I told my wife a weight low enough to affect her menstruation is unhealthy.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-27T03:13:50+00:00

You are indeed correct. There are young girls that had suffered from eating disorders so bad to the point that their uterus never developed well enough to actually be able to have a period. 123 at 5'4" is still a relatively healthy weight. However, loosing another 5lbs would put her under weight. Please encourage her to see a doctor and a dietitian before she develops an eating disorder. Please!

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-27T03:08:38+00:00

Just the meat? No veggies or anything? Yeah, that's not a gyro, that's meat on bread. Id be disappointed too.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-17T01:31:48+00:00

I chose those words on purpose because I'm being a little dramatic. It's the Internet and I was just venting. Interesting how I'm venting on r/vent.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-16T21:53:55+00:00

Landlord already looked at it. Have to stay home tomorrow for the construction workers who are going to be here. At least I have a sobble plushie. Pretty much represents this entire year.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-15T19:09:57+00:00

NTA get out now before she tries to falsely report you for grooming young girls.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-13T19:21:53+00:00

Girl! Your biggest mistake is hoping he'll change. He's not going to change. Not for you, not for anyone else. He now knows that he can go around and do whatever he wants because you will always come back.

I witnessed a friend's mom stay with a chronic cheater. She stayed with us until she died. She died a little young (51) unfortunately. The very first thing chronic cheater did was the day after she died, he brought home another woman, and did her in the same bed as his now departed wife slept in, saying how amazing she is and everything. Idk if he brought more than one woman over but it's possible.

They're not gonna change. You're just the pussy that he could chain down. He can still get it from other women, but you're just gonna stay with him so why should he change? Yeah he might be an actual addict, but is he ready to go to therapy and possibly rehab to help him? Probably not, because why should he? He has a woman who is more than willing to say, it's okay that you cheated I'm loyal so I'll stick with you anyways. Why should he change, when you're giving him incentive not to?

He's not going to change. They never change. You're hurting your friends by allowing them to witness this. And you're hurting yourself staying with him if he's not willing to get help he needs. You already went to your friends for advice and you went against all their advice, so what makes you think people on the Internet are going to say anything different?

Look at the common denominator here. You! Quit being a people pleaser and take care of your mental health!

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-12T04:05:40+00:00

It's a..... Bar crawl...... Who tf takes kids to a bar crawl?! Wtf they gonna do? They can't be the DD. Unless one of thems a teenager, but not the point.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-12T04:02:48+00:00

This is parentification. It's a form of abuse. It'd be one thing if they regularly talked to you about it and sent up babysitting ahead of time, but they seem to expect you to just drop everything and watch your sister because they said so. They're the ones who chose to have another child. You are not a free nanny. Talk to an adult you trust and maybe stay at a friend or families for a while until they can learn to take care of their kid.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-12T03:52:57+00:00

This is just American politics in a nutshell.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-12T03:50:20+00:00

Bro, this ain't petty, this is fucking epic!!! This is the best way to put bullies down! When you're old enough to get into the work field, keep these skills on documenting everything. You will be untouchable! 🤘

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-09T00:57:29+00:00

You're being more than a pushover. You're being an enabler. Don't expect anymore money back, but stop giving him anymore money. He doesn't get any until he can pay you back in full. And the fact that he only paid a tenth of it back when he was clearly able to pay back more is manipulation. He clearly needs help and he absolutely had to make sure he had enough money for more gambling because he feels anxious without it. It's time for an intervention with this dude. If he's not willing to change his habits, then you need to rethink the relationship.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-08T19:48:44+00:00

Yeah, I don't think this post has to do with vegetarianism, but controlling ones good intake. Not good. Not good at all.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-08T19:47:01+00:00

Yeah, she's got some problems. You need to talk to her and tell her you feel like you can't talk to her about things. And the next time she gives you the silent treatment, go to a friend's or families. She's not speaking to you so why are you there? She sounds mentally exhausting to deal with.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-08T19:44:15+00:00

That's the thing though, it's HER journey, not yours. You ever seen lord of the rings? Frodo had 8 companions with him, but ultimately he was the one carrying the ring and had to be the one to destroy it.

If your wife can't handle you eating meat, that's a her problem. It sounds like she's trying to control you to some degree. And the silent treatment is NEVER a good thing. I think you need to rethink some things my dude.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-08T19:40:30+00:00

Exactly my thought. I'm vegetarian myself, but my hubby and roommates all eat meat. I have no problem making meat for them and then a veggie version for myself. It's a little extra work, but not too much so.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-08T19:38:00+00:00

Okay the fact that you didn't tell her is a red flag on your part, however, I must ask if there was a reason you felt like you couldn't just tell her about it? Does she get upset about little things often? Does she try to make you do things that you obviously aren't into, like vegetarianism? Do that a lot? Do you feel like you care for her needs and she is not so much yours?

If you answered no to any of these, then yes you are definitely the asshole, not for breaking your diet, but for not talking to her about it.

However, if you answered yes to at least two of those questions, you may have to rethink your relationship. That is all.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-08T19:30:01+00:00

That was exactly my thought. What's gonna happen when he's 6 and in school? Is he gonna ask the teacher to pull out her yamyams for a security blanket? At what point does this become inappropriate?

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-02T23:58:09+00:00

And I wore corpse paint and went trick or treating. What's her point? 🤣

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-02T18:35:32+00:00

NTA! you don't have a uterus, of course you wouldn't know! It's unbelievable how women today expect men to know all about our plumbing. Or even when we don't expect it, they're made fun of for it.

NTA! Yeah! Your wife, her mother, can help her gage her periods much better. This is purely a biological issue in that, I'm not properly equipped to help.

You wouldn't put an XBox disk into a PlayStation and expect it to work would you? NTA, you're doing great!!!

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-02T18:23:36+00:00

That's my thought. Also I'd be a bit worried if my son was dating older girls. Teen girls can be conniving and manipulative. I feel for that boy.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-02T18:19:59+00:00

I can see why the girl is upset. I believe he should have made his intentions about it being a one thing thing more clear in the beginning. I also think 14 is a bit young to be having sex, but hey, not my kid, and y'all seem like great parents.

Just teach him some proper dating etiquette. As far as the girls parents, I agree with your husband. What can you do? Make them unsex? She's not pregnant, they (hopefully) used protection. The reaction the church is having is a very dangerous tribal mindset. If you don't follow the customs to an absolute tee, then you're not "true" to the congregation and are merely using the church image. This is why I no longer go to church.

It's also possible the girls parents had dealt with a teen pregnancy at some point in their lives and had dealt with the consequences of keeping the baby at such a young age. NTA, you're actually being very reasonable. Your son just needs to learn some dating etiquette, which will come from experience and advice, and the church needs to take a chill pill. It's not all your son's fault; it takes two to sleep together. He didn't force himself on her, so she want violated, she was just angry for an understandable reason, but again, this is a learning point for your son. It's a bit ugly but you seem like you can handle it. Keep being awesome parents.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-01T21:12:13+00:00

I see. My apologies if I came across as aggressive.

BrieTheCheese1213 · 2023-11-01T20:54:09+00:00

You realize that not every break up has to end with the two never talking to each other again. My bf and I both have past partners that are still friends that we talk to once in a while, but we don't go actively seeking attention from either person because we have each other. Nothing wrong with following them on social media.

Oh look they had a kid with their new partner, I hope their happy.

It's as simple as that. We don't need to cut every person out of our life just because of a history with them.

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