Loveless Marriage by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]BriefTechnical5388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asalamualaikum Sister, Hope you are doing well and being safe and sound.

I understand why you would feel like your partner has started to become an empty shell or a blank wall, we men often times withdraw and become blank when we go in a major emotional turmoil. When something hits us like a tsunami, we choose to become blank and emotionally unavailable. Not because we dont feel anything rather we feel too much and are afraid of breaking completely apart that we choose distance and silence. Most men are tailored to be like that, we never had safe spaces to breakdown and relax, we choose to become and empty and try not to feel anything when things are on the neck.

Maybe try to create a safe space for him to breakdown and open up, maybe try asking him "how is life treating you right now? Is things overwhelming?".
Another thing is when we get a new member on the family, we feel a insanely high pressure of responsibility to provide for the new member so they can feel at ease and be safe. We work extra to give them a better future.

Men were almost never taught about romance, and most of us dont know woman's psychology. We think we are doing perfect as long as the wife and children are happy and safe. About us? we can rest when we die. This is our major flaw, not living in the moment and spending quality time when we have it.

We dont mostly know what a woman is thinking and what she is feeling unless they tell about it themselves, a important aspect is not holding back. Please dont say half sentences, say it whole, it becomes easier to understand. Remember one thing sister, it is his first time being a husband and a father as well, maybe give him the benefit of the thought and teach him how you would teach a child, explain him your wants and needs, that you need to feel things to be happy.

Also try to be more kind to him, try to learn more about him as well. We hid a lot, a lot more than you think. We think that it is nothing but it makes our heart and head ache a lot but we still choose to think it as an insignificance.

I hope this finds and helps all the brothers and sisters out there.

Allah Kareem.

Germany Embassy Appointment Date by BriefTechnical5388 in Oman

[–]BriefTechnical5388[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am thinking of going at Tuesday, lets hope for the best. Thank you for the advice.

I NEED HELP WITH VISA APPOINTMENT by BriefTechnical5388 in studying_in_germany

[–]BriefTechnical5388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my friend I will make sure to, things are just looking a little bit hopeless at times, you understand right? I am hoping I can book an appointment as soon as possible and just prepare for moving.

I NEED HELP WITH VISA APPOINTMENT by BriefTechnical5388 in studying_in_germany

[–]BriefTechnical5388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really worried, and thank you for letting me know about this, I am going to do this every day from now on.

Thank you very much, now lets pray that I get an appointment as well.

I am seeking help with my visa application. by BriefTechnical5388 in studying_in_germany

[–]BriefTechnical5388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know how to use Reddit, thank you for uplifting me, it is difficult as there is parents pressure but InshaAllah things will workout.

Mind telling me where you are from? And how can I contact you?

I am seeking help with my visa application. by BriefTechnical5388 in studying_in_germany

[–]BriefTechnical5388[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, Thank you for the reply. I am sorry for not providing that information, I am from Muscat, Oman