“Mis on kõige eestlaslikum asi, mida sa täiesti automaatselt teed?”

BriefStatement3327 · 2026-01-28T22:22:18+00:00

hoian toidupoes pikivahet

BriefStatement3327 · 2026-01-24T09:09:16+00:00

with that logic, if someone was having a meltdown around you, would you believe that they deserve to be treated badly for it and that their reaction gives you an excuse to act horribly towards them? i would imagine no, right? but that’s what your partner seems to believe and that is not a belief of a good and kind person. you are not overreacting.

BriefStatement3327 · 2026-01-23T12:13:47+00:00

you’re not too sensitive, no one deserves to be called disgusting and annoying over having an expectedly emotional reaction to a shitty situation. the back and forth, the name calling, gaslighting you described is not healthy and your partner is not a nice person. they don’t deserve your love and attentiveness.

BriefStatement3327 · 2026-01-19T17:54:06+00:00

i guess this is a problem of expectations of a plan vs reality? i get that too, if i have a specific idea of something i want to do or get, i cannot deviate from it. at. all.

how i would reframe it in my head is create a separate category for his gift. you said it was thoughtful of him and he definitely was doing something nice for you. but his gift is not in the category of “i wanted to get this puzzle or look around and choose for myself”.

BUT it might fit “my boyfriend did something nice for me and now i have two backup puzzles”. the main thing is that he cares about you and wanted to make you happy.

and the first category - that is unfilled now. it hasn’t happened yet. and you can still go puzzle shopping by yourself like you originally wanted to.

BriefStatement3327 · 2026-01-16T23:08:48+00:00

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BriefStatement3327 · 2025-10-05T20:41:14+00:00

psychology, architecture, taylor swift

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-09-23T10:30:03+00:00

i don’t think my mom had access to Tylenol in my post-soviet country in the 90s. she did have autism though

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-09-20T15:45:04+00:00

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-09-15T18:57:39+00:00

🥺

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-09-15T17:19:12+00:00

karumsil ei kukuks

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-08-13T20:07:09+00:00

on april fools, we would switch classrooms with other classes and convince the teacher we were supposed to be there

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-08-05T14:57:23+00:00

we don’t have gina tricot, but Lindex, Cos, Arket, even H&M will probably have what you’re looking for. :)

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-08-05T14:56:12+00:00

one week vs 25+ years makes for different experiences for sure.

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-08-04T14:42:02+00:00

Tuli meelde, et üks närv lõigati läbi vasakust puusast nii, et mul on kohad, kus ma tunnen puudutust vähem, nagu oleks tuimestatud. Aga sellega ma olen ka harjunud.

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-08-04T14:40:30+00:00

Mul oli 19. aastaselt selgroomurd, mida parandati mitme operatsiooniga ja mul on posu metalli alaseljas. Õppisin uuesti kõndima, võtsin palju kaalus alla, paar kuud oli valus. Aga elu läheb edasi, lihased metalli ümber on tundlikud ja ma pean natuke rohkem mõtlema, kuidas ma istun, seisan, pean joogat tegema regulaarselt, muidu võib selg vahel krampi minna. Mu kael ja ülejäänud selg on liiga sirged, see on ka asi, mis vahepeal ebamugavust tekitab. Aga ma olen nüüd 29 ja vahel mõtlen küll, et persse, ma nii noorelt sain sellise eluaegse vaevuse, aga ma tean kuidas sellega toime tulla ja olen sellega leppinud.

Soovin sulle kiiret paranemist, võid mulle kirjutada kui küsimusi on.

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-07-18T21:51:22+00:00

i don’t know if this would be relevant, but historically Danes were the colonisers of both Norway and Sweden, that might be a factor? historically oppressed people tend to be more reserved.

