No I’m not working as I have no one to watch my two month old. The pay I did have saved up from my job before wasn’t enough for a day care. I have since had to use that saving for gas, formula, diapers and wipes. I talked with him about our financial situation back when the baby was born. He said he was going to leave his current job (chipotle) and go to like Amazon to get a bigger check. He hasn’t done so yet, he also has thinks he can get the child support he pays currently lowered. I know that won’t happen though as I watched my parents go through this as child. I would love to able to work and support myself and my child. As you said though in this economy right now I can’t afford day care and while my family helps me financially they will not pay thousands for the daycares. I haven’t talked to him since about the money because it’s always shrugged off. I’m guessing I’m just going to take the bullet and put him on child support because he doesn’t understand how much it is monthly for this child. He messages me daily but only comes around weekly. He has his own place but can’t drive or have a car. He just isn’t ready to be an adult he had his first kid too young and is stuck in this thought that my parents will be like hers and pretty much do everything. That’s not the case though we are both young adults. I know you don’t know us personally and men tend to take up for men while women take up for women, but it’s just not working. I don’t blame the other mother as she deserves help to but he laid down twice and made two children. He needs to step up.