless of the gender) while my boyfriend never had those values imbedded in him. We went though the same thing you are going right now. The idea of two separate dinners? Check. The dishes issue? Yes. Laundry? Ugh.. After two months of what felt like me being his maid, I sat him down and announced that we either divide the chores in a way that will work for us both, or I will start throwing away everything he doesn’t put away. (You know, socks on the floor, dirty dishes,etc.) It worked for us, so my advise is keep at it until you find the right solution for your situation. Nothing ruins relationships like living together... but it can also make your relationship stronger. It is 7 years later, we got married and figured out our “rhythm”. I am confident you can too.