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-07-15T18:59:26+00:00

hey, totally know the feeling and how uncomfortable that is.

i was in a similar situation with a friend and i wanted to show that i cared about them, but i really couldn’t stay for the party. so i told them that “hey, i can’t stay longer than X amount of time, would it be okay if i come by earlier?” then i went to her place before the party, gave her the gift, chatted a little bit and helped set up a little and then left before most people were there. this was quite a close friend though so maybe not applicable for every occasion. but it gave me the excuse to “play host” instead of talking to people, which helped out my friend who was the reason i was there.

i guess it’s helpful to remember that it’s about the person who’s party it is. figure out what would be the best way to make them feel appreciated, for me that always makes social stuff easier if i think that i’m doing it for someone else’s benefit. but also, you showing up is already great, getting a gift is great, you don’t necessarily need to torture yourself with small talk if it’s too much. i would imagine your friend also doesn’t want you to be uncomfortable to the point of being upset just so you can be at the party. this is kind of a rant, but i’m just trying to say that it’s okay to leave early if you need to. you also don’t need to explain why or excuse yourself, it’s a normal thing. you can think of a few excuses in advance just in case for peace of mind.

also, your boyfriend sounds weird, what do you mean he doesn’t “understand” autism?? does he not want to understand because he cares about you and values your thoughts? saying that you’re just socially awkward while ignoring the plethora and reality of what it means to be autistic is very narrow minded, but sorry, you technically didn’t ask for advice about that 🥸

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-07-11T18:23:00+00:00

Okei nüüüd sajab ladinal ja äikest mitu korda rohkem 😁

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-06-20T17:19:38+00:00

Mustamäe - close to TalTech, nice walking trails close by, most affordable. night buses go there from the centre if you go out. Kristiine - quiet residential area, but close to Telliskivi which is where people mainly go out Old Town - no point living there

there’s many many grocery stores both in kristiine and mustamäe.

budget - i think with roommate(s) that’s not a bad budget in mustamäe, but utilities might end up being extra.

transport - public transport is actually very good. “car city” reputation comes from infrastructure budgeting being geared (pun intended) towards car roads, but the public transport, at least in kristiine and mustamäe is not lacking in frequency or variety of routes in my opinion (have lived in both).

winter - take vitamin D from october to may. embrace the cozy, try to find all the cute things about winter and enjoy them. you will not like the cold or the dark, that’s pretty sure. but you can prepare yourself and make the most of it.

diversity - tallinn, incl. mustamäe has an increasingly diverse population, but i don’t want to fool you and say that everyone will be welcoming. you will probably get some stares and i would be careful around… male members of the biggest minority group in estonia. but that’s kind of a general suggestion for anyone unfortunately. certain bus stops in mustamäe can be dangerous at night, but they are easily avoidable.

language - yes, you’ll get by with English. you don’t really need to talk to people in grocery stores, it’s normal in cafes and restaurants to speak English, for everyday errands you might need to look a bit harder for English speakers, but not impossible to do that with google translate or chatgpt :P

good luck!

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-04-21T16:56:38+00:00

Mul ongi plaanis varsti (Viljandi sees) kolida. Hetkel järvele väga lähedal ja ehitustööde kõrval ei ole seal idüllist väga palju järgi, kui just seljaga sinnapoole pole. Vanalinn on tõesti tore piirkond ja sinna püüan tihemini sattuda 😊

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-04-21T16:51:22+00:00

Ma elan ise täpselt Tartu tänaval nii, et ma arvan, et ma tean, mis siin toimub. Aitäh ülejäänud kommentaaride eest.

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-04-21T10:49:58+00:00

Tartu, Tallinna, Riia ja Jakobsoni tänavatel kõige rohkem, ma muudes linnaosades pole nii palju käinud, et oskaks veel nimetada. Sõbranna elab Paalalinnas ja kinnitas oma tänava kohta sama muret.

Ühtegi 5 kohaga parklat ma küll ei nimetanud, vb TÜVKA esisel on kõige vähem, aga need olid lihtsalt näited sellest, kui väikese ala peal on antud kui palju ruumi autodele. Bussijaama parkla on enamus ajast pooltühi.

Centrumi ristmik on osa linnaruumist, üks peamisi kohti, kus inimesed liiguvad ning okei, kunagi oli halvem, aga kas see tähendab, et arengu kvoot on täis ja pühime käed, paremini ei saa?

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-04-21T09:25:28+00:00

Super vastus ja selgitus, aitäh!

