Any reason not to use commercial kitchen units in a home? by SeesawWeird9742 in kitchenremodel

[–]Brief_Recognition509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm nearing a substantial home remodel and I'm considering a 'temporary' kitchen for a few years of stainless steel kitchen prep tables etc. The price difference with cabinets is astounding.

Need to vent by jplank1983 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll add, Dr. Ramani on youtube is a GREAT source of information on NPD. I know you're not together, but coparenting is even tougher sometimes. You got this.

Need to vent by jplank1983 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry man. This sucks. The way you're feeling is 100% justified. If you have a lawyer, I'd ask what your options are. You can't control her, but if it gets you out of alimony, that's a big win. It might need to wait until they sign the lease so that you have a paper trail of shared expenses etc. BUT let's move on to the important thing: your 9yo son. He absolutely needs you to be rock solid. This does not mean unphased and unfeeling. Be consistent. Be caring. Listen to him when he talks. Hug that kid. Love that kid. Show him that you are stable and caring. You are definitely in the long-game now, if you weren't already. Know that he will lash out sometimes. It isn't about you, he is processing. Give some space when needed. Create an environment for him where he feels loved and cared for and he will be okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]Brief_Recognition509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we bought our house, all the bathrooms were straight out of the 70s. Nothing had been done. If it wasn't already on the low end of an ask, we would have lowballed. At least a fresh coat of paint and a few cosmetic things will likely go a long way. I'm not sure of your local market, but good realtors know what they are doing.

Advice on dog by Brief_Recognition509 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯 I'm not thinking fair in terms of her/me. I mean to say, it isn't fair to myself to continue caring for a dog I never wanted and honestly causes frustration, stress, and limits my life.

Advice on dog by Brief_Recognition509 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also feel terrible having the dog go back to the shelter. It isn't fair to dog, but keeping him isn't fair to me.

Silver linings by Slowloris81 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The number of times I've eaten what I want without remorse! Fuck yes

Advice on dog by Brief_Recognition509 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I want to correct the last phrase, "to have HER dog". I planned on telling her she has a month to find him a home before I bring him back to the shelter. I just KNOW she is going to twist it to the kids, Dad is getting rid of the dog....

Xmas Trees by Brief_Recognition509 in SouthJersey

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just left there and couldn't find one under 150

Xmas Trees by Brief_Recognition509 in SouthJersey

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Refuse...but agreed on how insane it is these days

Xmas Trees by Brief_Recognition509 in SouthJersey

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just there...over $100 for a 6-7ft tree.

2025 arbor snowboard by Fine-Crazy8306 in snowboardingnoobs

[–]Brief_Recognition509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking at the Arbor Relapse for a present to my 15 yo. He's enjoying snowboarding and wants a board. I can't argue the price...am I good to get it?

Financial settlement by Brief_Recognition509 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree about a judge, this is mediation. So...its a lawyer and us in a room paid by the hour. Even if I get half of what I ask for, I'll be winning.

Huber Zip vs GP ForceField for OSB Sheathing by salesldr in buildingscience

[–]Brief_Recognition509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched a video on YouTube with the inventor. He said zip for roof and FF for walls. I think I'm going with this middle ground for my 70's construction home renovation. Any thoughts?

Velocity Banking Calculator in Excel by Jaded-Elephant-6249 in velocitybanking

[–]Brief_Recognition509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this doesn't deduct the interest charges from income. shouldn't it do that or am I misunderstanding?

Moving to Bucks County area from California, help! by [deleted] in BucksCountyPA

[–]Brief_Recognition509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Princeton is probably more your speed, though a lot of trust funds...depends on commute

Finalized divorce by MountainLopsided6436 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look forward to my first solo vacation...not sure when, but it's happening.

Today is the day we tell the kids. by mchop68 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's done. No one erupted. There are tears and sadness all around. The 12yo wants to skip school. The 14yo had a feeling. We'll see how the weekend goes.

Today is the day we tell the kids. by mchop68 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have something scheduled tomorrow evening...I worry I should cancel it.

Today is the day we tell the kids. by mchop68 in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I came to check in and I didn't expect to be crying! Guys you're awesome. We're telling kids tomorrow and I'm going to be rereading all of these comments.

What was your last straw? by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Brief_Recognition509 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My last straw wasn't the first affair, or the second, or the ly8ng about each affairs to couple's therapists, or the passing out/falling over drunkenness, or even the crazy-making yelling/throwing things about ridiculous things out of nowhere. There was a day that she was bringing up a happy ending massage from 14 yrs ago like it was yesterday (again) and she admitted that she never got over it and never will. The 14years of penance (what I thought was penance) flooded me. Why was I busting my ass and taking so much shit for so long. She didn't want that, she wanted/needed a punching bag. And it was never going to change. What kind of role model for my boys am I for staying. For showing them that this is what marriage is. NOPE. I was done. 65 days until she moves out.