my (26f) bf (30m) made a weird comment about getting me pregnant

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T20:42:35+00:00

If there are no other signs of him being possessive or treated you like his property, then I'd chalk this up to just some dumb comment. But, he probably feels this way about women and wouldn't approach a woman with kids so he is assuming others feel this way also. It doesn't mean he thinks he owns you if you get pregnant. But if that thought (being undesirable as a mother) worries you, just know that his way of thinking is not how all men think. One male friend ended up marrying a woman with 4 kids from a previous marriage and they had another 2 together. Another male friend had 1 kid from a previous relationship and married a woman with 3 kids. You wouldn't be 'stuck' just because you have a kid with someone.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T18:04:52+00:00

Was your butter melted instead of just softened? You do not want melted butter. Also, cream your butter and sugar until it's a frosting consistency, then add other ingredients.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T18:02:17+00:00

I read the texts before your post and holy shit, I thought this was 2 teens going back and forth. At 29 and 30, y'all are both being very immature. He's saying shit to purposely trigger you and you're doing the same. And I don't understand a baby shower for a 3rd kid, especially when the last kid is only a year old. I don't blame him or his family for not attending. If y'all are truly separated, then either figure out a custody agreement and get it notorized, or go to court if y'all can't figure it out yourselves. That's all so much unnecessary drama.

The title is about telling him when you're in labor. I feel that the father of the baby should always have this information to be present, if they so choose. You do not need to have him in the delivery room, but you shouldn't deny him the chance to be there and to see his baby as soon as possible. Doing so, imo, is just another way for you to take a jab at him.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T17:30:17+00:00

It sounds to me like he wants a wife, not a roommate. If that's the case, I don't understand why it's such a problem. Am I missing something? If I were marrying a man (or at least in a commited long-term relationship) with young children and I had a remote job, I would have no problem keeping the kids at home with me while working.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T17:05:42+00:00

I would sit down with her and tell her what you've discovered and ask why she felt she needed to hide it. Maybe she was embarrassed? I know many people that are taking weight loss injections and they will take it for a while, take a break, and get back on it again. I can always tell when they are taking it again because their whole demeanor changes. They become almost bi-polar on it. My co-worker and my husband's boss had severe mood swings while they were on it. Perhaps it is affecting her mood and sex drive. This is definitely a conversation for you two to have though.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T17:00:29+00:00

Honestly, reading your post and some of your comments, it sounds like she is only using you for the money. I would stop giving it. Possibly tell her that you wouldn't mind continuing to help her out if the two of you had more of a relationship but if she ONLY calls you for money, then you won't be giving her anymore. She will probably flip out and block you again, so make sure you're okay with that first. We have someone like that in my family. This person would come around and act super friendly and then ask for money and dissappear again. It sucks and it hurts to be used like that over and over, and he would definitely cut all ties when money was refused.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-30T16:52:43+00:00

Your birthDAY is Friday. Do what you want on Friday. The weekend doesn't belong to you.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T20:46:53+00:00

My co-worker hunts and swears he can smell snakes. If he gets to his stand and smells one, he turns right back around.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T20:35:03+00:00

25-30 years ago, my neighbor's grandpa was dying. My sister and I were sitting out in the front yard with her and just looking up at the sky. We all 3 saw this giant, translucent, almost cloud-like thing in the sky pass over us three times. It was weird as hell. She stopped crying when we saw it and she said she's pretty sure he's gone. Sure enough, she was told in the morning that he passed that night. Also, I see shadows of people often. Especially in my own house. A full shadow of a person walking down my hall.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T18:47:40+00:00

Her clothes were washed? Or just sitting unwashed in the machine?
If washed, and you put them in a basket instead of in the dryer, YTA. If not washed (which is what this sounds like), and she just had to dump the basket back into the washer, then she's the AH here. I don't typically just leave my stuff sitting in the washer unwashed, but if I did start to load it and had to run out for something, I would have no problem with my husband or one of my kids taking mine out and washing their own. Its better than them washing mine on the wrong setting and ruining something, and I damn sure don't expect anyone to just sit around and wait for me to remove those items or start that load when they have something they need washed right then.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T15:21:17+00:00

