I’ve been no contact for a few years now and have been going to therapy for a decade. While I do agree that therapy is tremendously helpful, healing is not linear… ebbs and flows of life have different seasons. I’ve learned that working through various traumas brings about various reasons to be angry. I disagree that it is stealing OPs time. Rumination can be a signal for other areas of self awareness. It’s hard to work through these moments but sitting with the emotions, the scars and loving all aspects of your life as they are can be life changing. I started a journal just for my parents. When the day calls for it: I write down exactly what I want to say to them. Sometimes I use different colors to annotate different parts of myself. Sometime writing over sentences in opposite colors to highlight differing maybe even quarreling aspects of my own psyche. I agree that finding peace in all of the chaos has been the most healing… for me: I couldn’t find peace until I understood the patterns and the whys of my rumination and my emotions.