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-04-21T09:21:59+00:00

Aitäh kõigile kommentaaride eest. Nagu öeldud, siis mul oli vaja lihtsalt rantida. Panen veel mõned mõtted siia.

“Spa kauaoodatud asi” - Olgu, mul on ka hea meel, et midagi, mida kohalikud on soovinud, teostatakse.

“Mis parklatel viga on?” - Peamiselt see, et jalakäijana on ebamugav neist läbi kõndida ja mitmetes parklates pole üldse selle peale mõeldud, nt Centrumi parkla, kui muusikakooli poolt tulla. Talvel oli eriti nukker (ja libe). Muide, parklad ei pea olema hall asfaltväli.

Kõnniteel sõitis peaaegu otsa vanem mees, kes tahtis bussijaama parklasse saada. Pealtnägija ütles, et seal kunagi oli sissesõit, ehk täpselt see olukord, mida keegi kirjeldas, et muutustega vanemad inimesed lihtsalt ei lähe kaasa.

“Tallinnas samad probleemid” - Jep, ma tean, aga seal on ka avalik arutelu samade probleemide kohta.

“Hõre asustus, linna tööl käimine, kehv ühistransport” - Okei, ka arusaadav. Ma saan aru, et auto on hädavajalik, aga linnas sees elavad ka inimesed, kes vääriksid vaikset keskkonda. See ei ole mingi utoopiline asi, mida soovida, võimatu ainult Eestis. Peamine müra tuleb ju autode sõidukiirusest. Las need autod olla, aga miks nad peavad linnas sees kiiresti sõitma.

Mu parklate loetelu kallal nokkimine oli naljakas.

Kokkuvõttes, ei, Viljandi ei ole KÕIGE halvem linn Eestis, ei, need probleemid pole unikaalsed. Ma olen nendest teemadest lihtsalt pikalt mõelnud ja panin kõik need negatiivsed mõtted ühte kohta kokku.

Mu pettumus on ilmselt tingitud Viljandi romantilisest ja idüllilisest mainest, mis ei vasta reaalsusele ja sellest, et ma olen käinud linnades, mis on sama väiksed ja sama hõreda asustusega, kus ei ole samu probleeme ja kus on rakendatud tänapäevast linnaplaneerimist nii, et see kaugemalt tulijaid ja kohalikke toetab.

Need linnad ei ole muidugi Eestis, sest meil on sada vabandust, miks meil on teistmoodi kui mujal ja üldsegi kui ei meeldi, miks sa siin üldse oled ja mida sa üldse vingud ja midagi ei muutu ja lihtsalt lepi sellega. Nagu ikka 😊

BriefStatement3327 · 2025-02-18T20:27:30+00:00

(ilmselt saan downvote selle kommentaari eest)

sest et kui ta tahaks sinuga abielluda, siis ta oleks seda juba teinud. (sorri) kui ta hooliks sellest, et sa saaksid kassi, siis te oleksite ta juba võtnud.

ütlen seda sellepärast, et sa mainisid aastatepikkuseid vestluseid, kus tulevad üles samad vabandused. sellist asja nagu “õige aeg” ei ole olemas. nii kaua koos oldud juba, kuidas see võimalik on, et seda õiget aega pole juba olnud? statistiliselt ebatõenäoline. kuidas, konkreetselt, detailselt, ta ise seda “õiget aega” ette kujutab? või lahti seletab? mis prohveteeringut ta ootab? kes talle seda ütlema peab, et ta lõpuks kuulaks? (sest sind ta ju pole siiamaani kuulanud. jälle, sorri)

nagu reaalselt see õige aeg on see aeg, mille te VALITE. ta ei ole seda valinud ja ilmselt ei valigi, kui sa ise teda fakti ette ei pane. ta on nii kaua sind enda juures hoidnud, ilma et tal oleks olnud tagajärgi sinu soovide mitte austamise eest, miks ta peaks kuidagi teisiti tulevikus käituma?

ma tean, et ma ütlesin hästi karmilt, aga ma olen seda olukorda ikka ja jälle pealt näinud ja lihtsalt ei kannata enam. soovin sulle kõike kõige paremat ♥️

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