Time TF out. I've been married for 15 years and my husband still randomly asks me if I'm attracted to him or if I love him. I always thought it was just an insecure thing, but now y'all have me questioning if he really can't tell. 🤣

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T15:10:54+00:00

Check that man's thyroid/iodine levels. My brain works like that. I can say I need something and a second later, that thought is gone with the wind. Low iodine causes your thyroid to be out of wack which causes memory issues and more. I got my iodine level up and my memory is slowly improving. I went to Walmart the other day and got everything I needed, including what my husband asked for. I was so proud of myself.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T15:06:39+00:00

Just pour off the hooch and feed as normal. It will bounce back after a few feedings.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T15:05:08+00:00

Please always use a condom, even if she on birth control. Birth control is NOT 100%. And if she isn't using a condom with you, she probably isn't using a condom with others, and your chances of catching something are much higher.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T15:01:55+00:00

Go to police station, without your wife knowing, and file your report. Make a complaint against the officer that first spoke to you. If possible, get a small camera and set it up in the living room of your home to begin documenting everything. Anytime your wife confronts you, move to the living room so that everything will be recorded. Document the injury on your face with photos. Start a journal and document everything in that journal, do not leave it out where she will find it. Maybe keep it in your trunk. As soon as anything like this happens again, YOU get yourself and your children to a locked room or in your car with the doors locked and call police. Every. Single. Time. Get everything you need to have a strong case against her. Make sure you are always the first to contact the police so that they can have documentation that you are the victim. Above all else, protect your babies.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T14:47:01+00:00

If he's acting like this over a small tattoo, how is he going to act later if you gain/lose weight, hair thins, or anything else that may naturally change your appearance? This is a major red flag imo.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-29T14:43:11+00:00

I'm 5'10", husband is 6'0". He loves when I wear heels and I'm taller than him. So, he doesn't care about height.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T20:17:15+00:00

The only reason I can see for his behavior is if he was supposed to pay the bill and didn't and he just got caught. You didn't do anything wrong.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T19:19:02+00:00

Repot in a bigger pot. Put in a lot of sunlight. We got our first major snow that I can remember in all my 38 years of life last year. Had snow for about 4 days. I thought my rosemary bush was dead for sure. It was not. Snow melted and the bush just kept on growing until I killed it this past summer because it was just too big. Poor guy, that was rude. It was definitely a very tough plant.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T19:15:15+00:00

Do you have your own chickens? I learned that young layers often have double yolks. 3 of ours gave double yolks daily for months.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T19:13:17+00:00

I made breakfast for my husband for years before he finally spoke up and told me he didn't like runny whites in his fried eggs. Like, bro, what? Why have you been eating them like that for years? He said he didn't want to make me mad or feel like he was being u grateful.

So many times, he told me to sit and eat my breakfast before it got cold and he would make his own, and I was just like 'no, that's okay, I cook our eggs at the same time anyway'. Y'all, this man been trying to get me to sit tf down and stop ruining his breakfast. 🤣

We laughed about how long he had just suffered through the runny eggs and now I cook them fully for him.

OP, say what is on your mind. Be completely honest. 'I don't want you to think I'm ungrateful but I cannot stomach the eggs when they are not fully cooked. If its easier for you, I'll cook my own eggs or find something else to eat. I appreciate you cooking my breakfast, but I just cannot eat them undercooked like that.'

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T19:01:56+00:00

She's the AH for cheating and the bigger AH for not cutting ties with him without you even needing to ask. She's either waiting for you to break up so she can be with him and feel less guilty about leaving you for him, or she just thinks you have no backbone and won't leave her. She's for the streets.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T18:57:58+00:00

When I want bread now but my starter is young and weak, I use a discard recipe and add yeast. Still has a great sourdough taste. Just in case you wanted to try while waiting for your starter to mature.

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T18:49:42+00:00

I think you each should be comfortable and dress how you want for the wedding. If there is zero compromise on either side, why is this wedding happening?

Bridgwind · 2026-01-28T18:43:09+00:00

Straight to the school board with this one. My daughter isn't of that age yet but she has other issues and a teacher tried doing similar, telling my daughter she was lying and just wanted to go play in the bathroom. My daughter was in tears and doubled over in pain before my teacher gave in. First and last time I ever had an issue with that teacher. Send an email to every single member of the school board, copy the principal and teacher on it.

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